(Closed) Spinoff: Does FI/Hubby/SO know the real number

• cece_get_married
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2016

Fiance and I started dating when we were 14 and he was my first and only boyfriend, as well as my only partner ever.

• FollowYourBliss
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2005 - Grand Ole Opry

DH doesn’t know mine because he never asked. I don’t know his either. Didn’t matter to us… seems to me the number didn’t matter to you either but maybe it did to your DH? You have an innocent reason for fibbing in the spur of the moment. You could have thought the subject would never come up again – so why confess a month or a year later?!?! You told the truth now and he questioned your values and integrity. You could have lied again but you didn’t! In My Humble Opinion your DH is overreacting.  

• ana2017
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: January 2017

He doesnt know mine and I dont know his. And everyone is happy. And we dont want to either. What’s the point? He was 35 and I was 27 when we met, we both know the other has history. How much history we don’t want to know. He says I’m the best he’s had, that’s all I need to know. And he’s the best I’ve had and that’s all he need to know. 🙂

• UndercoverKitty007
• 5 years ago

im not even sure if I know my own number, never really counted. 

• apophyllite
• 5 years ago

He’s never asked and I’ve never asked either. I don’t feel a need to know and I think he feels the same way

• apophyllite
• 5 years ago

• InspieLass
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2015

Fiance knows the exact number only because he’s my first and only!

He’s had more partners than I’ve had; I have an estimate because he can’t quite remember, but I’m totally cool with that.

• justinsgirl2016
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2016

Fi knows my roster and I know his.

I’m a dirty pirate hooker compared to him.

But it doesn’t tarnish the love we share lol he laughs it off and is glad those “days” are over…if ya catch my drift. **cough**I was a sloot**cough**

• BoriNena89
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: May 2016

He and I were wild back in our “glory days”- Him when he was young in the military and me when I was young in college. We have talked about the numbers and everything but honestly I dont remember the exact number he thinks and I am sure he doesnt know my exact number. But we are ok with each other’s past. That was back in the day, we lived, we learned. We are very open about our stories and our experiences and his history has never bothered me and it doesnt seem like my history ever bothered him.

• soymilk
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2016

Lol yes. I was a virgin when we were dating. I told him on the first date I was and that I wasn’t pressed to have sex anytime soon…so if that was an issue then we shouldn’t schedule a date number two. 

He was very open as well and told me his sex history.

• UndercoverKitty007
• 5 years ago

• apophyllite
• 5 years ago

• princesslex13
• 5 years ago

He does. And I know his.

• MsYellowFinch
• 5 years ago

sorry bee, I will admit I’ve lied also. Hopefully he will never find out. I’m just to ashamed. 

• Polyphemus
• 5 years ago

I am totally up front about my previous relationships with my partner.  Not just “the number,” but who they were/are (one of them is still my friend, and thus a part of our lives), the kinds of sexual experiences we had together, how our relationships began and how long they lasted, how and why our relationships ended, and more.  I see no reason not to be open about this information, because sex is not shameful.

Likewise, lack of sex is not shameful.  My partner had never had sex before he met me.  He had never been on a second date before he met me.  He had never kissed anyone (male or female) in a non-familial/romantic fashion before he met me.  I was and am his first partner, sexually and romantically.  And that is also fine. 

There’s nothing wrong with going into a new relationship having a long history of sexual activity, there’s nothing wrong with going into a new relationship having a short history of sexual activity, and there’s nothing wrong with going into a new relationship having no history of sexual activity.