Post # 1
I’ve been invited to a number of parties lately where gifts were the focus of the party (for example, a one year old’s birthday or a baby shower). For a friend or family member, I’m happy to attend to celebrate the guest of honor and to bring a gift. Many of the invitations that i’ve received have been from coworkers or casual acquaintances. Is this normal? I always thought that these types of events were the kind that only your nearest and dearest were invited to, as they would be happy to ohh and ahh over your child smashing his cake and to bring the requisite gift. Am I out of touch? Is sitting in the office next to somebody enough to create a social obligation?
Post # 3
I totally agree, and have encountered a similar situation with one member of FI’s family in particular. She is the child of FI’s fathers cousin, so quite a distant relationship. After only having met her once, she invited me to her baby shower. A few weeks later she invited me to the baby’s baptism. Then a few months ago I was invited to her bridal shower, and ultimately her wedding. I am flattered she thought to include me, and I guess to some inviting everyone they’ve ever met is the norm, but to me this was very gift grabby. All of these events she seemed to do super low budget so everyone had a miserable time, except her of course because she got a metric ton of gifts.
It made it doubly awkward because then I felt obligated to invite her to similar events for my own wedding. And she has 2 sisters, a brother who is married, etc. So it created several additional guests for me. And she didn’t attend my shower….and never sent a gift. So annoying!
Post # 4
@candykiss wow that sounds exactly like a gift grab, how rude.
I notice how some people try to invite everyone they ever met to these things, it’s silly.
Post # 5
I’ve been experiencing this with baby showers recently. One of my former classmates sent out an evite and on it, it had all of our school emails (not even our personal ones) and there literally was like 150 people on the invited list. On the evite, it was hosted by the couple themselves and said, “We are registered at x and y!!!” The registries literally contained everything the baby could need, including tiny plastic hangers.