- 4 years ago
FI has had anxiety/depression for as long as I’ve known him (but it really didn’t show the first two years, because we were so crazy giddy over each other). We started out planning the big wedding, but he stopped his medication and really went into a depressed/anxious state. It all became too much for him. So we cancelled the big wedding and focused on getting him healthy.
He went back on his medication, and started cognitive behavioral therapy. It worked wonders, and I could see that he was really happy again. He was “back”.
Once he was in a better state, we settled on a small family wedding. I am happy with our plans, and it is all starting to come together.
But recently I see him slipping back. In the past week he’s not been as silly, or loving. We’ve talked in the past and when he feels depressed he just feels “empty and numb”. I see that coming back, and am going to talk to him tonight about what steps we can take to make sure he doesn’t slip back.
My question is – for bees who are engaged/married to someone with these issues, how do YOU cope? When he gets like this, it is hurtful to me. I take it personally, even though it has nothing to do with me.
To be clear, I am not going anywhere. I love the man with everything I have. I’ve chosen to deal with his issues, and accept the responsibility that comes with marrying someone who is depressed. I am just trying to figure out a way that I can support MYSELF when he gets this way.