(Closed) SPINOFF: Confession time, Are you a domestic disaster?

posted 7 years ago in Home
  • poll: I am a domestic disaster because
    I don't separate laundry before washing lights/darks : (83 votes)
    11 %
    I machine wash everything, including sweaters & bras & dry clean only : (127 votes)
    17 %
    I don't fold clean laundry, I just pick out of the basket or throw in a pile on the floor : (66 votes)
    9 %
    If I'm out of clean socks/undies, sometimes I just buy more : (36 votes)
    5 %
    I never/rarely vacuum : (94 votes)
    13 %
    I never/rarely dust : (134 votes)
    18 %
    I throw away tupperware from lunch or forget to bring in from work/the car : (76 votes)
    10 %
    I don't bother recycling : (73 votes)
    10 %
    I put the dishes away wet/drippy/without drying : (37 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 47
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wow… now I feel like a total slacker!  The only things I can do on that list is separate my lights/darks and cook!  New Year’s Resolution = start acting like a grown-up, at least some of the time.

    Post # 48
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    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Reposted below… a slightly “clearer” version.

     

    Post # 49
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    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Hmmm, not sure what happened to my post above… all the HTML code.  Hopefully, you all can read thru those bits.

     

    Post # 50
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    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Ladies, I am glad to see I am IN GOOD COMPANY !!

    My whole life I’ve seen myself as pretty much a Domestic failure… I grew up in a 1950s household where Mom did it all… to the point where she didn’t allow us kids to lift a finger (her reasoning being that we DID IT WRONG… and she’d have to do it over anyhow)

    End result… I went off to college with ZERO household skills whatsoever

    Lol, first thing I picked up was some cooking… otherwise I would have starved !! Plus had to get off the nasty Dorm Food Program (ick) and being able to have a Dorm Room Fridge and cook in the “community kitchen” was the way to go.

    By my 4th Year (when I met my First Hubby-2-B) I was a pro at cooking… part of the reason I think he fell for me (lol, who could resist a date who could invite you up to her Dorm Room for a Spagetti Dinner with wine, so that you too could escape the dreaded food in the Caf ?)

    The other thing I got good at was laundry… the other staple that every College kid needed. To this day, I certainly consider myself the “Laundry Godess”… and can wash just about anything and make it look amazing… Hand Washables, Dry-Clean Only, take out Tough Stains etc. Laundry really is my domaine.

    The other two skills I’ve “acquired” over time (if you want to call it that).

    Is my dedication to Recycling (something that Mr TTR didn’t do whatsoever before he met me… he doesn’t do it well, lol, but at least he tries now).

    And I can load and unload the Dishwasher… and I have to say I am a bit fussed about that too. I am very particular about making sure that the items we use are clean & sanitized… having worked in a Restaurant for awhile… I GET HOW IMPORTANT that all is. Mr TTR drives me crazy in the Kitchen… he is a good cook (better than me)… BUT he just isn’t as conscious as I am about things being sanitized… he is more than likely to be found when left to his own devices “spraying off” a piece of cutlery, and drying it with questionable tea-towel… which just drives me bonkers (infact I’d say he has a lot of issues understanding CLEAN and DIRTY in general… but I believe that this is his “Male Gene”… he doesn’t do it on purpose per se, he just doesn’t GET IT)

    Lol, oh well he is good at a ton of other stuff around the house… where I am lacking !!

    For the most part he does the Bathrooms (I do sometimes), and doesn`t mind Swiffering the Floors, or Unloading the Dishwasher.  And he keeps up the yard etc (cuts grass in the summer, shovels snow in the winter).

    We both shop for Groceries together, and run errands… but he HATES our other “joint chore” changing the bed-linens (I can take them off ok, but it is much easier when two of us work together to make up the bed with new sheets etc).  He balks continually at that chore (lol, particularly so if it is a time when we have to flip / turn the mattress)

    And he isnt very fond of Garbage & Recycling Day either… since Ive been around, hes sort of sloughed that chore off on me.  As I noted above, he just sees EVERYTHING that he doesnt want anymore as Garbage, and sees Recycling as a meaningless waste of time… so getting him to participate other than hauling countless overstuffed (mismanaged) garbage bags to the curb has been a challenge.  So more than likely, it is I who is taking out the Green Bin or looking thru the other Bins to see what he has chucked in them because he doesn`t get it or care (he never ceases to surprise me with what I find in the bins in the garage… which is his domaine)

    But I have to forgive him for the most part (lol, who said living with another person is easy ??)

    Because, outside of Cooking, Laundry, Recycling and getting the Dishes done, I fail miserably at EVERYTHING else.

    I’ve pretty much given up ironing (sorry Martha). Don’t dust. Rarely vacuum.  And In My Humble Opinion, the WHOLE House needs a serious deep clean…

    I`ve in the last few months been trying to keep up with Fly Lady, but even that has left me exhausted… never mind highly frustrated (she is another Over Achiever !!)

    My first husband, who loved to point out that he had THE PERFECT MOTHER, was fond to tell me right from the second we got married how I was a horrible wife to him because I was so hopeless domestically.  I laugh now some 30+ years later, because the world has changed so much… (being a woman and domesticated, do not necessarily go hand in hand at all).  BUT back then, he truly took great pride in shaming me because I was such a disaster.  He honestly thought that my lack of domestic skills was something that I was doing intentionally and plotting against him… as if I was choosing not to be “perfect wifey”

    This time round…

    Mr TTR is at times frustrated by my whirl-wind appearance… and how there are always too many “things on the go” or piles of stuff here and there stacked up “in process”

    For sure the house could be cleaner and more organized… (nothing bothers me more, and points out my inadequacies in this area of my life, than when I visit someone else`s house… and see how sparkling clean it is… not an item out of place).  BUT then again, I remember that Mr TTR and I have lives that are filled with adventures… and most of them happen away from our home… out enjoying the real world.  And so, the house suffers.  (And he admits he is just as guilty as I am in that regard)

    We do clean when we have to (are forced to).  Either be it things have gone too far (which is where they are now in all this Pre-Wedding Planning… Counting Down to the Last Minute Stage)… OR if we have folks come over for some reason.  Then it is a mad-dash around the house, to pick up stuff and make things look more organized / neat.

    I`ve often said, IF I EVER WIN the lotto, I am going to hire myself a full-time housekeeper (ala Alice on the Brady Bunch) someone who will come to our home every day and be part of our family in addition to helping me out domestically… someone who can clean and keep our home in “ship shape”… shop for groceries, run errands, and maybe cook the occasional meal.  Yes folks, even at 50+, I sooo need “a Mom”

     

    Post # 51
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    5656 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t separate darks and lights unless I am washing something special. I’ve never had an issue.  

    Post # 52
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    3768 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    The only things I’m really good at are cooking and washing the dishes.  Fiance is better than me about laundry (although I actually put things away, he usually leaves them where he folded them), cleaning, ironing, more cleaning, and he is tbh better at washing dishes, I just happen to do it more frequently.  T-T

    Post # 53
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    2959 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m am clean and well organized in the kitchen. Dust? I think I did that once in the past decade. I also do not “do” ovens or fridges!

    Post # 54
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    3829 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I feel like i am a domestic disaster. 

    I HATE cooking. I am alwasy behind on laundry. I have only washed the windows once in like 3 years. 

    Honestly i just get frustrated with trying to keep up with a hubby and dog that continue to make a mess. Sometimes i’m just defeated. 

    Post # 55
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    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I hope one day i’ll be a domestic goddess…but let’s be honest.

    I have cooked 4 meals in my whole life, though they were pretty great. My closet is a mess. I have never ever cleaned a bathroom, and never plan on it. We were looking at apartments in DC and was sold on the penthouse apartment because it included a cleaning person monthly. 

    But, maybe when I get married things will change and i’ll grow up. Most likely no.

    Post # 56
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am so not domestic.  I am the opposite of domestic.  Luckily Darling Husband is a great cook, but hardly has time now working so much and taking care of dog (she is demanding).  I think when we start a family I will make more of an effort, until then?  No way!  🙂 

    Post # 57
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    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The only one I checked was that I machine wash everything, including the dry clean only stuff.  Darling Husband is very particular and neat and it has definitely rubbed off on me.  I used to be kind of “meh” about house cleaning and laundry, but not anymore!  I vacuum at least once a week and I keep the house pretty much spotless–even Darling Husband is impressed.  It will be interesting to see what happens once we have kids!

    I also do all the cooking.  Apparently I’m an overachiever in the household department!  That’s probably why I can’t wait to be a Stay-At-Home Mom someday. 🙂

    Post # 58
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    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    we dont have a washing machines still so i have to outsource that! we have such a tiny place i cant work out where we would out one if we got k e

    but im generally a domestic failiure. sigh.

    Post # 59
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    5091 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Oh man.  I only DIDN’T vote for two of them.

    Post # 60
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @GreenEyedMoon:  Hahaha!  Me too!  And only because I recycle and handwash my mittens!  🙂

    Post # 61
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    5091 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I DO separate laundry (I learned that one really fast when I ruined my favorite shirt when I did laundry for the first time at age thirteen).

    I do NOT buy new socks/underwear when I don’t have any clean ones because that’s just wasteful.

    …I voted for everything else because I’m a terrible person.  And also lazy.  And also married to the most wonderful man in the world who does a lot of it for me.

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