(Closed) Spinoff- Could you marry someone who eats completely different than you?

posted 7 years ago in Cooking
  • poll: Could you marry someone who eats completely different than you?

    Of course

    I'm not sure

    No way


  • Post # 137
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Nope. Health and nutrition is extremely important to me. I believe that without your health you have nothing, and with your health you have everything. If I tried to date someone who ate unhealthy and/or radically different from me–vegan/vegetarian, no vegetables, fast food, only bread/cheese/meat/potatoes–I wouldn’t be able to do it. I want a life partner who can share my love and pursuit of healthy, delicious foods and not complain or drag me down. 

    If he only doesn’t like onions and kale, and that’s it, fine. We all have preferences!

    Post # 138
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I said of course but in reality dh doesn’t really eat all that differently from me.  Yes, he does not eat meat but I LOVE fish and so does he.  

    He also likes to eat healtheir than I do but that is a good thing:  no preservatives, no coloring, no high frutose, etc…

    Also he does not like when i cook with butter or salt so I limit those when I cook beggie type or fish type dishes for us.  The hardest thing about dh eating like this is when I make a beef or chicken dish, I have to come up with something for him to eat as well.  

    Post # 139
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2022

    @Lolasmomma:  hey op 🙂

    not married, but I feel your pain. SO is a VERY picky eater. If there is no meat on the plate, he does not eat lol!Before I met him, I would sometimes eat non-meat/vegetarian meals… ex: pasta, soup & bagel, lentils,  etc.


    Our compromise is to include meat in the food, so he’s happy, but also include some form of vegetables/mashed potatoes/cheese, which I love. so for example: shepard’s pie, lasagna, spaghetti bolognese, roast beef with fresh vegetables, coq au vin etc. best of luck 🙂

    Post # 140
    11277 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I did.  It works fine for us.  I’m on a perma diet, so unless it’s a designated cheat day, I’m having salad and an Amy’s Light & Lean or Lean Cuisine or if I’m really feeling flush, a Jenny Craig.  Dh fends for himself just fine.

    I HATE cooking, but Dh likes it.  We’ve always just done our own thing as far as meals go.  I think it’s because each of us have spent so many years living alone, it’s comfortable.

    Our natural schedules are also way off.  You know how it’s always said that the calories you take in late in the day don’t get burned off?  Well, I took that to heart & now it’s really hard for me to eat at night.  Dh likes a late supper.  I bounce out of bed at 3 am, weird, I know, starving & Dh sleeps as late as possible.

    So eating separate food at different times is completely natural for us & works just fine.



    Post # 141
    1377 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    If he were the perfect guy in every other way, I think I could do it. But it would be hard. I love food. Healthy food, unhealthy food. Ethnic food, bacon cheeseburgers. Weird food, comfort food. Vegetables, meat seafood. I love it all. And I grew up in a family were food is a very central part of socializing-no matter how busy we were, we always had dinner as a family. It would be very disappointing if I couldn’t share a love of food with my spouse and if we had to eat seperate meals. And I full-stop couldn’t be with someone who “forbade” me to eat certain things, ie a vegan who didn’t allow me to eat meat.

    Fortunately, BF is an adventorous eater and he’s a healthy eater than I am. His only dietary restriction is that he doesn’t eat pork (except for bacon and sausage) so I won’t cook that at home. But I will still get my fill of BBQ ribs when we go out to eat!

    Post # 142
    1476 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m the picky eater in the relationship, and the cook. DH doesn’t like a few random things, but he’s willing to try anything. DH gets his fill of things that I refuse to touch when we go out to eat.


    Post # 143
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY

    LOL I voted of course, but DH is the least picky eater ever, so it’s easy for me to say that. I do have a ketchup phobia, and he misses it (I throw away any bottles i find) so you should ask him!

    Post # 144
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I got blessed with my husband as we enjoy very similar food and he eats most things. Of course there is food I like that he doesnt and vice versa but there are many meals throughout the week that we don’t eat together so I can eat my foods then! 

    My Brother-In-Law is a fussy eater, but he also has stomach issues. He eats very little fruit and veg and food that my family enjoy, so cooking for him can be tricky. One of my BMs her DH is fussy in a similar way…so I did well with my DH!

    Post # 145
    72 posts
    Worker bee

    My honey was a very picky eater before he met me. But, I slowly introduced him to new foods and now he eat whatever I cook for him. Well  . . . with the exception of brussel sprouts. He can’t stand them. ha ha 

    Post # 146
    2278 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think I could be with someone who was a picky eater.

    Post # 147
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    My Fiance and I have completely different tastes!!! He will basically eat: meat, potatoes, corn, beans (not the green variety), cheese and pasta (ie: mac n cheese, spaghetti and plain meat sauce, fettucini). Thats really it, occasionally a banana.

    I on the other hand will just about eat anything, except cauliflower. We make it work, I just cook him basic that he will eat, and then add an extra vegetable for me, or a salad. Or we both just cook something we want.

    Post # 148
    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Drastically different? No. If he was a picky eater, I couldn’t deal. I love food and love to experiment with new recipes and flavors. 

    He goes with the flow pretty well, he even went vegan with me for awhile. He’s up for anything, and I’m a good cook so it works out well.  

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