Post # 1
I’m surprised how many bee’s S/O’s smoke weed!
I’m by no means sheltered, and know that people smoke pot, but its just something I’ve had zero interst in doing since I was probably 17 (am 24 now), so I just assumed thats what the majority of the rest of the world has done lol (even though my best friend smokes regualrly lol)
Personally though, I don’t think I’d be happy if my Fiance smoked up regularly (he doesn’t smoke it at all FYI) Just because I’ve seen the ugly side of the drug world when I was younger (best friend was held up at gun point in his home, because he was a dealer) and I just don’t like what can come along with regular drug use. I know my friends case was an extreme one, and not everyone ends up in these “horrible sitautions”.
I guess because neither of my parents, and none of the adults around me as a kid smoked weed (that I saw or heard of) I just assumed pot somking faded away as you got older.
Post # 3
I mean, dealing is totally different than being a recreational user, which has little risk, especially in places where marijuana has been decriminalized or is legal in some or all circimstances. Granted, I live in about the most liberal place in the country, but I don’t understand all the pearl-clutching over pot at all. It’s no more dangerous than alcohol, and most of the people I know who smoke are successful, well-off adults in their late 20s to late 40s. The stoner sterotype is pervasive but it doesn’t represent the vast majority of pot users out there.
Post # 5
@Stephville: Neither of us have ever smoked. In college I dated an EXTREME pothead so I was always around it and I hated it. He seriously smoked way too much, it smelled like crap, and it made him extremely annoying to talk to. He was always so freaking slow at everything and it drove me crazy. He probably smoked 10 times a day…first thing in the morning, between classes, before work, after work, while watching tv, while playing video games, before bed. Nasty as heck. Not to mention pitiful.
Post # 6
@daisyfay: I get what your saying and I’m in no way implying that people who do smoke weed can’t be successful (I know you didn’t accuse me of that, I’m just making it clear thats not what I was getting at).
Where I live it is not legal (unless you have a medical prescription)
I do agree there is a difference between dealing and occasional usage (though, none of the regular smokers [ages 19-25, at the time] in my old group of friends were even in recreation territory, they were probably about 8-10 time a day users).
But I guess once you’ve seen the bad side of things, it can change your views on if its worth it to smoke or not..
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
People can smoke pot and never have anything bad happen. People can smoke pot but also choose to do other, harder drugs, and bad things can happen. It works both ways. I think has a lot more to do with the individual than the pot.
Post # 8
I used to smoke until I was about 21, when I joined the TA and started getting drug tested. I miss it, and would like to go back (but smoke less this time). However, Darling Husband is true blue, and also cites how he has to be above reproach because of his job. He has always said he’d report me if I started smoking again (again, because of his job). I probably believe him. Swine.
I went to Amsterdam for my birthday though. Most enjoyable.
Post # 9
We both do. He does it daily, I do it maybe once a week… Usually less.
I don’t like that he does it every night, he spends too much money on it and he stinks when he comes in.
I just wish he didn’t do it so often.
But once we start TTC he will stop (so will I).
Post # 10
@daisyfay: Agree, I live in a very liberal place (Vancouver, British Columbia) where pot is EVERYWHERE. It’s just not a big deal to me. SO and Ismoke it very rarely (like, once-twice a year, lol) it just makes me soooo sleepy and I just can’t function at all on it.
I agree in that I don’t see what the big problem with pot is. It’s in the same class as alcohol to me. Though I actually believe alcohol is worse than pot in many ways.
But just like recreational drinking, I don’t believe pot causes problems in relationship. I believe it becomes a problem if it begins to negatively effects your relationship with your partner and/or one person is not okay with it. But that’s the way with anything, I think.
Post # 11
I voted neither but technically my husband has maybe a hand full of times at a party or camping since I have known him. But if it was more than that no I would not be ok with it. I have maybe twice before and don’t like it at all. I also kind of frown upon it in general.
Post # 12
@Stephville: Oh, I didn’t mean to imply that you did! I can just get defensive because I have several family members who are police officers in a much more conservative part of the country, and to hear them talk about it, you would think pot is a terrible scourge threatening to overtake the nation rather than mostly harmless plant matter subject to absurdly archaic laws that have put millions of undeserving people (especially minorities) in jail.
Post # 13
@Stephville: I agree completely – my SO uses weed occasionally, and I can’t stand it – like you said, “I just don’t like what can come along with regular drug use.”
Post # 14
@daisyfay: You realize that recreational users buy from dealers, right? To blame dealers and hold them out as terrible people but saying users are totally different doesn’t make any sense.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Neither of us ever. I mean, I am totally ok with the U.S. taking steps to legalize it, tax it, all that stuff, but for me, while its illegal, its a huge NO. Just so not worth the risks to us at all.
That and I could never smoke it even if I wanted to. I have weird reactions around smoke, (cigarette, bonfire, etc.) I think ever since I got bronchitis jr. year of high school. it used to be so much worse, like just walking past a small cloud of smoke could send me into a crazy bad coughing fit, now im much more tolerant but still, I think if I tried to smoke I would end up coughing so hard until I pass out lol.
Post # 16
@daisyfay: I know you didn’t imply it 🙂 I just didn’t want to come across to anyone as a know-it-all-I’m-better-than-you-jackass type of person because I don’t smoke it lol