(Closed) Spinoff: Do you have secrets you will never tell your SO?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you have secrets you don't share with your partner?

    Yes, but they are from my long distant past...he dosen't need to know

    Yes, but I plan on telling him "one day"

    No, I'm an open book

    I want to tell him, but I'm afraid.

  • Post # 122
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I do have some secrets from my past, but these things took place years and years before I even met him, so he doesn’t need to know. Likewise, I’m sure there are some things I don’t know about him, and I am fine with that. I don’t believe in completely spilling your guts about every last thing to your partner. DH knows about the “big ticket items.” But the smaller stuff that happened in the past and in no way, shape, or form affects me today? Why even bother bringing it up?

    Post # 123
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    9478 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’re both open books.  We have nothing to hide whatsoever. 🙂

    Post # 124
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    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    yea i have secrets.  i always will.  i’m just that kind of girl.  but they aren’t like horrible deal breaking secrets like if he were to find out he’d think OH MY GOD.  it’s just my belief that i’m allowed to have secrets.  as long as they aren’t current secrets that could possibly damage our relationship i see no harm.  and he’s allowed to have secrets too, i don’t care.  i trust him. 

     

     

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    @Reign14:  lol i’m a scorpio too

    Post # 125
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    Buzzing bee

    I’ve told Fiance almost everything.  But, there is something that I haven’t told him and I want to, but not sure if I ever will.

    I was sexually abused my entire life by my cousin.  It went on until I was 19.  That same cousin is in a relationship with Future Sister-In-Law.  I don’t want to piss Fiance off and start anything, so I am afraid to tell him.  I told Future Sister-In-Law and she got really mad at me, so I decided not to tell anyone else.  Fiance does know that I was sexually abused, but doesn’t know how long it went on, the extent of it, and who did it to me.

    Post # 126
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    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

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    @Pinksapphire: she got mad at YOU?  [insults redacted by moderation]

    sorry not making fun of what happened to you but that is disgusting and the fact that she would turn it around on you is disgusting.   her poor little ego couldn’t take the fact that her boyfriend had abused you for years.  [insults redacted by moderation]

    Post # 127
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    Blushing bee

    I have secrets I’ll never tell him.

    Certain things just aren’t worth bringing up.  The past is the past…

    Post # 128
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Nobody on planet earth needs to know my every single secret. Nobody. I believe that relationships should be a nice balance of openness and privacy. We are individuals that have chosen to come together. It’s our seperate experiences that have made us who we are and they should be respected. If its something that  directly and can currently affect him, yes. But my personal shit that has no bearing on his life, absolutely not. Thankfully my FH feels the same why and which is why we mesh so well.

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