(Closed) Spinoff: Did you make FI/SO go through a waiting phase?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you make your SO wait?
    Yes! : (7 votes)
    18 %
    No, he made me wait : (21 votes)
    53 %
    No waiting period for us : (9 votes)
    23 %
    Other! : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    No, he definitely had me waiting.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    Neither for us, but I did have a friend who made her now husband wait.  And he did, patiently, for her to get through her anxiety and be ready.

    Post # 6
    Member
    339 posts
    Helper bee

    He is getting a different kind of waiting.  He makes me wait for I want so I’m waiting to wear a certain halloween costume in the bedroom.  I’m not going to just do foolish things for anyone Cool  And I don’t think he will be waiting for me when it comes to engagement or marriage.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I am definately waiting for him! BUt I do have friends who made their boy wait. In most cases it was because they were in a different location geographically and therefore there were other factors to consider.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    Technically my SO is the one in waiting. I’m waiting on myself and he’s waiting for me to have all my ducks in a row. Although it wouldn’t help for us to be more financially secure (luckily my waiting schedule runs for at least another year).

    Post # 9
    Member
    6545 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, he made me wait a LONG time. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    Nope, he made me wait until we were “old enough” haha 🙁 we both knew that we wanted to be engaged when we first started dating in our senior year of highshool, but chose to wait until third year university (: So I guess it was a sort of mutual waiting experience 😉

    Post # 11
    Member
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Darling Husband wasn’t waiting in the sense that he was anxious to get married (he told me he just wanted to be with me, married or not) — but he was definitely ready for it before I was. He semi-proposed about two years into the relationship, but I was just out of college and in no way ready to be married. I said “Yes…but not now.” It was at least two more years before we said, “Let’s actually get married.”

    Post # 12
    Member
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve suffered enough through the waiting that i’m now pushing it back on him.  We wont be doing any more reno’s until he proposes.  I’m not sinking money into a house if we arent gonna get married. 

    BUt no i am definitely the one waiting for him to get his crap in order. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was adamant that I did not want to get married (to anyone, ever) when I met my Darling Husband. He felt much differently, but it took about 2 years for me to come around to the idea at all. It was still two more years of engagement before we actually got married (the last 2 years of waiting was for financial reasons), but he would have been ready sooner. I was never the little girl who dreamed of marriage (I felt like it generally just complicated things), and I still think it would have been very unlikely that I would have gotten married if I hadn’t met him.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Haha. At first I made my SO wait. Even with the I love you’s I made him wait. I didn’t want to but I had to be sure. I met him coming from a 4 year horrific marriage so I had to be sure before I even said ILY. Well that all said and done I told him he would be waiting about 8 years (for the first year of dating these were my conditions) for marriage and another 5 for the possibility of kids. He was ok with it at first but I guess changed his mind.  A little over a year into dating he brought up marriage and went on about “I know you don’t want it for 10 years but I can’t stop thinking about it” type of thing. That got me thinking about it and shortly after I told him that I’ve changed my mind on the conditions. That was over a year ago. I’m still waiting now 🙁 Guess the tides have turned so to speak lol

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