[SPINOFF] Have You Ever Been the Other Woman?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever been the other woman
    Yes but I didn't know, found out after, and will comment below and tell a juicy story : (34 votes)
    23 %
    Yes and I did know, will comment below and tell a juicy story : (26 votes)
    18 %
    More than once, both knowingly and unknowingly and I will comment below and tell a juicy story : (10 votes)
    7 %
    Never that I know of : (77 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    2631 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    It’s so sad to me the number of women who were the “other” woman and didn’t know. Ugh men can be such slime balls! I would be so mad if I found out I was dating a man with a SO.

    Post # 22
    Member
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Sort of! Back in college there was a guy, we had several of the same classes and flirted through the whole semester. We went out a few times for lunch, talked and texted daily, and at night he’d call me to say goodnight. He even put a photo of me as his phone lock screen. Aside from playful hand holding, leaning on eachother, walking around with his arm over me, etc, nothing more physical than that ever happened. When the semester was nearly over I get a message on facebook from a girl who claimed to be his girlfriend. She said she saw the photos he took of me on his phone. She asked me to stay away from him, called me names, etc. I was shocked because I had NO idea. Seriously, his facebook had zero evidence of a relationship, they weren’t even fb friends! I screen shot the whole message and send it to him. No reply. The next day he acted as if everything was fine, came up to me and started playing with my hands, etc, when I reminded him of the message he was like “Oh that was my sister…she’s just messing with you.”

    ………….sure.

    I had already “digged” through his facebook profile, like I said earlier, zero evidence of her. No pictures, no relationship status, nothing! So then I snooped on his girlfriend’s profile…turns out they’ve been dating for 8 years! I felt so sick to my stomach. What’s even worse is he’s introduced me to his friends who were mutual friends with her. We’d hang out together and he’d have his arm over me the whole time. I removed him from social media and started keeping my distance, eventually once the semester ended we never spoke again. I can’t believe people have the heart to be like this!

    Post # 23
    Member
    2631 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    PrincessPeach13 :  That totally wouldn’t surprise me. Especially because when you’re in adult relationships, typically you’re busy with work and family, etc. so you don’t have time to be with someone 24/7. 

    Your story is something else though! You should write a book!! 

    Post # 26
    Member
    8162 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    PrincessPeach13 :  she never responded to me – but I sure got a call from him! He lied and said I was a jealous ex that was trying to get him back so she stayed with him for awhile, but I heard through our mutual friends that the broke up a few months later. He actually confessed to me that he had cheated on every woman he’s ever been with. Total loser.

    Post # 27
    Member
    1628 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yep. First time it was someone I had a will we won’t we circle around each other thing with for 2 years. I wasn’t hoping he would break up with her for me and I wasn’t interested in dating him at that point, but I thought maybe he was on his way out and they weren’t serious.  He’s still with her 5+ years later whoops. 

    Second time was a guy who has decided to break up with her, but hadn’t yet. He broke up with her weeks later and pursued me, but I wasn’t that into him. 

     

    Post # 28
    Hostess
    4003 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Yep. During my few months of internet dating (during which i eventually met dh) I matched with this guy who I had freaking amazing chemistry with. He was so damn hot. And he was an ER Dr and super fit and smart and just seemed so cool. So I got all 😍 and didn’t really do any “homework” about him. We had a few heavy make out sessions, went on a couple hikes, I thought things were going great. Then one day he comes over and we are making out and he says he has to tell me something. And I’m thinking “heck yes I want to be your girlfriend” and he says “I have a wife” and I was like “WHAT!?!?” And promptly kicked his ass out. He never did anything shady that led me to think that at all. We texted for ages, he always had time for me. I had seen his FB but he never posted anything. So I Google stalked him and found out that not only did he have a wife, they had 4 kids, AND he is a Bishop in the LDS church. So total “pillar of the community” kinda guy. I was totally floored. I never reached out to his wife. Didn’t have the guts to do it. My self esteem was pretty shitty for a while after that. 

    Post # 29
    Member
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee

    desertgypsy :  and you were just supposed to trot along quite happily as his mistress? The balls on this one wow!

    Post # 30
    Hostess
    4003 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    DaniGirl03 :  I guess so. He did not demonstrate that he gave any fucks about the fact that he had a whole FAMILY!

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