- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
My fiancé is reasonably older than I am. He was married over 10 years ago for 10 years to a woman that he had 2 children with. Obviously he had this life before me. His kids are a reminder of that, but they are his kids and I am very fond of them, regardless of the fact they they are s from another marriage. My point in bringing up the kids is to show that its not like I’m trying to ignore the fact that he was married before. But for some reason it really bothered me when I found out that a painting of his that he has in his kitchen was a gift from his brother and SIL from his first wedding.
We currently have separate households but will be combine shortly so he was asking what things he should keep/sell/get rid of, etc. I asked what he was going to do with the painting and he said “I’d like to keep it, I really like it”. I don’t personally care for it, but you need to compromise, right? So I asked where he got it from. He paused and then told me it was a gift from his brother and SIL from his first marriage. He then said “that’s not why I like it though”. He threw that part in himself. As though he knew i would question that. I completely believe him though. I believe that he likes the painting itself and not the fact that it has any connection to his first marriage. Still, something about it bugs me. I know he has an alarm clock that was a gift from his first marriage but that doesn’t bother me. Mostly I’m just impressed that it still works after over 20 years. But the painting would be prominently displayed in our house somewhere and now every time I see it ill remember that it was a wedding gift from a different marriage. So here is my question… Should this bother me? Should I say something or should I let it go?
thanks for the input!!