(Closed) Spinoff: Are you easily offended on the bee when it comes to bee?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you easily offended on the bee while reading the boards?
    Yes -- Bees push my buttons quite often. : (9 votes)
    5 %
    Somewhat -- I find myself at times being offended. : (35 votes)
    19 %
    Not really -- I dont often feel upset/offended while reading the bee. : (106 votes)
    58 %
    Never -- Peoples comments never offend me. : (32 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m pretty hard to offend. And I try to be kind with my responses, even when I disagree. Honestly, I don’t think that most things are worth getting that worked up about!

    Post # 18
    Member
    9646 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s rare that something on this board bothers me. And usually it’s pet related if it does, lol. I guess spending time on forums mainly frequented by young 20-something guys will teach you not to take things personally. haha

    Post # 20
    Member
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    Barbiestylez:  Oh, don’t get my tone wrong, I’m def not riled up. Just pointing it out. If you truly don’t care, than why bother posting about it. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    5219 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Barbiestylez:  IRL I am not easily offended. I mean, unless you’re just a flat out jerk it doesn’t really bother me. On the Bee I don’t get offended easily, but I don’t necessarily try and censor myself, either. I try to be tactful most of the time, but there are other times when the situation is so ridiculous, I just can’t help myself :/

    Post # 23
    Member
    5950 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Barbiestylez:  No, I’m not offended (though I think someone said something funky when I posted about my ring). I think I get what you are saying anyway. I do see some Bees getting really amped up over nothing, In My Humble Opinion. I mean, in the real world and the rest of our lives, is it really that important that your bachelorette party didn’t go quite like you thought or the proposal just didn’t live up to expectations? People just have to chill and look at the bigger picture. A day after your wedding no one, not even YOU, will care if your dress was ruffly enough or not. KnowwhatImsayin?

    Post # 24
    Member
    8686 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Barbiestylez:  lol. I learn to ignore some bees comments. Case in point by the first snarky one you received in here. Nowhere in your OP did it seem like you CARED about the threads where people get offended or argue but that you were curious. 

    Post # 25
    Member
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    Barbiestylez:  Fair enough. I think that a big issue with communicating online is that a lot of people are so defensive from the beginning, which starts the tone. When I reply, it’s usually totally matter-of-fact observations and sometimes even half serious (bc, let’s be honest, we are on a wedding forum where people can get just a tad removed from reality). People are free to read it in whatever tone or context they choose, though. 

    The people here know about 1% of the character and qualities that make up each other. So, if I took what those folks said to me in a personal way and got bent out of shape… I’d probably realize pretty quickly that I would need to step away from the computer (or, in my case, iPhone). 

    Post # 26
    Member
    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    There are people who try to push my buttons intentionally, but I don’t get worked up unless someone has decided to personally insult me in a direct and obvious way (which has happened). Usually I just laugh at the people who are losing their minds about something I posted, because really? Like, you’re filling your pants with diarrhea over a comment/post I made that you disagree with? That’s pathetic, bro.

    Post # 27
    Member
    186 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m never offended by the actual posts, but sometimes people go WAY overboard in their responses. It’s absolutely fine to find something rude, or whatever, but you can make yourself heard in a polite way and then let it be. I don’t get the insistence on your opinion being right everywhere for everyone. That bothers me. I think it’s unfair to the poor Bees who just asked a question!! But even that’s pretty rare. I think MOST Bees are very considerate. Though I’m pretty new around here, and have only recently started posting. 🙂

     

    Post # 28
    Member
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Barbiestylez:  I don’t get get offended by anything on the Bee but I do occasionally disagree with and discuss topics that interest me.

    i think it’s kind of funny that you think only people who know and follow proper etiquette get offended or are thin-skinned.  In my experience, it’s the people who don’t follow etiquette who get pretty bent out of shape.  I get no one wants to be thought of as rude or tacky, but either you are comfortable with your choices or you’re not.  Etiquette is not a matter of personal opinion and manners are not determined by a particular thing being done a lot in a particular area.  

    There is a LOT of ignorance if not outright hostility toward manners and etiquette here and the people who don’t understand what they’re talking about or do and claim not to care tend to be the most hostile. 

    I feel bad for Brides who come here sincerely asking for advise on manners and etiquette who get a ton of bad and incorrect advise.  

    Its always funny to me that there is absolute consensus on etiquette and manners that serve the bride – returning RSVP’s on time, not inviting extra guests, guests not wearing white…etc.  But when it comes to putting any kind of restriction or burden on the bride, suddenly shoving your shopping list on them is “traditional” and actually really doing the guest a favor or having a cash bar is “regional.” 

    Post # 29
    Member
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    iarebridezilla:  I think you think you’re having a far greater impact on others than you actually are.  

    Post # 30
    Member
    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Zhabeego:  well I think that you think that I think that I’m having a greater impact on others than I actually am but actually I don’t think I think that at all!

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