(Closed) Spinoff: Are you easily offended on the bee when it comes to bee?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you easily offended on the bee while reading the boards?
    Yes -- Bees push my buttons quite often. : (9 votes)
    5 %
    Somewhat -- I find myself at times being offended. : (35 votes)
    19 %
    Not really -- I dont often feel upset/offended while reading the bee. : (106 votes)
    58 %
    Never -- Peoples comments never offend me. : (32 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 46
    Member
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Zhabeego:  After re-reading the registry post I am finding it very hard to believe that you do not think you were rude, nasty, or holier than thou. Your comments seem pretty harsh and belittling, as others in that post seem to agree.

    It’s possible to state an opinion without being rude or abbrasive…just because this is the internet doesn’t mean manners should go out the window. 

    Post # 47
    Member
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    SoonToBeMrsD921:  No, I don’t think I was rude, nasty or holier than thou although I will cop to being a little snarky here and there.  

    I know I can be blunt and direct and I don’t always take the time to deliver a dissenting opinion post softly but none of that automatically makes what I say rude, let alone nasty or an attack.  

    Post # 48
    Member
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I agree with @housebee.  Entertainment value.  

    And it’s “advice” not “advise”.  Advise is a verb.  One doesn’t seek advise.  

    Post # 49
    Member
    10651 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    When I’m sick, it does happen more easily.  I think irritability is a prodrome that I get and even without that when you feel like crap, are exhausted and in pain it’s easy to take things negatively.

    One of the issues that comes up for me does bug me though, anytime.  Due to a medical condition I face being limited in where I can go, or risk death/disability.  There are people here that are supportive of those legal limits.  If a poster made a similar comment but based on race, they would be jumped all over, but because I’m in a much smaller minority people seem to think it’s ok.

    Other times I think some posters are just being stupid, but can’t say so, so it might seem like I’m offended although I’m not as it can be difficult to word things well.

    Post # 49
    Member
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    ^^ See?  Snarky.  

    Post # 51
    Member
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I usually don’t get offended by what I see here, but there was one time when I was more like, “Uh…wtf” and shocked. It was a “What time period would you love to live in?” thread that I assumed was a fun Not Wedding Related thread – nothing to take too seriously. So I said that I’d love to live in the 60s b/c they had really cute Mad Men-ish clothes and JFK was president. Innocent, right? Well, I got attacked by quite a few Bees saying I must be “white, American, rich, and male” to make that kind of statement b/c the 60s were known for civil rights violations, women were treated like sh!t, etc.. I was like, “Whoa whoa, I thought this was a fun and harmless thread – of course, I’d rather live in 2014 than live back then…”

    I think the problem is some people just take things way too seriously, and that’s where the said offense arises. It’s a silly wedding board just like the time period thread was a silly fun Not Wedding Related thread!

    Post # 52
    Member
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    It’s the internet, no need to get offended by people you don’t know.

    Regardless of whether or not you like a person’s posting style, sit back and take the emotion out of it.  Look at what they’re really saying – often, after a re-reading, thoughts are much easier to digest.

    Post # 53
    Member
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    iarebridezilla:  Personally, your one of my favorites.  Like I think we’d get along in real life. 

    And…case in point.  You made a simple, comical, sarcastic remark about diarrhea (lol) and someone accused you of thinking you believe you have some great impact on people.  Errrrr, not what you said at all.  

     

    Post # 54
    Member
    628 posts
    Busy bee

    Barbiestylez:  I’m just like you. I read a lot of threads but rarely comment, especially on the drama fuelled ones. I’m not invested enough in the lives of strangers online to get personally offended by how they run their lives, plan their weddings, or feel about issues. To each their own. 

    There are certainly times when I laugh but I’d never let message board drama ruin my day. 

    Post # 55
    Member
    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Barbiestylez:  i wouldn’t say i’m ‘easily offended’ by anything wedding-etiquette related, but sometimes i do get offended at how rude members of the Bee have become. it’s devolved into petty arguing and spat-picking and less helpful and constructive criticism and suggestions, as it used to be.

    i’m sure it’s cyclical but i do find myself getting annoyed sometimes that there is so much more snark on here than there used to be.

    Post # 56
    Member
    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    BurlapnLace:  why do people always think I’m serious when I talk about diarrhea? Ugh, the whole thing is just so upsetting. I’m literally weeping at my desk right now while vomiting rage-blood into my trash can. Fridays are THE WORST.  (there’s no emoticon for vomiting blood so you’ll have to use your imagination)

    😉

    Post # 57
    Member
    4998 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No offense, but I couldn’t care less what strangers online say. I find it mostly entertaining, and I liked the wedding advice and now TTC information. I’ve never been upset about anything said, but I have rolled my eyes and thought that comments were ignorant/wrong/combative. But that’s life, and I’m judgmental. 

    Post # 58
    Member
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    iarebridezilla:  Your diarrhea doesn’t have as much of an influence on people as you think…

    *snap* *purse lips* 

    Post # 59
    Member
    183 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m offended that you’re not offended! 😉

    Post # 60
    Member
    3223 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I get frustrated when many bees give a poster really good life advice, then instead of taking it they revel in getting attention for being a hot mess.  I am frustrated then because I genuinely want to help give people the tools and support they need to take charge of their situation, and when they obviously don’t want anything other than a validation of their “woe is me, math is hard, Barbie” attitude and for the rest of the universe to bend around them… I get very cranky with their behaviour.

    (Barbiestylez, I’m definitely not lumping you in there! You are more like the astronaut Barbie or the president Barbie – stylish but clearly with a much more determined/intelligent head on your shoulders!)

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