(Closed) (Spinoff) Do you share a bed with your husband/wife? [POLL]

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What is your sleeping arrangement with your FI/DH/DW/SO?

    We sleep in the same bed.

    We sleep in different beds in the same room, like Lucy and Ricky.

    We sleep in different beds in different rooms.

    We use the same bed but sleep at different times (shift work).

  • Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We sleep in the same bed, unless one of us has a really bad cold that’s going to disturb the other’s sleep and then one of us will sleep in the spare bed. Or if he’s been out on a Friday night and I have to work the next day, then he will sneak in quietly and sleep in the spare bed. I work two Saturdays a month and have to get up at 5:30 AM so it really sucks to have him crawl into bed a few hours before I have to get up.

    Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper

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    gingerkitten:  I could never imagine not sleeping in the same room let alone bed without my husband. While obviously we started off sleeping in separate beds when we lived apart, once the sleepovers started and we picked our sides of the bed, we’d always adjust the bed for our partner when we’d sleep over.  So if I slept over he decreased the firmness in his bed so that I could sleep, or if he slept over, I’d add more pillows on the bed for him.  Despite working opposite schedules, we always sleep together.  I couldn’t imagine it any other way.  As one who was raised to never go to bed angry, we’re that couple that never does.  Whenever the other one wants to get pissy and sleep on the couch, the other one convinces that one to come back to bed because we just can’t sleep without each other.  That sounds really needy, I know, but it’s become a standard in our relationship as a couple who has slept in the same bed for over a year every single night, and add a few more months onto that whenever we slept over, we don’t sleep apart.  Even though he snores like a chainsaw.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    My fiance is 6’8” and we share a bed, but I did purchase a California King this past summer since he needs the extra space.   

    Post # 19
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Together in same bed except for when one of us gets sick with something contagious, or that causes us to get up often. Luckily it doesn’t happen often, but we are the type that when we are sick we kinda want space. When we aren’t sick though, we just find we sleep better cuddled up with each other. 

    Post # 20
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    Newbee

    Separate beds saved our relationship!

    Sleep is crazy important. I spent several nights sleeping on the living room floor, crying, still hearing his snoring. <br />I thought we were going to have to break up.

    We’re both light sleepers. The more I tossed from his snoring, the more he tossed from my tossing. He runs hot, so he was always scooting off the the edge of the bed to get away from me and the cats. I was falling off the other edge.

    We both thought the other was taking WAY more than half the bed.

    It was a train wreck!

    We now sleep in seperate beds in the same room, with fans, for white noise.

    The white noise is important for snoring!

    He tucks me into bed bed every night, with a kiss. We both sleep well. Life is good.

     

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted for we sleep in the same bed, but there are parts of our sleeping that are separate because he works until midnight some nights and I get up at 6.30 so we do sleep in the bed alone for bits of the night too. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’ve got twin beds pushed together in an L shape with our heads together. We can reach out and hold hands while laying in bed. We’re both major sprawlers when we sleep and we like different cover levels. We’re working on getting a king bed and we’re still toying with the idea of getting twin bedding for each side so we can have our own. Whenever we visit my parents we sleep in a queen bed and the battle for the covers is all night long. On one visit he left to stay somewhere else for a night and I pulled all of the covers onto the floor of my side of the bed because I had gotten used to pulling against him in my sleep. 

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee

    I voted “we use the same bed but sleep at different times,” because this is partially true.  My partner and I do not work the same shifts, and so while we sometimes sleep together, about 60% of his sleeping time is solo, and ditto with my sleeping time.  But when we are in the bed together, we’re also sharing the bed with two large dogs and one of our two cats.  So it’s pretty crowded.  I keep pushing for a king (we currently have a queen), but he says that our bedroom isn’t big enough.  I disagree.  We’re going to have to replace the bed in about two years, anyway, so maybe we’ll discuss the possibility of a larger bed at that time.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You already know my situation from my other thread but I too was surprised by the amount of Bees who commented that say too sleep or would like to sleep in seperate beds.    

    Something I didnt write in my post was that I work shifts, so even if I wasnt such a light sleeper and if DH wasnt a loud breather, i would probably still sleep in the spare room on nights where I work until 12am so i dont disturb DH. He also gets up for work at 5am every weekday and I know he wouldnt want to wake me either knowing i would not be able to get back to sleep.

    After reviewing my last thread I am no longer worried about us sleeping in seperate rooms. Its working for us at the moment and if it ever becomes an issue we will find a solution at that point.  

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We share the same bed, although we have slightly different sleeping schedules so we don’t always go to bed together.  DH works from home, so he doesn’t have to get up as early as I do, which also means he’s usually up later than me.  On the weekends though, I like to stay up later and we end up going to bed at the same time.

    We used to share a Full sized bed when we lived with roommates and after we bought our house, I was adamant about getting a King, but DH insisted we get a Queen size since he thought our room wouldn’t be large enough.  I won that battle and we love the King size!  After being squished in a Full that sagged in the middle for nearly 2 years, it felt amazing that we could both sprawl out and have room to spare!

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    gingerkitten:  I’m lucky enough that DH works 11pm-7am so I get the bed to myself most nights. The days he’s off and works day shifts I do have issues sleeping and most of the time end up in the spare… But I’m also 7 months pregnant.. So it’s hard for me to sleep 

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    gingerkitten:  We are 50/50. We have a bad combo of me being a super light sleeper and him being a snorer so some nights if there’s any hope of me sleeping, I have to be in a different bed. Sucks, but gotta get some Zzzzzzs!

    We do have a foam mattress that works great if your spouse is a fidgeter! Can’t feel a thing!

    Post # 28
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    We struggled with sleeping in the same bed at first.  A good king bed and earplugs fixed all that.  

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Double post…

    Post # 30
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We sleep in the same bed (a double, but we fit okay). Neither of us snore unless we’re sick, though DH wakes me up sometimes when he talks in his sleep.

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