- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
See this thread for original post.
After reading that thread and some links provided by responders, I actually started thinking of proposing, myself. It’s just an idea I’m toying with now, but after thinking, “Why not?” I find it’s actually a ton of fun planning how I’d propose to HIM. I do agree that it feels a little weird and wrong that we’re in these relationships, and they’re supposed to be equal, and when our men are in agreement that we both want to get married and yet… nothing happens. If it’s been quite a long time, and you think your relationship is ready for the next step, why can’t we women take the reins? Do we only get to initiate an engagement if we have a penis? Does our ownership of a vagina mean we can’t express our love and our joy for our partners? NO. No, it does not.
So, just for haha’s, because I think if I get all my ideas down here I’ll be able to rest tonight, here’s my idea for proposing to Mr. Bunny:
In April I bought him a package deal experience for him to ride in a race car, on a local racetrack, with a pro’ driver for his birthday in late August. And I’ve been super excited to take him, just because I know he’ll basically soil his pants with happiness (he LOVES fast cars). So I thought I would take him to that, then afterwards we would get a nice dinner and then stay at a local inn I found, that’s actually a pretty popular wedding venue. Wouldn’t it be cool to say that we got engaged at the same place we could have our wedding? (Totally pulling that outta my ass, who KNOWS where we’ll actually tie the knot, but again, this is for haha’s) Anywho… After dinner and finally falling into our cottage room, I thought I’d then start talking to him about all the trials and hardships we’ve gone through together, and how we’ve come out on top every time, and about how our love endures and we’re always strong and steady for the other, etc. and then… pull out a ringbox and give him a men’s ring. He’s pointed a few out he likes from when we’ve perused some Brides magazines I have so I have some idea what to get him. I’d like to work in telling him that it wouldn’t kill me if he said he wasn’t comfortable with me proposing, and also that all I care about is that we two share a strong commitment that we want to be married to eachother and plan to get married as soon as it’s sensible. But in the meantime, let’s show our commitment to the world and be together.
It makes me feel so silly pining for him to get off his ass when I am just as capable as he is to get us engaged 😉 (though technically right now would *not* be a good time, we still have something to work out before we *CAN* commit to eachother, but this is all provided that happens and I am 100% positive that it will)
I do realize not all guys would be okay with being proposed to, but I feel like it doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if he expresses that. At least you tried and you know. Maybe now he’ll got off his heiney and get to work if it means that much to him 🙂 I’m pretty positive, however, most guys would love having some special attention, too. I would only try if I was 100% sure that we BOTH want to get married, BOTH have the same ideals and want the same things, and the subject of marriage isn’t something that makes my guy get whiplash.
So what do you think of my little fantasy/idea?
(I apologize if this thread’s all over the place… I’m just excited at the idea and it’s also 1am)