(Closed) Spinoff- Could you marry someone who eats completely different than you?

posted 7 years ago in Cooking
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  • Post # 77
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    Buzzing bee

    @sailor:  “Picky eaters annoy me, so I couldn’t marry one.  I find it supremely off-putting and unattractive when adults are fussy eaters or have child-like palates.

    +1.

    OP, I wouldn’t not date someone for being vegetarian, vegan or have a food intolerance or allergy, but people who ‘just don’t like’ foods (especially when they’re never tried them) really annoy me.

    Having a few things you dislike is normal IMO (I dislike all seafood except some fish; snapper and tuna to name two) but to dislike a huge range of foods would make eating out and buying groceries difficult/annoying.

    I’d say we’re pretty adventurous eaters; SO is open to trying just about anything and I’ve eaten Scorpion and Snake.

    Post # 78
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Sometimes when we cook, we have to make two batches because we have different tastes. For example, when we make mexican food we will make a batch that has cilantro and cumin and one that does not because that stuff is nasty.

    Even our taste in pizza is so different that when we want to have a pizza night, we have to order from two different places.

    Post # 79
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Lolasmomma:  Fiance is on the vegan side of vegetarian and I’m quite the omnivore. We make it work.

    Post # 80
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Probably not. I’m vegan, and I’d probably date a vegetarian but not a meat eater. Cooking would be a hassle and I really wouldn’t be comfortable with animal parts in the house. Plus food based activism  is important to me and I would want my partner to share that.

    Post # 81
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I grew up eating very, very healthy food.  My mom is diabetic and my dad had severe heart diseases– and I didn’t get special food.  I ate the sugar free/fat free/cholesterol free/salt free food my parents did.  So when I started to cook for myself, this is how I cooked.

    DH grew up meat and potatoes and ate foods completely opposite of me. 

    Some nights we have super healthy, some nights we have fried chicken and mashed potatoes.  I have convinced him that grilled fish and veggies is so easy and quick to make, and he’s convinced me that adding fat and salt to a dish makes you eat less of it and therefore makes it healthier. 

    Post # 82
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Drastically different, no. Food is important to me.. I’m a good cook and going out for dinner is one of my favorite things.

    If we didn’t like any of the same type of foods, we’d fight all the time and I’d enjoy life a lot less.

    My good friend and my sister are both vegetarians and it’s always difficult to find things we can all eat/enjoy. My sister is not only a vegetarian, but a super picky one (like won’t eat beans or tofu, thinks things like caesar salads are too boring.. won’t eat at regular mealtimes etc.). It’s annoying.

    Post # 83
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It depends on what direction “different” means and if he wasn’t willing/able to compromise. I wouldn’t want to be constantly cooking two dishes for every meal or having him do it either. Also, if he was all food-judgemental like some militant vegans I’ve known, that’s a hell no.

    Post # 84
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Lolasmomma:  What is important to me is being with someone who not only eats healthy, but has a healthy lifestyle. My father has had 7 heart attacks. Almost everyone in my family (father, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) has high cholesterol. A lot of my family with high cholesterol also have high blood pressure. Both of my grandmothers have type 2 diabetes. I have had cholesterol when I weighed more.

    DH eats more red meat and fat than I do. He works out more than I do also. I eat more sweets than he does. We try to eat healthy and limit our bad fats and sugar. It helps to be with someone who has a similar lifestyle.

    Post # 85
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Fiance eats peanut butter and I still love him! I really hate peanut butter…..I refuse to kiss his peanut buttery breath. Ewww. 

    Post # 86
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    on a kind of related note before i met my DH…i met a guy in china who said “i don’t like chinese food, i tried it back home (NYC) and i didnt like it so i just eat western food here” and i was pretty horrified. he was in china, eating subway, mcdonalds etc and refusing to even try one of the local restaurants. deal breaker.

    edit – DH and i have adapted pretty well to each other. hes mexican and i now live in mexico so i try to cook more mexican style. he will try my “exotic” things every so often (hummus, brie with prosciutto etc) and my simpler english dinners and we found a middle ground

    Post # 87
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My husband and I like some of the same foods, but then there are some foods that I’ll make and he just eats so I don’t get upset, so I guess that works. Now, if he insisted that he would only eat a certain food on certain days of the week, then that’d be a different story.

    For the most part though, if my husband (or if I wasn’t married but considering it) didn’t want to eat whatever I was cooking, well, he knows where the kitchen is, and can buy his own groceries then. I’m not cooking two separate meals!

    Post # 88
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m the picky eater so this is not an issue for me.  As long as he’s willing to put up with me!

    Post # 89
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

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    @stefanielovesjamie:  Ah, you couldn’t be our kids! DH and I eat everything in the allium family: galic, onions, leek. Love them all!

    Post # 90
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It depends. My husband is the meat-lover & I’m the pasta-lover. If I didn’t eat meat, cooking would be a bitch. Luckily he’s not the type to demand meat everyday. It’s more like he wants protein everyday. 

    Post # 91
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My man’s nickname is the garbage disposal, hahaha! I would not care as long as I could buy and eat what I liked, and he could do the same… The only thing I don’t buy, cook, or eat is pork. He can buy it and eat it, but he ain’t cooking that in my pots! If it was an allergy situation that would be more complex, but depending on the level it could be workable.

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