(Closed) Spinoff- Could you marry someone who eats completely different than you?

posted 7 years ago in Cooking
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  • Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Completely different, probably not.  We don’t need to have the same diet though.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    DH doesn’t eat healthy at all. I gained 30 lbs after I started dating him. I’ve learned to deal with it though. He knows that if he wants one of hours unhealthy meals that he has to make it himself. I only cook food that is healthy (for the most part) and he will usually just eat it and load up on chips afterwards while I snack on carrots. It took two years for me to finally establish my own eating habits and lose the extra weight.

    It’s still a struggle though because he doesn’t understand that when I get hungry I need to eat something immediately. If I don’t I go into binge mode and just eat everything in sight :/ it’s also difficult because when he eats chips or desserts in front of me I usually want some too but I have to hold back and grab some fruit. It’s definitely a difficult part of our relationship but we make it work!

    Post # 19
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Lolasmomma:  i did marry one.  i love food.  i love to cook.  i love trendy, expensive restaurants.  good bye to all of it.  my dh is the pickiest eater ever.  

    my dh won’t eat any vegetable except potatoes and corn.  i know, starches.  he won’t eat anything that contains a vegetable, example:  tomato sauce = pizza, pasta, etc. 

    he also won’t eat any condiments, gravies, mayo, etc. 

    he doesn’t like to mix his foods = no cheese on his burger.  not even bacon on his burger and he loves bacon.

    he eats meat, potato or rice and corn.  he will eat some fish, cheeses, breads and eggs.

    i have finally convinced him to try nacho chips with melted cheese in the oven.  he loves it but won’t attempt a grilled cheese sandwich.  he doesn’t like sandwiches.

    he will now eat fajitas but only put the meat in the tortilla.  he won’t try a simple cheese quesadilla, too much like a sandwich.

     

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    @housebee:  the cheese thing made me laugh.  i know what you mean.  i really had to think about this relationship within the first couple of weeks of dating.

     

    trust me, i love my dh to pieces but this is the most frustrating thing ever.  i try to tell him that there’s so much that he is missing.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I was a very picky eater when we started dating.  Slowly somehow he’s gotten me to eat just about everything.  Considering I can’t have caramel coloring and now can’t have gluten, we’ve both had to adapt our eating.  Lucky we both have come to enjoy cooking!  I find that if I cook it I’m not as picky about it.  I know exactly went into it.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Normally I would say yes BUT my husband and I are very different when it comes to things we like to eat. I love cooking and find that I do have to cater to him a lot BUT sometimes I make my own meals and its fun to entertain because I can make my own culinary creations that are more fun than meat and potatoes. Bleh.

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee

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    @sailor:  I agree. I cant take it

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @mypinkshoes:  wow! that is fascinating! i have many questions! how do you handle cooking meals? are there any reasons he thinks lead to this restricted diet? does he have digestive issues?

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My husband came up with a digestive disorder about a year before we got married. Yeah, it sucks – I miss my salads (he can’t eat them so I don’t make them every day any more), but we find supper that we both can have and I splurge when we go out.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @Lolasmomma:  His diet doesn’t sound odd, he may be overeating a bit and since you’re preparing meals for him, you are likely overeating along with him.  Try tricks to cut down on your portions and replace high calorie starches with an additional low calorie green veggie or salad with lite dressing.  I try to make sure I feed Fiance the larger portion of food and I have severely cut down on the amount of food I make because instead of putting away leftovers, we were overeating what little was left after dinner.

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    I’m a vegetarian and Fi is not. He actually has the worst eating habits I’ve ever seen. He eats no fruit or vegetables,  except potatoes. When I’m cooking, I’ll prepare everything but his meat, he cooks that himself. Its not as difficult as it seems.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @MrsPanda99:  This. 

    I’m a really picky eater. I have pretty strong sensory defense (part of autism), meaning I cannot handle some smells, tastes, and textures. I literally can’t help it, and, at times, something that I normally enjoy will suddenly turn my stomach. Part of being picky came from my upbringing–I pretty much ONLY ate fast food/pizza growing up, didn’t have Chinese food until I was in my 20s, etc. I’ve slowly gotten over that and tried lots of new things, but there are still some things that I cannot eat (oatmeal, for one). DH isn’t picky at all, so we find things that we both like and make those. Sometimes I offer to make two different things, but he always turns me down. Occasionally we’ll make essentially the same thing, but different (like rice with cream of mushroom soup for me, cream of chicken soup for him, or ramen with fish for him and with eggs for me).

    Post # 28
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @remijp:  no, he doesn’t have any allergies or digestive issues.  that i could accept.  this is purely by choice.  he has always been like this apparently.  personally, if i was his mother i would have forced him to eat vegetables or at least try them prepared differently.

    preparing meals was challenging at first.  he seems to like all of the meat that i prepare.  i make him a baked potato or rice and i make myself whatever i feel like; salad, veggies, whatever.  when we have dinner guests, i make the meal that my guests would appreciate and he will get what he likes.  most dishes can be altered to suit his needs.  just no sauce or veg added.

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Sure. My Fiance is a meat and potatoes kind of guy. He needs meat, starch, veggies and dessert. I prefer to eat light and I can manage with just a sandwich for dinner. Sometimes I’ll cook a big meal and then just eat something small of my own.

    He grew up eating dessert after every.single.meal. Seriously, when we visit his family we have dessert after every lunch and dinner. I grew up hardly ever having dessert – only if we were having a craving or a special occasion. He cannot stand to eat and not have dessert, its crazy. When I leave his family’s house after being there for a week its like I’m conditioned to want that sweetness after a meal too and I have to fight hard to break the habit lol

    I can see things being difficult if one person is a vegetarian or vegan and the other person isn’t. I feel like cross contamination would be a pain in the butt.

    It would be really hard for me to be with a picky eater. We do a lot of traveling and I’m sorry but I’m not stopping at McDonalds in France or where ever we might be. My Fiance isn’t super adventurous with food, but he is willing to at least try some things.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would never date a picky eater. It’s one of my big pet peeves in someones personality. I don’t respect people who eat things like mac n cheese every night. It’s just…..childish. I think it’s a food/sex/life thing. If you are an adventurous eater I assume you are adventurous in life. If you are afraid of food then I assume you are afraid of life (and terrible in the sack lol)

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Neither of us is really picky, but I will tell you I eat a lot more fish now than I did before, and also eat fast food much less than I used to – we’re talking hardly ever.  And I can count on one hand the number of times we’ve had different things for dinner.

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