(Closed) Spinoff- does your partner have to have the same political views as you when you

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Ap2010:  Fiance and I are the same politically. It works for us. 

Post # 4
1010 posts
Bumble bee

@Ap2010:  In general we do, (we don’t have to) but on certain subjects we disagree and I LOVE IT! I love arguing discussing 😉 and we are both usually very intelligent and informed in our stances so it’s interesting. I like bringing up a point only to have someone challenge it instead of just nod and agree.

Many of our best discussions have been from civil disagreements.

Post # 5
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We do.  My political views are largely based on my personal values and beliefs.  Those are pretty important, as that dictates a lot of the choices I make, how I live my life, and how I plan to raise my kids.  So I would have a hard time being with someone who didn’t share that with me.


Post # 6
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

You certainly don’t have to, but it might depend on how important certain issues and views are to you.

My SO and I have pretty similar views. When we first started dating, he said he leaned more towards the other side, but I think I swayed him 🙂

Post # 7
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Ap2010:  I don’t think so. I think as long as both parties are rational in their ideas and life styles and can communicate them with each other in a discussion not an argument – that’s fine by me. 

I think talking with people who have different views adds to a person’s depth and understanding of others. Sticking with only people that think/walk/talk like you doesn’t sound appealing in the long run. 

FH and I agree on some things but not others. Whenever we talk about it, I love hearing his side of things and it just makes me think. 

Post # 8
5220 posts
Bee Keeper

It is pretty damn important to me. We don’t align 100%, but talking politics is something we both care strongly about, so I wouldn’t tie myself to someone who didn’t feel the same way as I do about certain issues. Thats just me, though… I am sure it does work for people where one party is less enthusiatic about issues than the other.


Post # 9
10588 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Nope, I’m not looking for a male clone of myself.  We agree on some things and disagree on others.  I don’t think I could marry someone who was really extreme in either direction though, but that comes down to respect for others.

Post # 10
4369 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it depends on (1)how open you are to hearing other views and (2) how important politics are to each person.  For instance, two very politically active people on opposite ends of the spectrum (1 extreme right, 1 extreme left) – probably a bad idea. Two more moderate or less involved people could work, though/

For us, Darling Husband is moderate, leaning conservative, and I’m liberal, leaning moderate. He’s not very interested in politics, but I’m a little more interested – neither of us are really active beyond voting, though. It works for us – we do disagree on some things, but I’m open to disagreeing and hearing other points of view, so I like that. Darling Husband is slowly becoming less judgemental of other views (it’s a work in progess). It’s not been a problem so far.

Post # 11
5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Ap2010:  We didn’t really think about it. I suppose there’s some things we don’t see eye to eye on politically but it’s nothing that would cause us to argue. He hasn’t voted in the time we’ve been together (almost 12 years) so his political views don’t really mean squat.

Post # 12
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, but if he was an extremist of any sort then that wouldn’t work. I don’t do well with people that are super judgmental when it comes to politics. I am not a political checklist and it annoys me when someone assumes they know everything about me and what I believe just because they know my political party. If my Darling Husband was the type that went around instigating arguments and being crazy vocal then it wouldn’t work, especially if we disagreed on all of the issues. If he is objective and can have intelligent discussions and understand another point of view (even if he doesn’t agree with it) then I think it would be fine.

I know quite a few couples that are not of the same political party.

Post # 13
2685 posts
Sugar bee

Not for me personally.  My Fiance and I are both left-leaning but we still disagree on a lot of political topics.  I love having open-minded discussions with him, even if we don’t share the same exact views.  The fact that we can learn from each other and have constructive debates is a plus for me.

Post # 14
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Nope. We have differeing thoughts on many issues. There are two issues near and dear to my heart that any partner of mine has to share the same views on. But beyond those two issues, it’s totally cool if we have very different perspectives.

Post # 15
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We agree on pretty much everything. I think it would be really, really hard to marry someone who didn’t I didn’t agree with on most things. Especially social issues.

Post # 16
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope!  However, we see eye to eye on things that are REALLY important to us (ex: we agree on gay marriage and the abortion issue)

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