SPINOFF: do you take the centrepieces at weddings?

posted 3 years ago in Decor
  • poll: Do you take the centrepieces at weddings?

    Yes, isn’t that what they’re there for?!

    Only if the bride/ groom said it was okay.

    No, that’s super weird!

    Only cause I turn into a kleptomaniac when I drink and want to steal something hehe.

  • Post # 2
    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Even if the bride and groom said “sure that’s fine” I don’t think I would take a centerpiece. That’s kinda odd to me XDD

    Post # 3
    9385 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    i never have only because I’ve only been to 3 weddings I didn’t have to fly in for; 2 didn’t have floral centerpieces, 1 didn’t ask people to take them. 

    That said, if there had been a pretty floral centerpiece at a local wedding and the B&G did ask people to go ahead and take them, then sure I’d have done that!  I like flowers as much as the next person. 🙂

    ETA: I’d never ask to take them though, its more if they went ahead and made an announcement asking people to take them.

    Post # 4
    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    It would never even cross my mind.

    Post # 5
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    It definitely was a thing in the 80’s and 90’s when my family went to weddings for some reason but I think that was before everyone figured out they could Just rent everything. 

    Post # 6
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    I think that’s an older generation thing – I have never even considered taking a centerpiece, but I went to the wedding of an older couple and they were so surprised no one was taking them. I actually heard the bride say “what, are they not good enough?” We ended up taking a couple just to make them feel better. 

    I don’t think rentals were as common in previous years, it’s an adjustment for some. 

    Post # 7
    9375 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    brittnamrogo :  nope, it’s weird. Would you do it at somneone’s house? “Oh thanks for dinner, I’m just going to leave now and oh by the way I’m taking the flowers”. Nope. You wouldn’t. Even if the centerpieces weren’t rented it’s still super tacky! What if the bride planned to use them again? Or sell them? It’s not a “thing” to take things that don’t belong to you without permission – it’s just stealing. Even if you’re wearing a fancy outfit.

    Post # 8
    9385 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

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    LilliV :  you’ve never heard an announcement asking people to take them? I can think of at least 3 weddings (unfortunately all ones I flew in for :() where there was an announcement at the end of the night asking people to PLEASE take the centerpieces.

    100% agree though it’d be hella tacky to just assume or even presume to ask.

    Post # 9
    2971 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I wouldn’t unless the bride and groom or MC explicitly said that guests are encouraged to take them and they happened to be something I would want to take. I most certainly would not assume they were there for the taking, nor would I think to ask if I could.That seems like such a strange thing to do! They are decorations, not favours.  Would you climb up on your chair and start putting light-strings or streamers into your purse? lol

    I have been to a couple weddings where the centrepieces were partially made up of the favours, but this was explicitly stated and we were told which parts we were supposed to take home (in one case it was candles and in another, flowers).

    Post # 10
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I took one once.  I was a family friend and helped with the wedding, so I was allowed to take it. 

    I let people take our flowers because I wouldn’t be around to enjoy them. 

    Post # 11
    600 posts
    Busy bee

    I never think to take centerpieces at a wedding. I did end up with two of them – one my friend insisted I take and the other my aunt gave to me (it was her daughter’s wedding).

    No one took our centerpieces on the night of the wedding but we had a gathering the next day and gave them to various people. They were beautiful (and expensive 😬) flower arrangements, we were going out of the country the next day, and we wanted them to be enjoyed before they died.

    Post # 12
    1034 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    The majority of the weddings I have been to have given away the centrepiece. Usually they are won somehow. However, I would only consider taking one of I won it.

    Post # 13
    7994 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I have never been to a wedding where centerpieces were given away (by announcement or whatever). 

    I might take it if I liked it and it was ok, but probably not lol. 

    Post # 14
    4295 posts
    Honey bee

    I do think it’s an older generation thing.  I see it happen at showers, funerals (flower arrangements, not so much centerpieces) and sometimes weddings.  I also used to at an event space and they would often offer up the centerpieces to guests at the end of the night….we even got to take them home if they were left behind.

    I don’t think it happens so often anymore because people rent expensive vases and centerpiece decor. Before it was just a bouquet of flowers in a cheap vase.

    Post # 15
    84 posts
    Worker bee

    No, i would never unless I was very close with the bride and she offered/insisted. However I’ve just recently been to a wedding where this was a thing. . . . . It was a cousin of my fiance’s; wedding and somehow or another his uncle convinced my significant other to drive this centerpiece home with us,  9 hours from Boston to almost baltimore so his grandmother could have it. . . . I was less than pleased. 

    Now I’m a month out from my own wedding and I’m terrified this is normal in my fiance’s family circle. 

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