well i’ll throw in my two cents.
i’m pro-life. but i want to start out by saying this, i’m pro-life and i do see abortion as ending a life. but i think it’s harsh to tell a woman she is or even consider her a murderer because she had an abortion. my moh had an abortion her first year of college, before i knew her. i’ve held her hand and cried with her over this. she feels she made the right choice and i don’t question or judge her. she also respects my feelings about abortion. what i’m trying to say is, it doesn’t change my opinion of her as a person. we pro-lifers can be a little harsh.
ok that was my pre-face. now here is my case, i personally especially while i was in college was surrounded by people who believed me to be back woods and ignorant for my old fashioned pro-life morals. after being brow beaten many times for my beliefs, (pro-choicers can be harsh too) i realized i need to get my thoughts together and form a strong argument for my stance on the matter.
So here it is. (and side note, my Fiance was very pro-choice when we met, he heard this argument and started to 1. change his thinking 2. fall in love with mine) 😉
In a perfect world, abortion would be gone, everyones pregnancies would be happy and wanted. additionally everyone would be well educated about how to prevent unwanted pregnancies and they would act on that knowledge. and clearly in a perfect world, rape just wouldnt be an issue. but we are never going to get to that place. this world will never be perfect. Not to mention, we’ve created a world that is never going to end abortion. abortions are never going away. i’ve accepted that.
what i would like to see is more pre and post abortion counselling for women. it should not be an easy choice for any woman. and there are terrible terrible physical and emotional side effects which can be permanent. especially the emotional ones, even if the woman truly believes she made the right choice, there are still serious emotional reprecussions in some cases. we all know the many physical side effects some of which i just cant even imagine.
and yes there are going to be women who do not care, who use abortions as birth control and that’s all there is to it, and that is the kind of person they are and we can’t change that.
but i feel women seeking abortion reguardless of the reason should have to attend an honest and real counselling session, giving them other options, as well as all the information they need to know about the dangers of abortions. they need emtional support from a trained unbiased counsellor someone to talk it all out with. (women need to talk things out, and many women are in a situation where they have no one to really talk it out with) then they need to go home and think about it on their own, and come back in a few days if that’s what they have searched themselves and decided on. then i can’t ask anymore than that of anyone.
but many women skip that step, they don’t truly search themselves for what they truly want or think about the whole big picture. which is understandable when you are being put in such a difficult situation, that you at the time just want to be over so you can get on with life and not worry about this anymore. abortion can be a knee jerk decision and that’s when i struggle with it, not just for the lost life but the woman and the repercussions for her which she may not be fully aware of.
So for me, i think all abortion is wrong. but i know it’s not going anywhere, and i just believe the acess to it needs to be reformed, not in that some people won’t qualify, but in that women are getting the support someone to hold their hand and help them through one of the hardest choices they may ever make. they have to right to know ALL sides of what they are considering before exercising their right to chose.
Anyway i’m sure someone will come along and rip that apart, but with something like this, i’ve learned it’s better to agree to dissagree and go on. it’s a tough subject.
edit..oh dear things were looking so calm when i started typing this.