(Closed) Spinoff: Bachelor party, to strip or not to strip?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Would you mind if your fiance had strippers at his bachelor's party?
    No : (118 votes)
    45 %
    Yes : (146 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    6350 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have no issues at all with my OH going to a strip club on his stag do; in fact. I fully expect his stag to involve strippers at some point, and I honestly don’t care.

    He’s been to a strip club before (on holiday with a friend) and it just did not bother me.

    I think women get weird about it becauase they think strip clubs are sexual/that men get sexual kicks out of going. In the case of a stag/bachelor party, they just don’t; the main reason they’re taken there is to be humiliated in front of their friends. Weird yes; sleazy, no.

    Now if my OH was going on his own, every week, and getting private dances; then yes, that would bother me. But once in a while as a bit of fun with friends? Nope, don’t care!

    As far as joint parties go, I personally want separate ones; I see my OH all the time, go out with him and his friends all the time, so I definitely want my hen to be just me and my girlfriends, having fun, getting drunk, dancing like lunatics, etc! 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t mind, but then again strip clubs were never FI’s thing. 

    Post # 5
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    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    I tried to get him to go to a strip club and he didn’t want to. Not because I adore the idea of strange women grinding on my Darling Husband, but to get it out of his system haha. Some men are into it and some aren’t. What some women tend not to realize is the more something is forbidden, the more they want to do it…..

    Post # 6
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    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wanted to do a joint party and Fiance was all for it until we mentioned the idea to a few friends and they threw a fit… including his mom.

    He isn’t really interested in strippers unless I am there too. He thinks it would be more fun to watch me get a lap dance than for him to have a naked girl he can’t touch rub all up on him like a tease just to have me jealous and upset later. lol

    That being said, I would mind. I would be irritated and upset.. would I “allow” it? Yeah.. but not happy about it.

    My only rule that I said, “Hey. I don’t want this happening,” was the strippers you rent to come to your house. Absolutely not.. that won’t happen.. Not that I think he was thinking about it or wanted it anyway.. but no.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If there are strippers at his party I honestly dont care..I trust my Fiance enough not to do anything immoral. The strippers are NOT interested in our future husbands..they are doing their job and just because that involves nudity doesnt mean that they want to bone every guy that walks in the door. I dont understand girls that get bent out of shape about strippers for this reason. I think my Fiance and I may go to vegas for our bach/bachelorette parties the same weekend but we dont intend on hanging out together during that time.

    Post # 9
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    704 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Fiance isn’t into the whole stripper thing so on the whole I wouldn’t mind but I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t get a little insecure.

    He’s actually kind of prudish about sex. He doesn’t like dirty things. He has to have sex in clean areas and I found out that when he was single, his old boss tried to tell him to sleep with the pretty girls he worked with and he said no. When the boss said they’re like top choice steak, his response was “Yeah, but everybody already spit on it” lol. One time he went to a club with some friends and a group of girls bgan dancing around him and he just wanted them to get off of him and go away.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Mr.Smithsgirl:

    I don’t think many men want to go, esp on stag do’s. As I said, the main purpose is to humiliate the groom, and amuse his friends; there’s really nothing sexual about it.

    No way will my OH WANT to go to a strip club; but I imagine he’ll end up in one because his friends will find it hugely entertaining.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s backwards.

    A man buys a ring and proposes, he wants to spend the rest of his life with only you. Then right before you make it official, he decides to go and do things that completely contradict what he just claimed to want.

    I say strip away , but when you get engaged or in a serious relatioship, cut it out.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Eva Peron: I agree. It was never an issue for us if Darling Husband would do that because he was the one who said it disgusted him. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @barbie86: Agreed. When they take grooms on stage its not sexual, but more humiliating. Who wants to get smacked by stripper in front of a bunch of strangers.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Having the party at a strip club is much “safer” than having one at a private home. There are some strippers that will perform sex acts for money when they are out of the club. Not to mention the other gross things some will do at a private party.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @barbie86: You are right. Some strippers rip the guys waistband of their underwear and pull it up over their heads and write on the guys with permanent markers. If this happens rubbing alcohol will remove it.

    Post # 16
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @luvmyDwight: Very true, the horror stories that I have heard about private parties…..  IMO, strip clubs are also safer than bars/clubs.  At least in the strip clubs there are giant bouncers inforcing the “rules”

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