- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I have done. It’s fine if eating the same thing is not a requirement.
I have done. It’s fine if eating the same thing is not a requirement.
I was as a child and still am a fussy eater (though I will find things to eat I’d we go out and I love food) but I have legitamet reasons that I can’t help really.
SO isn’t fussy at all
But the things I eat SO loves (pasta, fish pie, potato, sausages etc) so we are good and it doesn’t cause any difficulty.
I could be with someone who eats differently (I have a lot of patience with picky eaters) though I would find a veggy difficult if they didn’t eat fish
@Lolasmomma: Yes — I did. My husband is uncannily opposite:
Him: Red Wine, red sauce. Me: White wine, white sauce
Me: HATE spicy, indifferent to sweets, love salty + tangy. Him: The spicier the better, MASSIVE sweet tooth, hates salty/tangy
Him: Loves to mix food together in one giant indistinguishable mess, pile it on! Me: Would eat with one of those child’s plates with the dividers to prevent food from touching every single meal if I could
Me: Nothing from the sea. Raw makes me gag. Him: Anything and everything frome the sea. Bring on the sushi.
Him: Hates condiments, extra dipping sauces, salad dressing. Me: Dipping sauces? I’ll take one of each. And I pretty much order salad as an excuse to eat the dressing.
That said, our specifics are different, but our overall philosophy of food, eating, and lifestyle is the same. Neither of us believe in eating fast food or junk food on the regular, nor do we keep junk food (chips, processed snacks, cookies, candy, sweets, etc) in the house. Eating pizza, or burgers, ordering dessert and other food along those lines is a once a week sort of thing for us, TOPS. I’m fine with the specifics being different, but I would not have married someone who is not committed to healthy eating as part of a larger healthy lifestyle.
i love going out to restaurants so id be frustrated if my DH couldnt share that with me. otherwise it wouldnt bother me providing he cooked for himself
I voted “of course” because I’m the picky eater in our relationship. He eats beef and swiss cheese and eggs and stuff, and honestly it just makes it easier for him to buy food that’s “just for him” without having to worry about pregnant me getting into it all.
my DHs eating habits were a bit different but not much. he does not like things sweet. he wants a ton of veggies in everything. a salad just isnt a salad unless it has pretty much everything. But he helped change my eating habits when we started dating. We only eat brown sugar and whole wheat flour and bread. I also make everything from scratch cuz DH most the time wont even try it if its not. hes doesnt like cilantro which i love!!! and he doesnt notice in if its chopped up. He actually eats pretty healthy BUT hes soooo weird about how i cook fish. he doesnt want it baked and he likes his a little over done. Same for shrimp. He scares easily like a deer when it comes to seafood. I got to be on my game to get him to eat a whole bunch. He also doesnt like deer roasts. but he will eat it if i cut it into steaks. This is kinda funny cuz hes a fisherman! and hunter! lol. I love clams and crab. he cant stand them. so i pretty much never eat crab even though there is a lot around.
i said no, because there is no way i could date someone who ate mcdonalds, KFC etc all the time instead of healthy food. if they eat that crap all the time they obviously dont care much about their health and wellbeing, something i am very into. so i dont know how much we’d even have in common.
If it was an extream difference? Heck no. I could never be with somone who was a veg or vegan or didn’t eat animals.
My DH is certainly picky – he’s a meat and potatos kind of guy. He’s picky in the sense he doesn’t like things most people would consider normal parts of daily food life – mayo, tomatos, pickles, ranch dressing, eggs. Like, he’ll eat some salsa but won’t put a tomato on his sandwhich. Totally find with fried/sauteed onions on a cheesesteak but not to eat a raw onion.
I used to be a picky eater, but have since branched out. He’s not a big fan of crockpot style meals, or casseroles – those are items I tend to not cook. We usually have a meat of some sort, some veggies, and a starch for dinner.
My husband always grins at me and/or laughs about it though. He says it fits in with how I always know EXACTLY what I want and never settle on anything less than getting just that, which is part of why he fell in love with me. I guess I managed to find one of the few who find pickiness endearing!
But, I feel like it’s annoying. I apologize to you and other waitresses on behalf of others who are like that — I ALWAYS tip a full 20% or more to make up for it 🙂
My husband is a very ‘meat and potatoes’ kind of man. He seems like like a little bit of different things from every food group, but if he could have steak every night he would. I love different foods and am always up for trying something new. As for him, trying to get him to try something new is like trying to get a toddler to try something new. I’ve implimented the ‘you have to at least try it! If you don’t like it I won’t make you eat it’, rule.
He snacks on chips. I snack on veggies.
I used to cater to him and his preferences, now I just make what I want to make and he either eats it or doesn’t. Normally he will eat it, it just isn’t his favourite, I suppose I’m lucky that way.
I have gotten him to open up to some new foods which is nice.
It has never been a big deal between us. He tried to take me for sushi when we were first dating, I loved it. He threw up. I go for sushi with girlfriends.
I would and I already do. Fiance is a vegetarian who tries to eat vegan as much as possible, particularly at home where he has complete control over what goes into his food. I am only a semi-vegetarian and avoid red meat and pork. It’s kind of a pain because if I want something with fish or poultry it means I have to make it for myself or eat out. I also know that Fiance would love to go completely vegan but he just never has because it would be a big inconvenience to everyone around him especially me and his family who he has dinner with at least once a week.
@Lolasmomma: cooking/food is one of the things Fiance and I both really love! We love to try to impress each other with the stuff we make for dinner and we both appreciate good food, whether it’s from a fancy restaurant or a hole in the wall. I kind of can’t imagine what it would be like if one of us were picky, or if we didn’t like the same types of food.
I dated a vegetarian once and it was so difficult to plan meals that I just became a vegetarian too to make life easier. So maybe it wouldn’t be impossible 🙂 I’m sure I would get tired of it eventually though.
I said I’m not sure. It sounds shallow, but a lot of what we love together together involves trying new things, and going out to eat great food and drink great wine. If we didn’t have that in common, I’m not sure we would’ve gotten serious in the first place.
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