Post # 17
@daydreamwanderer: 1. Hooray for a spinoff! 2. Even though I do see my FI’s ex as a pesky ex, I’d never kick her! That’s insane!! 3. I’m not a pesky ex because I rarely talk to any of my exes. I only really have two. One was abusive, so I completely and totally cut all ties with him. The other broke my heart in college. When we broke up, we didn’t speak for about a year. The last time we spoke, he texted me to tell me congratulations on my engagement. I texted back a thank you and asked how his family was. We texted for about 5 minutes just to basically make sure everyone in our families were still doing well, and that was that.
Post # 18
@tntrav44: Two sides to every coin though, right? I don’t see myself or my behavior as pesky – we were both in the same group of friends for several years before dating (briefly), so why shouldn’t I be allowed to see that group when I go home? It’s just a shame because she seems so incredibly bothered by it. I’m actually surprised she still “lets” him come to group events when we’re in town.
Post # 19
I think I am, but not through any fault of my own. The guy still obsesses over me. We have some mutual friends and are involved in mutual activities, so I still see him fairly regularly, but I really don’t care much about him. I usually smile and ask how he’s doing, but that’s it. Then I go off and do my own thing. If he’s still anything like he was when I was dating him, though, he’s probably going home and crying to his current girlfriend about how much he misses me, then making her listen while he goes on about how I was the best he’ll ever get. Real winner.
Post # 20
@daydreamwanderer: Oh yeah, I totally agree. It sounds like your situation is a little different than mine, too. My Fiance talks to other exes and I’m a-ok with it. He actually has one ex that when she comes to town, I ask him if we’re going to see her. They only dated for a few months, and they were really good friends before and remained really good friends. I absolutely adore her. I think there are some women that just have a different idea about boundaries. Even within this post, there are so many different situations…some women don’t speak to any exes, some are still friends, some only talk every once in a while, etc.
Post # 21
Try reading ‘I Hate His Ex’ by Alex Moore. I’ve just read it and it has really help me sort out loads of problems within my relationship. It is definitely worth a try!
Post # 22
@ddw: I realize this is an old thread, but holy crap, what a nutbar! Kicking you? I probably would have loudly asked her to stop or loudly asked to switch places with someone who didn’t mind being kicked under the table so that everyone could see what a bitch she was being.
I possibly could be seen as a pesky ex for one of my exs. My ex isn’t dating anyone and we are still good friends so we talk regularly. Not sure what will happen when he has a girlfriend (it’s very rare that he dates). I’d imagine we’d talk less often but I don’t think we’d completely cut off contact
Post # 23
Not a pesky ex, but one of my best friends is a guy and I don’t know how much his g/f likes us hanging out together (they are in a LDR), even though nothing is ever going to happen. My Fiance doesn’t care that I hang out with him at all.
Post # 24
Nope! My only other serious relationship was right around 5 years — we literally grew up together, dating from the time I was 15 until 20. Because of the way things ended — not horribly but not great either — most friends picked a side. Things are amicable now and I’ll text a happy bday to him and his girlfriend/her kids, but that’s about it.
ETA: Normally I wouldn’t make contact with his girlfriend, obviously, but she was in our group of close friends so her and I had a relationship for quite some time.