(Closed) Spinoff: Do you like sharing a bed?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do You like sharing a bed?
    Yes I love it. : (149 votes)
    53 %
    Most of the time its fine, but some nights I would rather be alone. : (111 votes)
    39 %
    No I hate it. : (16 votes)
    6 %
    We sleep seperately. : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 47
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    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have a love/hate relationship sharing a bed with Fiance. I love cuddling with him and having him near me and we often sleep touching in some way BUT he has restless leg syndrom. Often time he doesn’t start moving until he falls asleep, but he ALWAY falls asleep before me and I can’t fall asleep with him tossing, turning, kicking and shaking. He’s also hit me in his sleep and just last week I had to move his arm before he full on elbowed me in the face.

    When his legs don’t bother him, he’s great to sleep next to. And I’m a sound enough sleeper that I don’t notice once I’m asleep. BUT falling asleep can be really hard!

    Post # 48
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I can’t sleep when he’s away. No, really, I would just stay up and stare at the ceiling or watch TV all night. I don’t WANT to be that way by any means. He travels sometimes and I am perfectly independent and capable of handling all other aspects of my life when he’s gone. But I still absolutely CANNNOT SLEEP A WINK when he’s not in bed. 

    We have a Queen, but he actually jokes all the time that we should just get a Twin and save some space, because we never use half of the bed. I just snuggle right up to wherever he is. 

    Post # 48
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I can’t sleep when he’s away. No, really, I would just stay up and stare at the ceiling or watch TV all night. I don’t WANT to be that way by any means. He travels sometimes and I am perfectly independent and capable of handling all other aspects of my life when he’s gone. But I still absolutely CANNNOT SLEEP A WINK when he’s not in bed. 

    We have a Queen, but he actually jokes all the time that we should just get a Twin and save some space, because we never use half of the bed. I just snuggle right up to wherever he is. 

    Post # 49
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    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Aubergold: I’m the one in our relationship that likes to roll with the covers.  I tend to make myself a cacoon in my sleep.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 51
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    9028 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I love sharing a bed with Darling Husband. growing up I always had a single bed. My sister and I would push our beds together [once the bunk bed was taken apart] to create a twin bed and loved sleeping near each other. I used to roll around a lot and was notorious for kicking her off the bed or falling off the bedt mysefl.  It took a while to get adjusted to sleeping with Dh because I am greedy with the comforter and at first he would end up with no cover at all and I would push him to the very edge of the bed where was about to fall off. but now I’ve adjusted and we sleep together just fine.

    Post # 52
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @scadadle15: Ditto on the platform bed and the bigger-than-we-need comforter. Those two things solved most of our sleeping problems–me having to get up and pee at least once a night, him being weird and shoving the blankets off of himself and onto the floor on my side of the bed. (I refuse to admit I steal the blankets ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I love sleeping with Darling Husband. Neither of us are cuddlers and our bed is a double. He’s close enough that if I wake up in the middle of the night I can move my arm 6″ and feel him. 

    It’s taken work on both parts to get to a comfortable place, though, like the platform bed and huge comforter. I can’t sleep unless every light in the room is covered, and there’s a fan on and pointing at me (or heater, it’s the white noise/air circulation I need). He can’t sleep unless he’s listening to a book on his iPod. He’s taken my high-maintanence sleep demands in stride (he’ll go around and cover all the lights before he comes to be), and I don’t mind the iPod. The only thing that irritates me is he likes to stretch on the bed before he goes to sleep, and there’s no way I can sleep through that. But it usually only lasts 5 minutes or so.  

    Post # 53
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    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My favorite sleeping position is something I like to call the starfish…face down in the middle with my arms and legs in each one of the corners. It’s a bit hard to do when you share the bed. Plus, I generally like it really cold, Darling Husband just adds too much body heat sometimes. 

    Post # 54
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    484 posts
    Helper bee

    I love sharing a bed with my SO, especially in the winter when we can snuggle up to each other for warmth ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 55
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i currently have a queen bed, but i grew up sleeping in a twin bed, plus i have a memory foam mattress that doesn’t transfer movement the way a regular mattress does, and i get up when Fiance has to anyway because DS usually gets me up before he leaves for work.  plus i really like being able to roll over and spontaneously snuggle Fiance in the night, or first thing in the morning before getting up, and it’s nice to wake up to Fiance spontaneously snuggling me.  so i personally love it.

    Post # 56
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    7776 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Ugh… not right now I don’t. We really need a bigger bed. We have a queen right now and our next will be a king or a california king, for sure. We both like to sprawl and we can’t do that in our bed.

    Plus, one fabulous pregnancy symptom I’ve developed is snoring, so it annoys him. So he’s been having a rough time dealing with that. I’ve been having a rough time dealing with him whining about me snoring. lol

    Post # 57
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    FH and I used to have a LDR and it was hell for me. I never liked to sleep alone, and once we became a couple, we started this habit of skyping every night. It evolved into placing the laptop on the nightstand and keeping it on all night. Even when he had the lights off, I could hear him and that made it better. 

    I love evrything about sleeping in one bed with him, even though we’re both move a lot while sleeping. One time in the middle of the night, he accidently slapped my in the face, woke up right that second and was mortified. He apologized a thousand times and felt bad about it, especially since I yelled at him “OUCH! What the F***, honey?!”.

    I have no memories about any of that, I didn’t even really wake up.

    Post # 58
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Most of the time it’s great, but sometimes I have trouble. He stretches a lot in his sleep and his elbow generally ends up near/in my eye, which is no fun. I also like a lot of blankets in a chilly room and he likes no/few blankets in a warm room, so it’s hard to strike a balance there.

    Also, his night/morning breath is SO GROSS I can’t even explain, so when he’s sleeping facing the inside of the bed, I can’t also be sleeping facing inside, because his breath just gets all up in my face and makes me gag (we share a Queen size so our heads are relatively close).

    We shared a King size once recently in a hotel and to be honest, I didn’t like it. It was nice to have room to stretch out a little and to not have to worry about his breath in my face if I rolled over, but I felt too alone and like I had too much bed — I couldn’t feel him in bed with me at all, and if I moved out of my “warm spot” it was cold next to me (in between us) instead of the whole bed being warm.

    All that being said, I absolutely, point-blank, cannot fall asleep without him in bed. If I go to bed before him, no matter how sleepy I am, I can’t fall into a restful sleep until he gets there. At most I can doze off and toss and turn fitfully in a half-asleep state, but I can’t actually sleep-sleep until he comes to bed too.

    Post # 59
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    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I hate sleeping without my husband… Since we have been married it has only happened once and I could not sleep at all. We actually sleep amazingly together at first it was kinda hard, we would steal eachothers blankets and I would push him to the edge of the bed but we got used to it and he keeps me warm. We always wake up a little before he goes to work to cuddle ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Hubby snores.  Loudly.  Nuff said.

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