(Closed) Spinoff: Do you regret anything?

posted 7 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i was pretty happy with the way i budgeted my money but the one thing i do regret is not spending money to hire a videographer. one thing i did do, that i dont regret at all is spending the extra cash to extend the reception by an hour, we just werent ready to quit dancing yet. – which meant an extra hour for DJ and the Bar.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My husband and I had three ceremonies; civilly to buy our house, just me and him at the courthouse, the big shebang we spent all that time on, and a convalidation in the church with a handful of family and friends with a little pink dress and cupcakes at our place after.
If I had it to do over again, I’d have a mixture of the second and third. In the church, cupcakes at our house, a good photographer, end of story. I can think of so many other things to do with that money. When I think of the wedding we spent all the money on….it was fun but it was a largely empty experience. It wasn’t worth all the stress and expense. I realized that all I really cared about was the people.
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friends’ wedding a few months prior. They spent 5K max and – I think- had a lovelier wedding than we did.

Post # 5
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I also regret not hiring a videographer. Biggest wedding regret, even 9 months later!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m happy with how the budget ended up – I don’t feel that I went totally overboard – I’m glad I did a photobooth, full bar etc.  I wasn’t totally happy with our DJ.  He was ‘fine’ but nothing special.  I probably would have spent double for something else… and at the time just didn’t want to deal with finding someone else (or paying more money).  

The one regret I still have is guest list.  I ended up cutting about 20 people (trying to save costs). I had more no-shows than I expected and could have easily invited them… but didn’t.  That still makes me feel bad to this day.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We spent a lot of money on our wedding, but it was just how much things costs. Here is a little breakdown by category.

Favors: Glad we didn’t do them.

Invites: Didn’t spend a lot of money and it didn’t seem to matter.

Attire: Splurged! Spent 7k between dress, accesories, and alterations and I felt like an absolute princess.

Flowers: Shopped around and went with a florist who just opened her own shop. Don’t kill yourself on the bridesmaids bouquets and if you have lighting you don’t need to go crazy on your ceremony flowers.

Lighting: Changed the whol atmosphere of the wedding. Best 2k we spent.

DJ: People still talk about our DJ 9 months later. A DJ can really make or break the wedding, please don’t skimp.

Photographer: Great pictures, but shouldn’t have spent so much money upgrading our album.

Videographer: Went with someone inexpensive and are just happy to have the footage.

Venue & Food: Sit down dinner with open bar. Noone acted ridiculous with the open bar but really made people feel like they were appreciated as guests. Set a different mood.

Limos: Nothing fancy, got us from point A to B. I did get an extra one for parents grandparents, and it was just great not to worry about anyone and have everyone in one place.

Makeup/Hair: Get you makeup and hair professionally done. 12 hours later everything was still in place.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@PitBulLover: boooo. I’m not having one, and currently am ignoring any inclination that they could somehow be worth it. Then people post their videos and I die a little from the awesomeness. I can’t afford one, and that’s why I’m bitter about it! 🙁

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@twist- I would shop around and keep asking. The videographers I looked at wouldn’t start under 5k and I immediately said no. And then I started askign around and there were a lot of hidden videographers out there. They weren’t as high tech but they get the job done and still do edits and some extras.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@PitBulLover: DITTO!!! I wish I had the video and would have cut something out of somewhere else.

We doubled (maybe even tripled) our original budget, the stress of doing that right before the wedding almost killed me, however, that day was stinking perfect. I wouldn’t change it for anything. When I look back through the pictures and all the little details, I can’t wait to show our children when they’re older. (Really I know that’s crazy but that’s what I think about) That day was fantastic and I don’t regret any of the money spent.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@mwitter80: Yeah it sucks. Esp because I could have figured out a way to have one!

@.twist.: Honestly people told me beforehand that it wouldnt matter, that pictures would be enough, that no one watches their wedding video, etc, etc. And now, all I wish is to be able to see a live action version of our wedding day! Even if you cant afford a videographer, make sure you talk to a friend to at least record something on a digitaly camera or a Flip cam!!

Post # 12
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I am starting to think it would have been worth it to have a wedding video….

Post # 13
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I could have spent less money on the cake. We had way too much of it!

Also, I wish we had more candles everywhere, but that’s minor.

I don’t really have any other regrets

Post # 14
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

the dust hasnt really settled yet from mine, but I really think I spent too much money on 1) invites and 2) escort cards. I DIYed them and poor budgeting skills on the paper and little crafty things meant I went super over budget on them.

Post # 15
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@PitBulLover: AGREED! i have like 2 (short) videos that my mother kindly recorded during the reception on her flip – it was such a tease! but im glad i got to see something at least – i wrote it off just like everyone else because of cost and people saying how it wasnt important.

Post # 16
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

2 of our vendors messed up but I have zero regret for how much or what we spent money on (using Roxy’s format):

Favors: So glad I did them.  I spent $75 in fleece material and made scarves (.50/person) which were perfect.  Some of my favorite pics of the reception are people wearing them and all of them were gone.  Not one left behind and guests still tell me and mom how they use them.

Invites/programs/escort cards/all paper items: I paid $200 in material and made them.  I had pocketfolds and RSVP cards and I sewed the programs.

Attire: $1,200 including alterations.  I loved how my shoes looked and I LOVED my dress.

Flowers: $600.  I made fabric bouts, corsages, and bouquets.  I found a new florist and gave her my $500 budget for real flowers and they were perfect.  I had a mix of tall and short centerpieces.

Lighting: $1500.  I can’t say that I would’ve missed it but after havseeing it in action, the reception looked awesome with it.  Even the pictures are incredible with the lighting.

DJ: We splurged a little because they came with lighting and after 500+ reviews, not a single one less than 5 stars.  They were awesome.

Photographer: We found a mid range one for our area but I couldn’t be happier with them.  I love the pictures and we received so many.  I definitely recommend 2 photographers. 

Videographer: We found the cheapest HD videographer we could find and I love the video.  I cry every time.  It really shows me all the little things that I missed.

Venue & Food: We went with Sunday to save $1100.  The venue was beautiful and the food was great.  We had a variety of beer and wine and people had a great time.

Limos: Didn’t do this.  But my house (boys getting ready), hotel where I was getting ready, and venue were all within 5 minutes.

Makeup/Hair: Had my hair professionally done since I can’t and had my sister do my makeup.  She’s amazing and might as well be professional.

Hotel: I spent the night with my girls in a pricey but large hotel room and I would not change this at all.  The night before the special ladies in my family came over and we played games and drank a little wine.  It was a beautiful place to get ready in and then the hotel allowed us to have our first look there.

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