(Closed) Spinoff: Are YOU the person your person expected to end up with?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you the person your person imagined they would be with?
    Yes, I'm their total package! : (23 votes)
    35 %
    Yes on appearance, not on personality : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Yes on personality, not on appearance : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Nope, I shattered their expectations ;) : (15 votes)
    23 %
    I don't know, they've never said anything about it : (19 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I have asked my husband that before, but he said “I don’t analyze things like you do!”

    So there you go LOL! Undecided

    Post # 4
    Member
    6019 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I guess i may have answered wrong lol I answered with yes on personality and no on appearance but i think thats more how i feel about our situation not how he feels. He was the one who was initially attracted to me (why i have no idea because we look like a hot dog and a hamburger when walking next to each other, me being the hamburger). we met by chance in a somewhat weird way and the more we talked the more we just fit together. but not in a “oh we have so much in common” type way more in a “wow this person is so opposite of me and they balance me out so so well” type of a way. Either way, very interesting thread ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @KatyElle: I didn’t ask my guy, but I know the answer would be, “I don’t know?! I love you?!” *frustrated breathing*

    I feel like as long as the guy is happy, they don’t really care. Could just be me, though.

    Post # 6
    Member
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I look completely different than the women my SO dated previously, but I think that’s what he likes about me!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We joke that I’m his “10 and a half”. First week of undergrad he made a list of 11 traits he was looking for- the only thing I don’t fulfill?

    “Loves to sing and dance” I don’t sing.

    He “required” 10 out of the 11

    Post # 9
    Member
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m not sure he had an “ideal”. He did tell me about one time, back when he was engaged to another girl and their relationship was going downhill, we were together in a group of friends. I was sharing with the group how I was planning on moving in to a neighborhood mission house to do full-time ministry. He said he looked at me and though, “Now that’s the kind of girl I want to marry”…..and eventually he did :-). So maybe?

    Post # 10
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    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My SO has said on many occasions that he never expected to find me (personality-wise) because he is so picky!! I don’t think he expected me to be a redhead (and ghostly pale) but other than that I am very much his type physically. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t know about personality – I assume he likes my personality? Lol. But I have noticed that he has a distinct physical “type,” and I resemble it. 

    Post # 12
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Hmm, I wish he was here for me to ask! I know I am totally different from his previous gfs, and neither of us ever in a million years thought we would end up together, but I think we make the perfect match. I don’t know that he though he would ever get married. I’ll have to ask him when he gets home cuz now I want to know!

    Post # 13
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I said I shattered his expectations ONLY because he never thought he would find the right person and get married. So I guess to ‘shatter’ his expectations wouldn’t have taken much ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I shatter his expectations when it comes to looks. I don’t mean that in a conceited way, it’s just that before me he HATED girls with short hair, piercings, and who change their hair colour all the time. Right after we started dating I cut my long hair to about 1/2 inch long, I dye it constantly, and my nose was pierced. But he says he loves the way I look, no matter how I look because it’s just me. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Personality-wise… eh, not quite sure. I think he thought he’d end up with someone with a better sense of humor but he loves me just the way I am. (also, it’s not that my sense of humor is bad, it’s that some of his jokes aren’t funny!! :P)

     

     

    Post # 15
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    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    This is a great post btw!

     

    The couple of g/f’s he had before me apparently inspired him to want someone who..

    -had a good relationship with their family (and preferably have parents who are still together)

    -can get along with his friends, siblings, and parents

    -wants a relationship to end up in marriage

    There may have been a couple other things that I don’t remember, but what’s funny is that I actually brought up most of these things with him before we even dated..needless to say, the rest is history!

    Post # 16
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    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Fi actually told me freshman year of high school that he would marry me some day… I told him he was nuts because we were really JUST friends at that point in time but here we are almost 8 years later planning the wedding!!!

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