Post # 1
Hi bees! Long time lurker, first post!
I have a beautiful engagement ring that is size 4.5. It goes over my knuckle smoothly while putting it on, but is a struggle to get off. It is top heavy, so the ring spins a lot and it is loose once over my knuckle. I feel like I have skinny fingers and fat knuckles (I am 28, so lord help me if I get arthritis).
I’ve learned to live with this, and it’s not the main issue.
The bigger problem is my wedding band. It is also 4.5 and goes smoothly on… but removing it… YIKES!!! We just picked up our wedding bands last week and in the store (luckily) it was difficult to get off, but wasn’t a huge deal. I tried it on today (fyi, I normally have chilling hands and it is very much winter here in Minnesota) and for the life of me could not get it off!!! I tried windex. No go. I gave it a break for while, ran my hand under cold water. would not go over my knuckle. Finally after some Dawn Dish Soap it came off with much pulling and wiggling, and bending a few finger nails.
I have expressed the issue of my engagement ring to the jewlery store and asked if I could get “bumps” and I was told that is a last resort… My wedding band is from a different store (I have also been “sized” at 3 other places) and 4.5 is THE SIZE they all come up with.
I hope I am not alone in this “issue” I love my rings, but the trapped feeling I had was scary almost. I plan on taking my rings off for working out and other tasks, but maybe I will only be able to remove the engagement ring? Any suggestions? Or others in the same boat?
The picture of my ringless hand is after removing JUST my engagement ring, you can see the indent of the struggle to get it off. You can also see my skinny finger/fat knuckle =(
Post # 2
Why do they consider sizing bumps to be a last resort? They’re super easy/fast to add to a ring, and if you wind up not liking them, they’re also super easy to remove.
I have them in all my rings because my fingers swell a lot as well as the fact my knuckles are a bit bigger than the rest of my fingers, and I LOVE them.
Post # 3
misslucy : They place we ended up getting my engagement ring from, we do not love. So I might seek the oppinion of at least the jewlery store we bought our wedding bands from (so much more informative)
They told me the bumps are a last resort for “old ladies with arthritic hands” I knew from this site that MANY young healthy ladies have bumps added on! I didn’t want to argue, because she also said that with my wedding band my engagement ring will stop spinning…
Post # 4
bertchelbee : I have the same kind of fingers, same size and everything. They are really annoying. Sizing bumps might help, but they might not too. I sometimes wear a snuggie noodle thing on my engagement ring, it stops it from sliding up and down on my finger but it doesn’t really prevent it from spinning, and my ring is very low set and not especially top heavy.
Post # 5
Why not get a bigger wedding band? The engagement ring is above it, so it won’t fall off, and the band looks plain so it wouldn’t matter if it spins as much as the e-ring?
I have the same problem with skinny fingers and big knuckles, so am watching this thread with interest before buying my wedding band :-$
Post # 6
What about a ring size adjuster? They sell some on amazon for pretty cheap and they’re easy to put on and remove!
Post # 7
secondtimer18 : I was hoping the wedding band would STOP my engagement ring from spinning. I guess it might be between having a spinning ring or a ring that won’t come off?
Post # 8
bertchelbee : Hi there! A close friend of mine has the same issue. She had her rings sized larger and a spring put in them so she can get them over her knuckle but they don’t spin around so much.
Not every healer does this. It also might not be the most comfortable option for some people, but she doesn’t feel it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
I would go to another store personally to see about the sizing bumps. I don’t have any myself but I know someone who did have them and she was never told it was a last resort.
For me a last resort would be resizing up again by too much and then weekly wrapping medical tape or a little plastic resizing piece onto the bottom of the ring. Believe me. The medical tape looks awful like that but it helped me make do with a ring that was two sizes too big for months.
Resizing it slightly up to get over your knuckles safely and adding bumps would be much better I think. Or an arthritic shank.
Also, some rings are just top heavy too. Mine are sized at a 7 for the moment and because my hands swell a bit lately I’m more like a 7.5 or a 7 and a quarter and my engagement ring and wedding bands still turn and slide. I usually just ignore it or fix it if it’s bothering my pinky. They will right themselves eventually.
Post # 10
I don’t know if this would be relevant to you but here’s my story. When I first got my engagement ring it slid over my knuckle easily and once on, was loose enough that the centre stone would flop to the side. But it would barely budge at all when you try to tug at it once on. Trying to get it off involved a lot of painful tugging and twisting. I actually bruised the skin around my knuckle after a particularly tough evening with it.
I googled how loosely or tightly rings should fit and bumped into an article explaining that you should remove rings by pushing the bottom up (so push the ring up from your palm) and wiggle it back and forth in a seesaw motion. I tried it and it really did help get the ring further up my finger with less pain. Now that it’s been a couple of weeks I’ve gotten more used to the method and it takes me no now than 2 to 3 seconds to get my ring off.
Post # 11
Is it possible to have your e-ring’s bottom shank redone to be euro-style (squared)? I’d think that would help eliminate the spinning issue because the squared corners would sort of catch on the neighbor fingers and stop the spinning.
Post # 12
I have sizing beads on my engagement ring. I had my ring sized down but it was still loose, and instead of compromising the diamonds in the pave band again we just decided to get the bumps. It helps a lot with the spinning! I would maybe try getting the ring a quarter size bigger and then adding the bumps.
Post # 13
Thank you for the responses. I got my wedding band sized up to a 4.75 and it comes off MUCH easier!
I have also decided to wait until I am married and wearing both bands together to come to a decision about my engagement ring. I already feel like it spins less with the sub zero temps gone.
Post # 14
I had sizing balls put on my engagement ring as it was top heavy and I couldn’t stand the spinning. It takes a little while to get used to but then you don’t notice them at all.