Post # 31
We transferred my centerpieces to cheaper vases and donated them to a local nursing home. It seemed like such a waste to spend all of that money on flowers only to throw them away. We were leaving to go to Hawaii otherwise I would have kept some for myself!
Post # 32
It is and was never OK to take a centerpiece unless specifically offered to you.
Post # 33
I never knew this was a thing until coming to weddingbee
Post # 34
No I’ve never heard of it. I ended up giving away lots of the table flowers the following day at our bbq.
Post # 35
I’m actually having this same concern. I can totally picture my aunt trying to take the centerpieces because I remember her doing this at my cousins wedding. Are venue you rent the vases and some of the other decor items and that’s what brings the price down. But i was wondering if I was going to have to go around and tell people but it sounds like it’s pretty common now days. But the weddings I have gone to I never once thought to take the centerpieces.
Post # 36
I gmhave only heard of this from the bee, I think it’s so weird.
Post # 37
I’ve only taken a centerpiece once, and it’s because it was forced on me by my aunt at my cousin’s wedding – but each centerpiece must have cost £5 if that, it was a plastic charger plate, a vase with some pebbles, and a candle. I would never think to take one without being severely pushed into it. There’s so many people who rent them these days that I’d not risk it, and my house is already full of stuff!
Post # 38
I’ve been to a few weddings where you had to play games to win the centerpiece…like brah, I don’t want to play musical chairs just so I can take the flowers from my table home.
At my own wedding, the flowers were taken out of their vases…they were in another smaller plastic vase and given out to whoever wanted them.
Post # 39
I would say it’s normal in that people do this in my family, but I would never do this!
Post # 40
Nope never have. I went to one wedding where the couple was trying to get guests to take them to get them off their hands but people didn’t even want to take them ironically. I still didn’t take it because I didn’t want it and neither did anyone else at the table. It’s also never occured to me to take one. I guess there’s just certain types of people that it may be normal in their circle but definitely not a norm to me.
Post # 41
I’ve definitely heard brides tell people to take the centerpieces. I never do because I usually have to fly in for weddings and don’t need the hassle in going home.
My cousin put a sticker on one place card per table – the person who RSVPed first at the table – to take home the centerpiece at her wedding.
Post # 42
I think it’s a tradition thing, because I’ve only ever seen older people doing it…? Though normally if the centerpieces are up for grabs, there’s some kind of announcement or game like “If there’s a note under your chair, you get the centerpiece” sort of thing…taking one without any permission whatsoever is suuuuper tacky. Though honestly I wish someone took my center pieces, because now I have a box full of bulk tealight candle holders, and mirrors. If you don’t want people taking your centerpieces, I guess you can just use something no one would want, lol.
Post # 43
My mom was super upset because apparently some of the centerpieces at my wedding went missing. I couldn’t understand why she cared because wtf was she going to do with 12 centerpieces anyway? But I also am super confused as to why people take them – do they have like a room in their house that’s filled with tables and each table has a different centerpiece from some friend’s wedding?
Post # 44
that’s basically what I was like at our wedding. I didn’t 100% know what I would do with them.. I was planning on giving them to another friend who had a similar theme planned for her wedding but .. It was a mix of worry because I didn’t want people to accidentally take home the rented ones, but also just genuine pure shock that people were straight up picking my centrepieces off of the tables and leaving with them! And they weren’t like.. 5$ little tea lights or something, they were legitimately expensive to make and HEAVY! I’m not even joking, well over ten pounds once all the succulents were arranged into the geometric shapes and put on a big thick wood slice.
I think because my family/ husband’s family knows I’m a crafty, DIY type person that they assumed I made the centrepieces myself (which was correct), but I just found it really kind of rude that people just assumed they could take them without even asking or anything. I guess I’m just still… perplexed that people would even find this okay to do without permission? I don’t know lol I get it was a thing back in the day but man, it was just so weird to see people do that and it wasn’t even the very end of the night!
Post # 45
one of my friends made gorgeous paper flowers for her wedding and I asked her if I could take a couple from our table because they were so lovely. She said of course! As for vases and things like that no way lol.