(Closed) Spin-Off: Would You Go To An Event Without Your DH?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 62
    9680 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @ClassicCorvette:  When you say, “event” it sounds like a big deal. I wouldn’t go to a function without my husband but if I was meeting my sister for coffee, I’d be fine to go alone. Having said that, if we were both invited to the function and he had to work, I’d consider going depending who/what it was.

    In the other thread, the husband wasn’t even invited, which is the part I find rude and off-putting. We are capable of deciding who goes where, but our friends shouldn’t be trying to decide that and only inviting half of a couple. We socialize together for the most part so I suppose we are one of those couples who annoy you. 

    Post # 63
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Heck yes, I’d go anywhere without him– UNLESS he was being excluded for some reason. Then I’d be pissed as hell and would not go.

    Post # 64
    8573 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It depends on the event. A wedding, if he wasn’t even invited, I wouldn’t attend. I would find it pretty rude for him to not recieve an invite.

    I’ve attended social functions for my work without him, it’s not a big deal.

    I don’t ever go to the movies/dinner alone though.

    Post # 65
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would definitely go anywhere and everywhere without FI! And I probably wouldn’t even be offended if he didn’t get invited to something I was or vice versa. In fact, he was invited to some fancy lawyer benefit/gala thing tomorrow and I wasn’t. Am I offended? Heck no! I’m glad I don’t have to go!

    Post # 66
    2624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @ClassicCorvette:  I would go to a wedding w/o my Fiance. There are some events/places, however, that I would not go to. Sometimes we have conflicting shedules but that wouldn’t stop me from supporting a friend if I had the time and finances to do so. 

    Like many PPs, I WOULD NOT go if he was being purposely excluded though.


    Post # 67
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Like a lot of other bees, my answer is yes unless he’s being unreasonably excluded. Obviously if it’s a girls’ night out or something, I’d expect him to be excluded! haha I’ve gone to weddings without him because he couldn’t make it (i.e.: it was out of town and he couldn’t take the time off from work).

    However, a couple weeks ago he was invited to a wedding and I was not. This couple knows me, knows that we’re engaged, and they’re having a large wedding. Neither of us will be attending.

    Post # 68
    841 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @ClassicCorvette:  If it was a sitaution where for example we were both invited to our best friends’ weddings on the same night or something then we could go separately. I like to do things with him but I’m not one of those people who can’t function without him. Probably because we’ve been in an LDR so many times throughout our 3+ years together (including right now).

    Post # 69
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It depends.

    Would I miss my BFF’s wedding because she couldn’t invite DH? No. But she’d also never do that; she knows we’re a couple, she’d find the room.

    Would I miss a distant cousin’s wedding because DH wasn’t invited? Yep.  Because we’re married, and it would feel gift-grabby and cheap for someone I’m not very close to to invite me without him or vice versa.

    With important events like weddings, yeah, I think it’s important that you either invite both or neither. 

    That said, of course we do things separately.  We each have our girls/boys nights, and he goes out without me a lot because I’m more of a homebody, and I’m ok with that.  I’ve also gone to big events solo because he travels a lot for work. If we’re invited together but for some reason he can’t go, I’m not going to turn down an invitation I can accept.  But the important part is the invite.

    Post # 70
    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @ClassicCorvette:  I go to events without DH fairly regularly, but I think a wedding is in a different class somehow. I would definitely be offended if my DH wasn’t invited to a wedding with me, but I doubt that would happen in my social circle, as the only people who’s weddings I would care to attend are friends with both of us.

    Post # 71
    2861 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    In regards to the other thread I find it ridiculous the number of people who wouldn’t go because zomg we are a social unit and he was excluded. Big damn deal, seriously. I’d say who cares but obviously some people do. I just can’t fathom giving a shit. I do things solo or with feirnds all the time, I’m not joined at the hip or about to miss something important to a friend over etiquette. 

    Post # 72
    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We try to go places as a unit, but there are certainly instances where one of us has to attend something alone (a work function or other social function where one of us has to work/ has other plans) or wants to attend something alone (he doesn’t want to go catch up with a girlfriend over coffee, just as I don’t want to go watch football with him).

    I don’t mind that in the slightest, despite preferring to attend events/ social functions together we’re more than capable of being alone. I would be hesitant to attend an event or social function where my Fiance was specifically excluded though.


    Post # 73
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @ClassicCorvette:  We dont mind going to events alone.  We dont have to do everything together.  He has gone to a wedding without me cause I couldnt get off work. 

    Post # 74
    486 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @ClassicCorvette:  A large event (wedding, large party, etc.) I wouldn’t go without my Fiance. It’s simply because, if it was important enough, he would be really upset if he wasn’t invited/couldn’t go and he would never tell me not to but I wouldn’t out of respect.


    As for lunches, shopping, etc. I do actually have a life away from my Fiance. So I plan things without him sometimes. If he was with me every single time I did something I would probably lose my mind.

    Post # 75
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @ClassicCorvette:  Depends on who it is for. I went to the youth pastor’s at our church without him because he was working but my kids were in it.

    If it was a family member of mine I would definitely go if he didnt. However, I would never go to something with his family without him and I doubt I would go to a friends without him.

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