(Closed) Spinoff: Does FI/Hubby/SO know the real number

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Does four FI/Hubby/SO know your real number of previous sexual partners?
    He was a true gentleman and never asked. : (110 votes)
    30 %
    Yes, he knows the exact number. : (196 votes)
    54 %
    No, he knows a number close but not the exact number. : (38 votes)
    10 %
    No, he knows a number not even close to my actual number. : (20 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Victoria Wedding Chapel

    It’s just him, so he knows the exact number. 🙂

    Post # 3
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Darling Husband has never asked in almost 10 years! I would be completely honest, but he never thought the conversation mattered, I guess.

    Post # 4
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We have never asked but each know the rough number based on our histories

    Post # 5
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016


    NurseShannon:  No he doesn’t, I don’t know his either. Neither of us needs to know that little tidbit. As long as neither of us is bringing STD’s to the party then past sex life is in the past. I think sometimes having that conversation brings on feelings of jealousy and insecurity. I have no interest in dealing with that drama. Keeping moving forward.

    Post # 6
    3224 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    NurseShannon:  He’s never asked and I’ve never asked him. What’s the point?

    Post # 7
    8868 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    NurseShannon:  He never asked, but I wouldn’t say it’s because he’s a gentleman. More like, it has nothing to do with him so why should he care? A guy who was hung up on something like this would not have lasted long with me.

    Post # 8
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee

    Fiance has never asked but we both had quite a lot of fun after our divorces… I think Fiance just doesn’t want to know that I may have had more partners than him. Which after getting to know him, I started to think might be true haha  


    Post # 9
    1980 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yes. It’s part of my history, part of what makes me “me”, and I’m not ashamed. There is no jealousy between us.

    Post # 10
    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    NurseShannon:  Yes, he knows. I don’t know that he ever directly asked, more like our numbers just came up in converation at some point at the beginning of our relationship.

    Post # 12
    33 posts

    Nope, he never asked but does know I slept around before I met him. I don’t know his as I’ve never asked, but I know for a fact it is significantly lower than mine as he’s always been more of a relationship person.

    Not ashamed and never an issue for us, neither of us are the jealous type and the past is the past!

    Post # 13
    9527 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    He knows. I know his. We both had a “fun” single life, although I was much more adventurous than him.

    Post # 14
    2013 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My husband doesn’t know my number, and he’s never asked. I don’t know his either and I don’t want to, because it really doesn’t matter.

    Post # 15
    4891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    NurseShannon:  My Darling Husband assumes it was a ton of guys, but really wasn’t (in my mind). He came to that conclusion because I had dated quite a few guys in my life (prior to him, only have 2 relationships go over a year), whereas his number is small because he hasn’t dated that many girls (or gone that far with them) and the ones he has, he was with them for a long period of time (HS Girlfriend was 6 years, then another for 3).

    He’s never asked for the specific number, but if he asked… I’d tell him.

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