Post # 1
So, Darling Husband can’t keep a secret for the life of him, and wants to tell people. He’s never really been around pregnancy before, so he doesn’t really get the concern about wanting to wait until the 12/13 week mark. He did however say that he wouldn’t want to have to tell people that we’re not pregnant anymore after telling them that we are.
I on the other hand want to keep it to ourselves for a while. PArtly because I like that we have this little secret between us, and partly because I don’t want to have to tell people if we miscarry.
But – I want to share my excitement too! So, I’m wondering if it’s such a bad idea to share with immediate family? I know my family would never say anything, and I have comeplete confidence in one of his sisters, but I’m not sure about his mom/other sister.
Plus, the other sister is scheduled to have her baby in 2.5 weeks, and I’d like to allow her to have the spotlight until then.
Telling my family and not telling his will not fly with him.
Post # 3
I wasn’t really sure how to answer the poll, because we told different people at different times. We told both sets of parents the very next day, but waited a few weeks before telling more people around us. We made the big announcement around 11 weeks, after we heard the heart beat.
Post # 4
We haven’t really told anyone yet. A few friends know, and hubby doesn’t even know yet (but he will within the next 2-3 days). When we talked about ttc hubby came up with a plan on how to tell our family. He wants to tell them when we are all together on Thanksgiving and I’m just excited he’s taking the initiative to tell them and is so excited over telling them. That will put us at roughly 7 weeks if I go off our O date.
The only downfall is that we have family friends that will be there for Thanksgiving as well and they will hear the news when our parents, sister, nephew & cousin do. I’m not too sure what I think about that… so we’ll see.
Post # 5
We told immediate families and a couple of close friends at 6.5 weeks, right after I had the pregnancy confirmed by my doctor and got to see the heartbeat. We started telling everyone else after my second ultrasound at almost 13 weeks.
Post # 6
We told parents and one close friend at 10-11 weeks. Siblings, friends, coworkers, etc. will know a little after 12 weeks.
Post # 7
We told: Brother-In-Law & SIL, my parents and my sister & her Boyfriend or Best Friend when I was 5 weeks. And one of our friends around the same time. That’s all for now. We are waiting until 10 weeks or so to tell DH’s parents because they are blabber mouths and we can’t trust them to keep it secret for more than 2 weeks. Then around 12-13 weeks we’ll probably tell the rest of our families and friends.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Parents and siblings knew immediately (IVF pregnancy!)
Colleagues knew at 6 weeks – again, since the IVF stuff was pretty public.
Friends & Facebook – 12 weeks. We just announced last week!
Post # 9
We told our immediate families and CLOSE close friends at 7 weeks (after an optimistic ultrasound) and will tell co-workers, extended family, and the rest of our friends between 10 and 13 weeks, based on when we’ll see everyone.
Post # 10
We have already told a few people, my in laws, my sis and best friend and a girl I work with (she helps me at work so I can hide it since I’m a nurse). We aren’t planning on telling anyone else till our first appointment on Nov 12th when we should hear the heartbeat, by then I will be 11 wks. I work with my mom and I was scared she’d accidentaly spill and I really don’t want people at work to know yet, so no one else in my family besides my sister knows.
Post # 11
Here was our rule of thumb: We didn’t want to tell anyone that it would be hard to un-tell until we were out of the woods (12-14 weeks).
HOWEVER, anyone we would need the support of in the case of a miscairrage, we started telling fairly early (parents around 6-7 weeks; best/closest friends between 8-10 weeks).
Post # 12
My Darling Husband also can’t keep a secret to save his life. He insisted on telling both sets of parents a few days after we found out, but they’ve been sworn to secrecy. We won’t tell anyone else until after the first trimester.
Post # 13
We haven’t told anyone yet. I’m good at keeping secrets, my husband over the years has improved after many leaked ones and threats from me as a result! However, it’s weird to feel like we have this little secret between us so I wanted to tell close friends this weekend. They previously went through a mc so if, God forbid, something did happen, they would get it and be supportive. We visited them yesterday and despite my husbands many pokes to the back, I didn’t tell and I actually feel kind of good that our secret is still safe with us. 🙂
I still have almost 3 weeks until my doctor’s appt. so I may certainly cave before then but I would only tell them. Once I confirm with the doctor that everything is going well thus far we will likely tell our parents and siblings only. Additional friends and family will wait until we are in the second trimester.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Our general announcement was at 13 or 14 weeks, but we told immediate family and superbest friends as soon as we knew.
Post # 15
We told my parents at 7.5 weeks (after we heard the heartbeat) and announced at work at 9 weeks. We are telling my extended family this weekend (10 weeks) and DH’s family at 15 weeks. They live out of town and we really wanted to share in person. Also, his sister is due around then, so we wanted to give her as much of the spotlight as possible 🙂
Post # 16
Before the first trimester was up, we told our parents and siblings. These were also the only people we would feel comfortable going back telling them if something was to happen. For everyone else, we waited until after the anatomy scan (19weeks) to share the good news!