@Blonde17Jess: I don’t like the idea of mix matched dresses. I was very careful to make the dress selection something I knew would be affordable and looked good on all their body types (they ranged from size 10 to size 24), given that one of my BM’s (my SIL) was also going to have ALL FOUR of her daughters in my wedding (and was driving from one state over) and would have to buy dresses for them as well. One of my other BMs (another SIL) was going to have her daughter and son in my wedding and lives in yet another state so she had to drive from one state over, so that meant an additional dress and tux for her, my MOH was going to have to fly across the country (hotel, plane ticket, shuttle to/from the airport, food, rental car, etc.). I had (before I kicked her out) 5 bridesmaids in 4 states, then I had 4 in 4 states. At that same time, I was planning a wedding from the other coast, with a child getting ready for college, and my organizing a cross country move. I didn’t have TIME for foolishness. Anyone who gave me grief was out, after reading THIS board for a day, that much I was sure of because I’m not as passive as these people on here and I feel very little obligation to anyone who is going to give me shit, I don’t care how you’re related to me.
I sent TWO emails to all my bridesmaids the ENTIRE time we were planning our wedding and those were the ONLY conversations I had with them regarding the wedding.
1. Where to find your dress, the color to order it in and the price (attached is a photo). Please pick a light silver shoe of your liking (it’s a floor length gown, no one will see your shoes anyway). Your hair can be worn any way you like it. I will take care of all your accessories and jewelry. Delivery time is expected to be 10-12 weeks, please make sure you order your dress in enough time to get all necessary alterations done (notice I didn’t give a date). In case you forget, you’ll find all the dress information in my profile at any David’s Bridal. I selected David’s because there was one within 30 minutes of each of them. SIL with the ring bearer, the hubster will get with you about his tux. When I select a flower girl dress and a jr. bridesmaid dress, I’ll let you know, but it’ll be in the next month so you guys can plan your finances accordingly. The girl’s hair can be any way you choose. The jr. bridesmaids shoes should all be the same or similar shoe because their shoes will be able to be seen, the flower girl shoes should be silver or white, but the same color for both girls. I’ll let you guys coordinate that.
2. The rehearsal is scheduled for XXX date (day before the wedding) at XXX time. Dinner to follow here. Thanks!
I made one phone call to both my sisters in law to tell them that I had extra money in my budget and would buy all the jr. bridesmaids dresses and flower girl dresses and I’ll ship them to them when I bought them because I could get them from the garment district in LA for much cheaper than they would be able to find them anywhere (the jr. bridesmaids dresses were $25 each, the flower girl dresses were $40 and that included their petticoats) and instead of a tux, put the ring bearer in a black suit, white shirt and the hubster would pay for his vest and tie rental.
That’s it. No muss, no fuss. No nothing. Just show up, walk down the aisle, take pretty pictures and be done with it.