Post # 1
This is a spinoff from the “ex box” thread. My question is… Do you still have any gifts from an ex? What do you have? Does your Darling Husband, Fiance, SO know it is a gift from an ex?
I have a winter coat that I wear all the time. I don’t think about the ex that gave it to me at all when I put it on. It’s a warm coat and serves it’s purpose well. DH doesn’t know it is a gift from an ex. I don’t think he would care. I also have a pair of really expensive shoes from that same ex that I never wear anymore. They are too over the top for anywhere I’d go these days but I love them and don’t think I’d ever get rid of them. I remember showing them to Darling Husband and telling him where they came from. We laughed because they are a fine example of the fashion tastes of the super flashy guy I used to date before I met Darling Husband who is a little less than flashy. haha!
Post # 3
ooh, I have a sweater I LOVE! I honestly don’t think of it as an “ex-gift,” and I’d pretty much forgotten til now! I may have mentioned it to Darling Husband, but I dont think he cares.
Post # 4
I have a Nikon D80 that was a gift from an ex. I usually clear out anything ex related after a breakup but there was no way in hell I was going to get rid of a $1K+ camera kit. 🙂 Not sure if my SO knows it’s from an ex. Don’t think it’s ever come up.
Post # 5
Some jewellry. I gave some of the “meaningful” stuff back/binned (anniversary gifts etc) but it’s a waste of pretty things. I don’t wear them nearly as much as I used to (actually don’t remember when the last time was) but they’re useful from time to time. I also have perfume and clothes and shoes. But they’re not meaningful enough to stress about. I actually have a painting too, but until you asked in this thread I would have totally forgotten it was from an ex.
Post # 6
I still have and wear the jewelery my ex gave me. I picked them out at the time and all he did was pay for it so there wasn’t much thought or sentimental value associated with them. My Darling Husband always says he “doesn’t want to know” about my past relationships so I just leave it at that. It’s not like there’s a good way to say “heeyyy haven’t you ever been curious where these earrings came from?” I only keep them and still wear them because they were nice pieces of jewelery that I picked out.
Post # 7
I have a diamond necklace. It’s really pretty… and you don’t just get rid of a diamond necklace, you know? Really, I’ve kind of forgotten that it was from my ex though… it just gets lumped in with all my other jewelry (most of which is from my husband). Fiance knows it’s from an ex, but I don’t think he really cares.
Post # 8
IMO, a gift is a gift. I do not get rid of gifts just because the relationship has soured, nor do I ask for them back. My second husband had given me a huge gorgeous cedar blanket chest and when we split up, he wouldn’t let me have it which irritated me to no end. Finally I just had to admit it just wasn’t worth fighting about.
Post # 9
I’m not much of a huge vday/bday/anniversary gift type person so I dont have much. I have a tanzanite pendant (first xmas, he thought he *had* to buy me something) that I dont wear and have never worn, and a pink sapphire ring that was a birthday gift (just cause I really liked it). I dont think my husband knows it was a gift, but it doesnt matter anyways. It not emotionally attached to him, it just pretty jewelry, and I’m sure not tossing them.
Post # 10
The only thing I have that my ex gave me is a first generation iPod mini. The dull color-ed kind. It still works, amazingly, but I don’t use it because it’s honestly huge for what it holds, and I’d rather clip my shuffle, or non-iPod mp3 player to me when I run, etc.