Post # 1
So there was another thread on here about a guest taking a rental vase and not returning it.
At our own wedding, we had half the centrepieces rented (tall vases with birch wood and moss) and the other half I made myself (gold geometric metal shapes with succulents and moss on a wood slab). Towards the end of the night, one of my bridesmaids comes over and says “Hey! Did you tell people they could take your centrepieces?” It caught me so off guard, I was like “What?? No???” And she goes “Ok cause people are literally just picking them up off the table and leaving with them!” Luckily she had been going around and putting all the rented ones aside once she saw what was happening.
It just got me wondering.. is this a common thing in your circle or where you’re from? Did it happen at your wedding? I can honestly say I have never been to a wedding where I’ve thought “That’s a nice centrepiece. I’m just going to take it home with me.”
Maybe cause I’m from a generation where most of us seem to be renting our centrepieces, it’s never even crossed my mind to take one. It seemed at our wedding it was mostly middle aged people taking them. Maybe it’s a generational thing? But to me it is SO WEIRD that people would just do that without even asking!
Post # 2
Even if the bride and groom said “sure that’s fine” I don’t think I would take a centerpiece. That’s kinda odd to me XDD
Post # 3
i never have only because I’ve only been to 3 weddings I didn’t have to fly in for; 2 didn’t have floral centerpieces, 1 didn’t ask people to take them.
That said, if there had been a pretty floral centerpiece at a local wedding and the B&G did ask people to go ahead and take them, then sure I’d have done that! I like flowers as much as the next person. 🙂
ETA: I’d never ask to take them though, its more if they went ahead and made an announcement asking people to take them.
Post # 4
It would never even cross my mind.
Post # 5
It definitely was a thing in the 80’s and 90’s when my family went to weddings for some reason but I think that was before everyone figured out they could Just rent everything.
Post # 6
I think that’s an older generation thing – I have never even considered taking a centerpiece, but I went to the wedding of an older couple and they were so surprised no one was taking them. I actually heard the bride say “what, are they not good enough?” We ended up taking a couple just to make them feel better.
I don’t think rentals were as common in previous years, it’s an adjustment for some.
Post # 7
nope, it’s weird. Would you do it at somneone’s house? “Oh thanks for dinner, I’m just going to leave now and oh by the way I’m taking the flowers”. Nope. You wouldn’t. Even if the centerpieces weren’t rented it’s still super tacky! What if the bride planned to use them again? Or sell them? It’s not a “thing” to take things that don’t belong to you without permission – it’s just stealing. Even if you’re wearing a fancy outfit.
Post # 8
you’ve never heard an announcement asking people to take them? I can think of at least 3 weddings (unfortunately all ones I flew in for :() where there was an announcement at the end of the night asking people to PLEASE take the centerpieces.
100% agree though it’d be hella tacky to just assume or even presume to ask.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t unless the bride and groom or MC explicitly said that guests are encouraged to take them and they happened to be something I would want to take. I most certainly would not assume they were there for the taking, nor would I think to ask if I could.That seems like such a strange thing to do! They are decorations, not favours. Would you climb up on your chair and start putting light-strings or streamers into your purse? lol
I have been to a couple weddings where the centrepieces were partially made up of the favours, but this was explicitly stated and we were told which parts we were supposed to take home (in one case it was candles and in another, flowers).
Post # 10
I took one once. I was a family friend and helped with the wedding, so I was allowed to take it.
I let people take our flowers because I wouldn’t be around to enjoy them.
Post # 11
I never think to take centerpieces at a wedding. I did end up with two of them – one my friend insisted I take and the other my aunt gave to me (it was her daughter’s wedding).
No one took our centerpieces on the night of the wedding but we had a gathering the next day and gave them to various people. They were beautiful (and expensive 😬) flower arrangements, we were going out of the country the next day, and we wanted them to be enjoyed before they died.
Post # 12
The majority of the weddings I have been to have given away the centrepiece. Usually they are won somehow. However, I would only consider taking one of I won it.
Post # 13
I have never been to a wedding where centerpieces were given away (by announcement or whatever).
I might take it if I liked it and it was ok, but probably not lol.
Post # 14
I do think it’s an older generation thing. I see it happen at showers, funerals (flower arrangements, not so much centerpieces) and sometimes weddings. I also used to at an event space and they would often offer up the centerpieces to guests at the end of the night….we even got to take them home if they were left behind.
I don’t think it happens so often anymore because people rent expensive vases and centerpiece decor. Before it was just a bouquet of flowers in a cheap vase.
Post # 15
No, i would never unless I was very close with the bride and she offered/insisted. However I’ve just recently been to a wedding where this was a thing. . . . . It was a cousin of my fiance’s; wedding and somehow or another his uncle convinced my significant other to drive this centerpiece home with us, 9 hours from Boston to almost baltimore so his grandmother could have it. . . . I was less than pleased.
Now I’m a month out from my own wedding and I’m terrified this is normal in my fiance’s family circle.