Post # 1
So in another ( very entertaining ) thread, people were discussing what is “too much” for a wedding ceremony or reception.
I know some people have multiple “acts” – magicians, dancers, etc…. what do you consider too much?
Another poster mentioned that shes seen fire dancers at a few weddings and that some people think this is too much. Is it?
I have to preface this with saying that *I* do fire dancing, I have a lot of friends who do fire performance:dancing, breathing, eating, etc. I kinda wanted them to do a performance for the reception if the venue would allow it (heck, I would want to join in if the dress isn’t too flamable :p). I also do hula hoop and bellydance so I was thinking of hiring an amazing person I know to do something for that as well…
I also saw somebody on Four Weddings have fire performers and the other brides didn’t seem to like it, they thought it was too much/weird. I didn’t realize this was a semi-common thing? I want it to be unique, and for people to see this as something personal to the couple and not just random trends put together.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I think when it’s something that the couple (or one of them) is involved in and passionate about, or it’s something connected to their culture, then it’s cool and unique and very personal. If the performers are your friends, your troupe/club, etc., and the emcee announces that, then it can be a really special addition to the festivities.
I think when it’s just hired entertainment, for entertainment’s sake, then it can come off as contrived and over-the-top, like the couple is trying too hard to do something just to stand out, as though the celebration of their marriage isn’t enough unto itself.
Post # 4
i think the “over the top” sentiment is somewhat of a cultural difference. there are countries out in the world where weddings are huge, fantastical events. has anyone been to an Indian wedding? i haven’t, but i hear they are very different from “american” weddings!
i’m chinese and i’m doing some more chinese-traditional things at my wedding. they are not flashy, but they would be new for 90% of the people attending.
i think fire dancers would be cool. i saw some at a hawaii luau on vacation. never thought of having one at a wedding, but i wouldn’t say i’m against it.
Post # 5
I have actually never been to a wedding with a performance. I am still waiting….
Post # 6
I think having entertainment at the reception is a great, unique idea. Out of all the weddings I’ve been to, the only one I know who had any sort of entertainment was my sister and she hired belly dancers (belly dancing is common in our culture). The only other time I’ve seen entertainment has been at destination weddings. I think it’s unique even if other brides are doing it as long as not all your own friends are doing it, you know? Once you watch all these wedding shows and come on these boards, nothing seems “unique” anymore, but if you take yourself out of that and look to see what weddings you’ve been to and what they’ve done, as long as it’s unique to that, you’re still unique!
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: I agree with you that if the entertainment is a reflection of something the bride and groom actually do in their own lives, then that would be cool. Then it’s more like they’re sharing something personal with you as opposed to just putting on a show for the sake of spectacle. The thing is, I don’t go to weddings to be entertained passively like a spectator. Of course you are a spectator during the ceremony, but after that the fun for me is in mingling/partying/dancing with family and friends.