Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
Another thread got me thinking about how not every girl goes through a waiting phase. But did anyone here make your SO/FI go through one??
I know that I made my Fiance go through a wait. He was ready to propose about 2 years into the relationship, but I didn’t feel ready .We made an agreement that when I was ready, I would tell him my ring size and then he was allowed to propose any time after that. I told him my ring size on our 3 year anniversary. I expected a long wait after I told him my size (which was okay with me!) but he immediately went out and spent the next month searching for rings, and then proposed soon after he got it.
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
No, he definitely had me waiting.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
@MapleMoose: Yeah, I expect that’s how it is for the majority of people who had a waiting period
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Neither for us, but I did have a friend who made her now husband wait. And he did, patiently, for her to get through her anxiety and be ready.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
He is getting a different kind of waiting. He makes me wait for I want so I’m waiting to wear a certain halloween costume in the bedroom. I’m not going to just do foolish things for anyone 
And I don’t think he will be waiting for me when it comes to engagement or marriage.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I am definately waiting for him! BUt I do have friends who made their boy wait. In most cases it was because they were in a different location geographically and therefore there were other factors to consider.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Technically my SO is the one in waiting. I’m waiting on myself and he’s waiting for me to have all my ducks in a row. Although it wouldn’t help for us to be more financially secure (luckily my waiting schedule runs for at least another year).
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
Yes, he made me wait a LONG time.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Nope, he made me wait until we were “old enough” haha 🙁 we both knew that we wanted to be engaged when we first started dating in our senior year of highshool, but chose to wait until third year university (: So I guess it was a sort of mutual waiting experience 😉
Post # 11
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Busy bee
DH wasn’t waiting in the sense that he was anxious to get married (he told me he just wanted to be with me, married or not) — but he was definitely ready for it before I was. He semi-proposed about two years into the relationship, but I was just out of college and in no way ready to be married. I said “Yes…but not now.” It was at least two more years before we said, “Let’s actually get married.”
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I’ve suffered enough through the waiting that i’m now pushing it back on him. We wont be doing any more reno’s until he proposes. I’m not sinking money into a house if we arent gonna get married.
BUt no i am definitely the one waiting for him to get his crap in order.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@Rush1986: And it is usually crap, isn’t it!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I was adamant that I did not want to get married (to anyone, ever) when I met my DH. He felt much differently, but it took about 2 years for me to come around to the idea at all. It was still two more years of engagement before we actually got married (the last 2 years of waiting was for financial reasons), but he would have been ready sooner. I was never the little girl who dreamed of marriage (I felt like it generally just complicated things), and I still think it would have been very unlikely that I would have gotten married if I hadn’t met him.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
Haha. At first I made my SO wait. Even with the I love you’s I made him wait. I didn’t want to but I had to be sure. I met him coming from a 4 year horrific marriage so I had to be sure before I even said ILY. Well that all said and done I told him he would be waiting about 8 years (for the first year of dating these were my conditions) for marriage and another 5 for the possibility of kids. He was ok with it at first but I guess changed his mind. A little over a year into dating he brought up marriage and went on about “I know you don’t want it for 10 years but I can’t stop thinking about it” type of thing. That got me thinking about it and shortly after I told him that I’ve changed my mind on the conditions. That was over a year ago. I’m still waiting now 🙁 Guess the tides have turned so to speak lol