(Closed) SpinOff Have you been Raped

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Have you ever been raped
    Yes, And I am not afraid to admit it : (42 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, And I do not tell anyone : (50 votes)
    12 %
    Kinda, I was assaulted but not raped : (61 votes)
    14 %
    Kinda, I was drugged and do not remember : (15 votes)
    4 %
    No I have not : (254 votes)
    59 %
    No, and I don't believe in rape. : (6 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    it took a while before i told anyone. but once i told people i wasnt ashamed  there were different instances /abusers where things went from assult to rape .

    Post # 5
    Member
    5206 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I was but by the time I gained the courage to admit it, about a decade later,  it had been too long ago to try and get him arrested. There were multiple times I was drugged and raped (by the same guy) as a minor. I would cry and try to beat him off of me but I was too out of it to have enough strength and he’d just keep going until I was raw and in agony. Why didn’t I tell my parents? I didn’t want them to find out I had a “friend” in his 20’s when I was 15. Sounds ridiculous now, right? My SIL was also raped at that age, and never prosecuted either.

    Post # 6
    Member
    158 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was, went to the cops, went to a hospital for a week, went to court and they found him not guilty..how I dont know. It definitely not something that I just go around telling people, but the important people in my life know, except for my mom. I still have a hard time dealing with it and speaking about it even though its been about 8 years. Even posting it here is hard enough for me. I always feel as though people are going to judge me because of it. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I was at age 19 by someone I considered to be one of my best best friends. A guy I’d known for years, seriously, best friends- he even would babysit my little brother when my mom and I were at work. I didn’t go to the cops or anything because A) I was moving across state like 2 weeks later and instead of “dealing” with it I just “ran away” and B) all of my friends were hardcore pressuring me into going to the cops which made me feel even less in control of the situation. I was totally fucked up for years afterwards (major depression, eating disorder, self harm) but I’m doing a lot better now 7 years later, honestly it is still something I think about every single day.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1329 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Thankfully, I have never been raed or sexually assaulted. However, a very large percentage of women I know have been. Unfortunately, they all have major psychological issues because of it and cannot enjoy sex. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    yes self harm, eatting disorders and depression pretty much sums up how i dealt with it. when i was younger–teen age years.. i have moved past it -took 10 years

    Post # 10
    Member
    4665 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    So, for some of us, even the “R” word can be a trigger. It’s been brought up before. It’s a good idea to post *trigger warning* or “SA” as opposed to the R word in your title so bees that are sensitive to it can avoid it.

    Pls/thx

    Post # 11
    Member
    158 posts
    Blushing bee

    @fiver:  pretty much how I dealt with it too, except add in alcohol and drug use. I was pretty much in a downward spiral to end my life until I got pregnant with my son. I was still very very depressed (and still am sometimes) but my son basically saved my life.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    ooogh, yeah I didn’t mention problems with alcohol. I was in rehab a month after turning 21 🙁

     

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    158 posts
    Blushing bee

    @fiver:  yeah mine wasnt rehab but a mental hospital..not a fun time and it really didnt help any.

    Post # 15
    Member
    9693 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Ibblet:  Yes. Given it was my thread, I’m sure you already knew that 😉 But just thought I would reiterate AGAIN that I am not ashamed – there’s no need to be.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    OMG, I hope nobody votes that they don’t believe in rape. that’s terrible!

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