(Closed) SPINOFF: Alcohol expected at rehearsal dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Does there have to be alcohol at the RD/Rehearsal lunch?
    Yes, it is expected : (29 votes)
    54 %
    No, alcohol does not have to be provided. They can go 2 hours with a drink. : (8 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, there should be alcohol but the guests can pay for it themselves if they really want it. : (17 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Personally, I feel we should provide at least beer and wine for ours. So I carved out a piece of the budget for it.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We knew we wanted alcohol at ours, so we purposely did it in a way that we could provide our own booze.

    IL’s were from out-of-town, so they just gave us a budget.  We did heavy ap’s w/ an open bar at my parents house at very low-cost.

    Post # 4
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    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    When I host I assume I’m paying for alcohol. We had our rehearsal during happy  hour to save $. I don’t think its as important as providing liquor at the reception though. Its only 2ish hours and theres no dance floor anyone need liquid courage for.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    No. Alcohol is not a requirement at any event, including your wedding. Although many people may “expect” it, that does not require a host to serve it. 

    Post # 6
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think alcohol is expected. Luckily the restaurant we are having our rehearsal dinner in is bring your own wine, so we can bring our own stuff rather inexpensively.

    If it’s a lunch, I think alcohol would be less expected, but it’d be nice to have some sparkling wine or something for toasts maybe. 

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Willow1991:  I’d just count myself lucky its lunch so no ones going to expect hard liquor and have beer/wine on hand.

    Post # 8
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Among our group it was definitely expected, and we provided it. But our group didn’t end up drinking all that much, because everyone was driving immediately afterwards. For our group of 17 we paid for maybe 10 drinks???

    Post # 9
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If you’re doing a lunch, I think you could easily skip the alcohol – though champagne/sparkling wine would be nice and festive!

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would try to provide something.

    I’ve never been to a rehearsal dinner that didn’t offer alcohol (paid for by the host, not the guests).

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I do think it’s expected, and I would probably be a little bummed if it weren’t offered, to be honest. At the same time, I wouldn’t begrudge anyone if they couldn’t afford it. It is what it is.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You know your guests. 

    We’re having our dinner at the same place FI’s brother had his two years ago– a winery.  They drank the winery out of available red wine. 

    So we’ll be offering alcohol.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I didn’t get alcohol at my rehearsal dinner because my In laws paid for it, but I’ve always thought there should be alcohol at a RH. I’m not sure people really missed alcohol. All I probably would have had was beer for my low key RH.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think most would expect to at least have access to alcohol, and I’ve never been to a rehearsal dinner where there wasn’t beer and wine included, but it was always a limited selection, and at one, there was only wine and the bottles were preset on the table. When they ran out, they ran out. There was a full bar at teh restaurant though, so people could get their own cocktails if they really wanted one.

    The thing is, though, that this is a decision for the hosts of the rehearsal dinner, which should be the groom’s parents. You can tell them what you would like, but other than that, it’s out of your hands.

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