(Closed) SPINOFF: Did he LIE, or did you KNOW that you were the other woman?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you been the "other woman"? If so, did you know it, or did the man pretend to be single?
    I was tricked into being the "other woman". That scumbag lied. I respect others' relationships. : (35 votes)
    17 %
    I knowingly was/am a mistress or the "other woman" and he was married. All's fair in love and war. : (40 votes)
    20 %
    I have never been the other woman, and I never would knowingly choose to be a mistress. : (92 votes)
    45 %
    I have never been the other woman, but I'd go after a taken man if I really wanted him. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    I knowingly was/am a mistress or the "other woman", but he was NOT married, just in a relationship. : (37 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 19
    Member
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I gave the full story on the original “other woman” thread, but I didn’t know that he was in a LDR (10+ years!) during our 8 month relationship. I hated it when I found out (after we’d broken up). I actually attempted to message her, but I’m fairly sure it was intercepted. After some back & forth via email with him, he blocked me. Actually, just recently (4 years later!) I got a “hey. What’s up?” email from “him” but I think it was really her. They are still together and I don’t know if she ever found out that he was cheating. I cyber spied on him right after I found out and saw that he was on multiple sex-related dating sites. Creep. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I was unaware both times. Neither of them felt the need to discuss the fact they were about to get married or married already. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    1188 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @FLBlonde93:  For sure.  I really thought he was the one.  I loved him so much and I know that being the other woman was wrong.. I just desperately wanted him to change his mind.

     

    Glad life worked out the way it did 🙂

    Post # 22
    Member
    29 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    My situation was a little different. I did know I was technically “the other woman” however him and I were still legally married at the time. We’d been seperated for about 4 months and I was still in love with him and wanting to work things out. So although I knew he was living with another woman at the time I still allowed him to come over for booty calls. I did feel bad because I knew she had no clue he was coming over to have sex with me but somehow at the time I justified it by reminding myself he may be her boyfriend but he was still my husband. I was young and dumb and glad I wised up and went through with the divorce. The sad thing is that even now 5 years later  he will still occasionally email me asking to hook up. Ummm no, not in a million years! 

    Post # 24
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee

    I would never be the other woman, ever. If he’ll do it with you, he’ll do it to you. Women think they’re special or better than the woman he’s cheating on, but they just aren’t. Men lie and manipulate and pretend they’re trapped with some horrible woman, but they’re just selfish pigs.  I would never trust a guy who cheated to be with me. 

    Post # 27
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee

    @FLBlonde93:  +1,000,000?! Awww, shucks… Wink

    No, but seriously…I have a couple friends who started dating a guy who was already with someone and tried to explain that their girlfriend is a bitch, or she is evil in this way or that, but it just doesn’t matter. You end a relationship before you start the next one. That’s how it works. 

    Post # 28
    Member
    3051 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I knew but I was young. I also posted on the other thread. My ex was in an LDR (semi-serious) and fed me all the typical cheater shit “I’m gonna break up with her”, “I don’t even know why we’re together anymore, I don’t even like her”, blah blah blah. We weren’t together long and I think there were a lot of factors that made the relationship as thrilling (and as much of a freaking emotional roller coaster) as it was.

    Since it was my first real relationship, I would honestly say I didn’t take relationships seriously. So my ex was dating someone else? So what? That girl was never around & they never talked & didn’t even get along (I believed those statements btw)…so I was there and she wasn’t. That was seriously my mentality. Now that I’m older I get it and definitely think cheating is wrong. I don’t regret what it taught me though. And my ex & the other girlfriend were really toxic to one another so I’m actually glad she found out about me and they broke up. I never met her but she deserved better than my player ex.

    Post # 31
    Member
    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Happend to me twice. Both times I had no clue!  First time I found out via a nasty confrotation from the Girlfriend.  She still blames me for everything eventhough I had no clue she exsisted.  I obviously stopped everything right there and then.

     

    The Second time I found out through a colleague that the person was engaged.  I never confronted him about it.  I just basically stopped talking to him and I never heard a word from him after.

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