(Closed) SPINOFF: Has your family size influenced how big or small a family you want?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How has your family size influenced how many kids you want?
    I come from a small family and want a big family. : (6 votes)
    11 %
    I come from a big family and want a small family. : (7 votes)
    13 %
    I come from a small family and want a small family. : (19 votes)
    35 %
    I come from a big family and want a big family. : (7 votes)
    13 %
    My family size has no influence on how many kids I want. : (12 votes)
    22 %
    Other. : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5544 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I grew up with only one sibling, but we were super close to all my cousins growing up so it was more sibling like than cousins, and there were 6 cousins. I want a big ish family but I also don’t want to field my own football team from my kids. I can’t imagine just having one kid though, especially since tragically as we got older, both my sister and cousins have spread across the country so my kids will not likely have the same closeness I did with cousins.

    Post # 4
    Member
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think that grew-up with a median sized family. I am one of 4 daughters, I had both my parents to. So we had a household of six people not to mention that from time to time some of my Mom’s siblings and their kids would stay with us too.

    I only have 2 kids I really wish I could of had at least one more, but due to medical reasons our family is going to stay at 2 kids.

    I love the fact that I grew up in a median sized family.

    Post # 5
    Member
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I was the oldest of 7 and we plan to have 4 kids ourselves, spaced close together. I guess some might consider 4 a bog family, but to me, it is medium sized.

    It did affect me, I think, because I was 15 when the youngest was born and I was always very resentful of the little kids. I was constantly on babysitting duty and was never allowed to do normal teenager things. We never went on family vacations or anything because we didn’t have the money and because there was never any options that were age appropriate for everyone. Also, my dad withdrew from the family when I was about 12 or 13 and my mom didn’t have any parenting support from him for several years. As a result, we older kids were completely ignored unless a chore needed doing. I was never able to turn to my parents when I needed love and support because they just assumed we older kids could take care of ourselves and it was the younger kids who got all the attention.

    I think some parents do very well with big families and I’ve met quite a few of those where all the kids are happy and well-adjusted and the parents equally share the parenting responsibilities and make sure the kids all get attention. But my parents were not good at it and I know I would not be good at it, either.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    9667 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    i am one of two kids, i want two kids. my Fiance is also one of two kids. my parents are both the youngest of four, my FI’s dad is one of seven, and FI’s mum is one of five. but Fiance and I both want two kids

    Post # 7
    Member
    2450 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i grew up one of five sibling and my mom also did daycare at home. 

    so…. our house was always full of kids and always loud. my friends always felt comfortable there and able to be themselves. i really noticed when i was at an only child’s house or just a smaller family. it was always so quiet there and i always felt like i had to whisper… i just never felt comfortable.

    so i want a large family and i want the same feeling in my home that i had growing up. comfortable and full of love…. like the weasley family….

    Post # 9
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I had one child, and because I became a single mom, on Social Assistance working part time, and didn’t have another relationship, I didn’t have a chance to have another. My mom comes from a big family, 13 brothers and sisters. I wanted to have one of each, a boy and a girl. Oh well, my one son was enough for me!

    Post # 10
    Member
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am the oldest of 3 girls, but was raised as a single child (when my parents split, my Mum never fought for custody; my sisters lived with her). Since about the age of 5, I’ve known I wanted 2 children (both girls, but would be happy either way), and luckily Fiance is set on 2 children, as well. He’s the oldest of 4 boys.

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