(Closed) Spinoff from parties board – who is invited to a party when gifts are expected?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I totally agree, and have encountered a similar situation with one member of FI’s family in particular. She is the child of FI’s fathers cousin, so quite a distant relationship. After only having met her once, she invited me to her baby shower. A few weeks later she invited me to the baby’s baptism. Then a few months ago I was invited to her bridal shower, and ultimately her wedding. I am flattered she thought to include me, and I guess to some inviting everyone they’ve ever met is the norm, but to me this was very gift grabby. All of these events she seemed to do super low budget so everyone had a miserable time, except her of course because she got a metric ton of gifts.

It made it doubly awkward because then I felt obligated to invite her to similar events for my own wedding. And she has 2 sisters, a brother who is married, etc. So it created several additional guests for me. And she didn’t attend my shower….and never sent a gift. So annoying!

Post # 4
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@candykiss  wow that sounds exactly like a gift grab, how rude. 

I notice how some people try to invite everyone they ever met to these things, it’s silly. 

Post # 5
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3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve been experiencing this with baby showers recently. One of my former classmates sent out an evite and on it, it had all of our school emails (not even our personal ones) and there literally was like 150 people on the invited list. On the evite, it was hosted by the couple themselves and said, “We are registered at x and y!!!” The registries literally contained everything the baby could need, including tiny plastic hangers.

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