(Closed) Spinoff: Do you have secrets you will never tell your SO?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you have secrets you don't share with your partner?

    Yes, but they are from my long distant past...he dosen't need to know

    Yes, but I plan on telling him "one day"

    No, I'm an open book

    I want to tell him, but I'm afraid.

  • Post # 78
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    Sugar bee

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    @BellsforHer:

    Holy f*ckballs yes, you’re better off not knowing!

    I asked and poor Fiance was badgered into giving me every sorted detail.  It makes absolutely no difference to us and it just served nothing more than to make me feel bad.

    Post # 79
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    9815 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I am married, but that doesn’t mean I am not my own person, and if I choose to keep some things to myself, I feel it’s completely fine to do that. I think some people feel like marriage means you give up some of your rights to certain things (harmless secrets, friends of the opposite sex, can’t go out alone) and I just don’t adhere to that. Do I want to know if my husband used to do fantasy Batman role play with his ex? Nope, not really.

    Post # 80
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    Buzzing bee

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    @KatyElle: You wouldn’t want to know that? I took you for the type to enjoy batman fantasies. Maybe you’re missing out! ๐Ÿ˜‰ totally kidding.

    Post # 81
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

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    @Oneeleven: at least you know that some things ARE better left in the past. Hopefully you can help other women who feel the need to get every detail and make them realize that the gust of it is much better than the detailed version.

    Post # 82
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    @MightySapphire: I don’t get it?? As far as I can see, the OP never said her way was right and everyone else was wrong. Since when is it such a terrible offense to try and understand another’s perspective.

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I’m getting the feeling around here that if you openly disagree with someone of a very high post count, then you don’t have the right to your opinion at all and that isn’t fair.

    Post # 83
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @AnneTossy: I’m a Superman girl myself ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 84
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    Bee Keeper

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    @StormyRose: You should be a Hostess, LOL, you’re better at this than me!

    Post # 85
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

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    @KatyElle:I don’t adhere to that either! But I damn sure would want to know about Batman role playing, if only to make fun of him for it ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 87
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Yep, we are completely open. He is my best friend and I confide in him & he does with me as well. He knows more about me then anyone!

    Post # 88
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t care if you are an open book or not, but I stand by my opinion that I think it’s insane to keep something from your SO/FI simply because you are scared they will throw it back in your face during a fight

     

    Post # 90
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @MightySapphire: I’m a Libra. I always try to look at both sides of a situation. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 91
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    To answer your questions from the first page – some of them involve my sexual past, yes.  I do not have any STDs/etc, so it isn’t something my partner needs to know. 

    I do not think that my partner has a right to demand information on something from my past that does not impact our life together.  If it were something like, I was a hardened criminal who will always be on parole and unable to leave the country, then yes, he would have the right to know that.   

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