Post # 46
We don’t snoop. We’re pretty open with who we talk to/what about etc. we do use each others phones from time to time (ie I had to go to work, Darling Husband dropped me off (my car was in the shop), I left my phone at home, so he gave me his for the day), or check them/read messages for the other when asked (i.e. Driving or cooking or busy). I trust Darling Husband and he trusts me. plus we are both horrid liars and could just ask if we had an uneasy feeling
Post # 47
I take way too many selfies, mostly to check my hair and makeup. it’s embarrassing when people see that.
Post # 48
No, never. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I respect each other’s privacy, and that is important in our relationship. Even if I were to hand him my phone, I know he wouldn’t go through anything except pictures of our late furbaby, because he lost his pictures when his phone acted up. The closest I have ever come to snooping was to ask his friend what he may possibly want for Christmas, because he refuses to give me any hints.
Post # 49
I don’t consider what I do “snooping” but occasionally around the holidays I’ll check his email if he has left it up to see if there had been any emails about family gatherings, the details of which would be helpful for me to know. We both have the same passwords for our phone and while we don’t go through each others phones I wouldn’t be upset if he did. Drawers and things are community space IMO unless one of us were to specifically request a private drawer.
Post # 50
No snooping, but we’re very open with our phones and computers, like we know each others passwords etc (not so the other one can snoop, but we gave them to each other at some point), which gives confidence.
Post # 51
I snooped with my ex, because it became obvious that he was hiding things and it was the only way i could get the truth, he would lie to my face non stop. Hiding and locking his phone, becoming very secretive and would go out for all hours and not tell me where he was and get angry when I asked (like would walk in the door at 6 am when I was leaving for work with no explanation), and locking his computer. Of course I snooped, and of course, he was hiding things – flirtatious conversations and hook ups with other girls, collecting them like a harem of them behind my back. And ironically when he realized I was snooping, he made me out to be the crazy and distrustful one, and used that as a reason to continue the cheating behaviour. I feel totally justified in snooping on him, if I hadn’t I might still be tangled in his web of lies.
With my Darling Husband, I’ve never felt even the need to snoop. He doesn’t hide anything, he keeps his phone and computer visable. He doesn’t act secretive at all.
Who’s marriage material? Bachelor number #1 or bachelor #2? LOL.
I think if you feel the need to snoop, that tingling ‘off’ feeling, you’re probably going to find something. Walks like a duck,…all that jazz.