Post # 16
I once went to a wedding where an announcement was made encouraging guests to take home the centerpieces and champagne glasses, so I happily obliged in that case. But I would NEVER just assume I could take one.
At my own wedding, it didn’t occur to me to make an announcement, but then at the end of the night we were left with tons of centerpieces and felt bad throwing them away. My mom, sister, and wedding coordinator (some of the only people left at the end of the night) ended up taking most of them. My centerpieces were just florals, though — nothing rented.
Post # 17
I voted that it’s weird as f-ck to me! So no, never would I try to do that….
Post # 18
- Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK
Back when I married the first time, nearly thirty years ago, this was very common in my circles. Centerpieces were florals in cheap vases and were given away after the event. Most of the time, the person at each table who’s birthday was closest to the date of the event would “win” it.
Post # 19
I used to help out a florist friend to set up and take down weddings. We would go a few minutes before it was scheduled to end, take the flowers out, dump the water from the vases, and take out all the vases (which were almost always owned by the florist). We would put all the vase-less bundles of flowers by the door and encourage guests to take them. Otherwise, they just got thrown away, which is sad. They are so pretty!
It seems pretty common that the vases are rented, but the flowers are fair game.
Post # 20
Wedding and shower centerpieces are always up for grabs in my area. I don’t take them because I have enough useless knick knacks of my own, but it’s customary that whoever wants them can take them.
Post # 21
That’s so weird! I can’t imagine taking someone’s centerpiece. I don’t think I’ve ever even been to a wedding where people do that. Good to know though… I guess it’s something to be aware of. Maybe try supergluing them to a the table?(; jk!
Post # 22
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
At our wedding we played a game and the winner from each table got to take home the centrepiece
Post # 23
I’ve been to and worked weddings where they are literally begging people to take the centerpieces with them! I would only take something if it were handed to me by the wedding party.
Post # 24
Haha so it seems to be that the general consensus is that you *dont* take the centrepieces unless they are offered up for grabs. It does seem to be a generational thing (and a regional thing it appears too!), but I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks it’s weird. I thought I was just being a spoiled brat and unaware of some kind of etiquette haha!
Post # 25
At one wedding I attended, there was a game and a person at each table “won” the centerpiece (they were lanterns). At my wedding I plan to keep one for myself and give away the rest to my mom, mother in law, grandparents, and anyone else who wants one. There are also various charities that you can donate your flowers to and they will deliver them to various hospitals and nursing homes which I think is a great idea. But no, I wouldn’t just take one without permission!
Post # 26
- Wedding: February 2019 - City, State
So I voted yes, but I would only do that if I was close to the bride or groom and they clearly said people can take them.
Post # 27
this visual is actually pretty hilarious to think of 😂 I never thought of it that way. It’s common in our circle to take center pieces home so I’m designing and budgeting for something they can take home but won’t break the bank.
Post # 29
I’ve been to a few weddings where the centerpieces went home with guests that I made sure that all of my bossy aunts knew that our centerpieces WERE NOT up for grabs. I knew they’d be the police and make sure none of our rented vases slipped out the door.
Our wedding planner arranged for the flowers to be taken out of the rented vases and put them into disposable containers of some kind. Then she donated them to a local nursing home for the residents to enjoy.
Post # 30
So at all the high school formals, the centerpieces were made by hand and were raffles off as prizes, or you could take them home.
I’ve been to a few weddings where we were encouraged to take them home. I default to not taking them unless I’ve been given a green light AND they look like they can serve a purpose. Otherwise, I won’t even ask.
I saved a lot of glass jars that I painted over for centerpieces. People can take that shit home. Don’t know why they want to, but I’m not keeping them.