(Closed) SPINOFF: Do you expect gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you expect to receive gifts at your wedding?
    Yes. : (128 votes)
    82 %
    No. : (29 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Honestly, NO. We wanted to have a large wedding (300 people) so we could host a wonderful party with friends and family.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    No, it’s not about gifts. We are having a wedding of only about 100ppl. So, we weren’t worried about how much of anything we’d “get”. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yes. I would never go a wedding empty handed so I would expect that other people would act the same.

    Does that mean I would flip out if someone came to my wedding and didn’t give me a gift?  No.  I would probably just be confused by it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Yes, I expect gifts. I don’t expect them to be expensive or big, nor do I expect them from everyone who attends our wedding. But I anticipate that some of our guests are going to bring gifts. If we receive no gifts I will be surprised and probably sad.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Of course not! Innocent

    ….Okay, maybe just a little bit.  I wouldn’t be angry if people don’t give gifts, but I kinda feel like if my broke-ass self can cough up the money for everyone else’s weddings……

    Post # 9
    Member
    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yes, I expected gifts (with a few noted exceptions). I know our family and friends and they are not the types to attend a wedding without card/cash/check in tow. I was surprised, both good and bad, by some people but it didn’t make me feel any differently about them.

    Post # 10
    Member
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    LOL @ Auntie greeneyedmoon

    The answer is yes. If not my wedding, then when? My funeral (God forbid)?

    Post # 12
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Absolutely. I definitely expected gifts from each one of my guests, even if that gift was a card with something personal written in it. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ Greeneyedmoon –

    I bring a gift to every wedding also. I wasn’t saying that you were inviting people to get gifts at all. My point is, we don’t expect gifts. We decided we would much rather have everyone give up their time to come celebrate with us then get us a gift. Does that make more sense?

    Post # 14
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Yup, I have been to weddings on both sides of the families and I know what these people have done at those weddings, so I do expect to be treated about equally. The best predictor of the future is past behavior. 

    Post # 15
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    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ll fess up, I voted yes. But I think for me it’s more that I know all of my guests well- I could tell you exactly who will give how much and who will give nothing. I would be hurt if the people I know will be generous suddenly weren’t, because my family is super close and I know what they have given to me and to other family in the past. At the same time, I know that I have friends and family who aren’t financially set enough to give a gift and I’m 100% okay with that. I expect nothing from them. I also have rich relatives who are just cheap and won’t give me anything, haha… so they won’t disappoint me, though it’s irritating that they snub other family members to cut their own costs while still expecting lots of gifts, and then don’t give gifts in return… oh, lovely family issues.

    Post # 16
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    Yes, I expect gifts. I just cant imagine attending a wedding and not bringing something-even a card. Or at the very least, sending it a few weeks after the wedding.

    We aren’t having a wedding to get gifts. We’re having a wedding to celebrate with family and friends. But I still feel like gifts are to  be expected.

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