(Closed) Spinoff- Could you marry someone who eats completely different than you?

posted 7 years ago in Cooking
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  • Post # 92
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I could do it, though I’d rather not. The big difference with Fiance and I is that I don’t like any seafood, so once in a while he cooks some fish, and I deal with the smell, or he orders seafood at a restaurant, but we never really go to seafood restaurants. Future Brother-In-Law and his wife are a lactose-intolerant carnivore and a vegetarian, and they make it work!

     

    Post # 93
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m the weird eater in our relationship. I don’t like meat, fish, or seafood very much but I’m not a vegetarian, I have plenty of exceptions to the rule. I’m just extremely picky about the non-vegetarian things I’ll eat. 

    My ex was not very respectful of our eating differences. As an example, he loved dark meat chicken/turkey and I only like white meat. To me, I figure it’s like Jack Sprat could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean, together they licked the plate clean. But no. He had issues with it. Oh well. 

    My Fiance is very respectful and gently encourages me to try new things and has even successfully changed my mind about a few types of foods. I’m eating more meat than ever and enjoying it. The only disagreement that we have (and again, he’s nice about it) is that he swears I will enjoy runny eggs. No, I won’t. Ever. Never. The End.

    Post # 94
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hm, I”m vegetarian and he eats meat but we make it work with no issue at all.. But then again we both like cooking. He’ll eat what I’m eating, or cook some meat and have whatever I’m eating on the side, or we’ll just cook seperately.

    Post # 95
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - The Admiral Kidd Club

    I love that my BF is as adventurous as I am when it comes to trying new or different foods. Luckily, neither of us has any food allergies and we do eat practically everything. It’s great enough that we both love our steaks the same way, med-rare (ex-BF did not like steak, preferred chicken) but we are able to share EVERYTHING. Saves money, saves from wasted leftovers that you just don’t want to eat again. We lived with a couple where the Girlfriend did not like eating beef or pork and could not drink carbonated drinks, and it made me sad to think they don’t understand how awesome it is to share meals or drinks like BF and I do. 

    HOWEVER, true love is when you accept your partner and everything about them. That couple I mentioned above, has been happily together for over 10 years. He teases her and gives her a hard time but it’s all in good humor.

    Post # 96
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    But aside from the meat/no meat thing we both like the same foods. Pizza, veggies, spicy stuff, chinese, thai, indian.

    Post # 97
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Food preferences are not something I’ll break up with someone over lol If my SO doesn’t like what I’m eating, she makes something for herself and vice versa. I was vegetarian for a while, SO wasn’t. I’m starting this paleo diet, SO’s not. It’s whatever

     

    Post # 98
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If we ate completely different, it probably wouldn’t have gotten very far. I refuse to cook 2 seperate meals (this goes for picky ass kids too, you eat what I eat). But if it was little differences, I could make it work.

    Ex: my FI’s dad has a friend who literally only eats plain cheeseburgers, french fries (or other plain potato type food), or plain chicken. He hates everything. His wife loves all kinds of foods. I don’t know how she does it.

    But if it was something like, I love mushrooms and he doesn’t, then I’d just make do.

    Post # 99
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Lolasmomma:  FI and I eat a lot alike but that happened over time.  When we met he wouldnt eat broccoli, squash, zucchini, collards, ground turkey..hmm i am sure there are more.  But he never ate many casseroles growing up.  He refused to eat hamburger helper as well.  Now he eats whatever the hell I put in front of him minus onions.  I am still working on that lol  IMO if I have to cook every night then I am going to eat what I want.  If you dont like it go make yourself a sandwich! 🙂 Its worked just fine for 5 years. 

    Post # 100
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @FauxBoho:  “

    If you are afraid of food then I assume you are afraid of life (and terrible in  the sack lol)”

    This made me chuckle.

    I couldnt be with a fussy eater. I love food, cooking, eating, reading about watching. It’s just about my favorite thing in life. I coudnt be with someone who didnt share that.

    Luckily Fiance loves everything except elderflower and LOVES to try new things….he also compliments every new recipie I try, good or bad. What a man!

    Post # 101
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    For this, I need to answer both yes and no. I love to cook and my two go-to ingredients are lemon and garlic. I would be fine with someone who wouldn’t eat my cooking, but if my partner didn’t like those flavors, he’d have to fend for himself. Thankfully, my Fiance is as big a garlic/lemon fiend as I am.

     

    On the other hand, we eat totally different things. I came from a sugar-free, fat-free, low-sodium, cholesterol-free, kosher and vegetarian, so I grew up eating weird things. I love tofu, asparagus, mushrooms, etc. I love vegetables as it was pretty much all I knew growing up. Fiance grew up in a normal meat and potatoes type house, so aside from lettuce, he doesn’t like anything green.

     

    I miss some vegetables, but I just make it a point to cook them when he won’t be around for dinner or to make them just for myself.

    Post # 102
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    Helper bee

    My health and nutrition is very important to me and I wouldn’t want to marry someone who didnt have the same views or just ate like crap all the time.  In my opinion nothing is more important than taking care of yourself so you can live a long happy life

    Post # 103
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Lolasmomma:  FI is vegan and I’m a meat eater. It’s a pain picking restaurants but other than that, we make it work. I eat everything he eats so if he’s cooking I’ll eat with him. Otherwise, I’ll make my own dinner. I’m not one of those people that has to have meat with every meal so it works out ok. Fiance has his own oven trays but other than that we use all of the same things. If he had his own cutlery, plates etc that would annoy me. He has NO problems with me eating meat in front of me and hasn’t every attempted to tun my vegan/vegetarian. Again, that would bother me. My family are all used to cooking for him now as well.

    Post # 104
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I do the cooking and the rule of thumb in my house is “eat it or starve.” DH used to be pretty picky and I used to just eat what he ate we ate very very badly our first 2 years together. After that, enough was enough and I got pretty firm about what we ate. DH used to eat a meat(normally a steak or other more fatty meat like pork) a starchy vegetable and rice all. the. time. Now we’ve expanded his inventory to green veggies, squash, spinach, asparagus, even beets! DH also has a dairy allergy and I have gluten intolerance so our diets are somewhat limited but we learned to improvise. Sometimes I’ll make a starch for him and I just won’t eat it, like rice or couscous. He will eat quinoa but he would prefer not to.

    so to answer your question, a picky eater or someone with wildly different eating habits is just not a deal-breaker for me, obviously.

     

    Post # 105
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I am! I love pasta, rice, couscous, noodles, any asian food. He loves roast dinners, burning hot curries and cumberland pie. So we alternate. Pasta one night, curry the next… it can be done.

    Post # 106
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    745 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes, but I think it requires compromise.  

    DH has pretty traditional tastes, while I prefer a very healthy/mostly vegetarian diet.  To that end, we eat a lot of stirfries, pasta, beans and ground turkey…with an occasional steak or chicken or pork dish thrown in there.  Since I do all the cooking and shopping he basically eats whatever I decide to make 🙂  Although I do try to keep in mind his tastes as well.  If it were totally up to me I’d never make comfort food like mac n’ cheese, meatloaf, burgers, etc but he likes it, so I try to add that kind of stuff in there sometimes.  

    Luckily he’ll try anything and I’ve gotten him to eat tofu nearly once a week, so that’s good!  He also has Crohn’s disease, so finding recipes that suit his tastes that aren’t terrible for him can be challenging.  Thankfully I love to cook and am always finding new recipes to try.  

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