Post # 46
brittnamrogo : LOL! I can’t even believe that he had the nerve to come to you and ask you to apologize!!!
mrandmrsnunes : Slow clapping for you…
tiffanybruiser : We all have shameful pieces of our past that we wish we could erase. They always teach us some hugely important life lesson though. Regardless of how shameful, you grew and became wiser through that experience.
onlythemarginleft : Wow Bee!!! That’s a crazy story! He was such a stupid jerk and she’s equally as stupid for paying his whole way around Europe and staying with a cheater. That makes me really sad for her. She clearly wants to be loved so badly that she’s willing to sacrifice all of her dignity to make it work with a man that’s clearly using her. That is just so sad.
ladyvk : Your. Story. Is. Awesome! I love the realness.
hbraerae : LOL! He must have felt like he lost such a good thing!
Post # 47
I don’t know if this counts but it’s the closest I’ve ever been to being the other woman.
I was in school for trades. Was the only girl in a group of 40- so I got attention. I was there to learn and really didn’t care about how hard guys were ‘trying’ to talk to me.
I found my group- smarties I guess… we studied together and rocked exams and shops. There was one guy in particular- I like him as a friend. We were both nerdy- liked the same movies, books, activities- so I guess we became best friends in school and lasted a little bit after we got our tickets.
I knew he was having issues at home with his wife. He always vented about her and their situations- along with their child and the differing opinions they had on raising him. Which made me uncomfortable. I listened, tried to offer advice- but always said ‘have you said this exact thing to your wife? It might help’. He would answer no- he only felt comfortable talking to me.
I withdrew myself from our friendship- didn’t hang out as much. I didn’t want to get more involved. As someone who had been cheated on- I feared I was wondering into the same territory in hurting another woman. And I knew it hurt from experience.
One day- I received a text from him asking to meet up. I said- sorry- busy with work and friends weddings (was in two one weekend after the other lol- and it was coming up fast!)
He sent a long text- saying he had feelings for me and if his marriage was going the way he ‘thought’ it was going. Would I be interested in becoming his girlfriend. Whole bunch of other stuff in there that was just ‘uggghhhhhhh!….’
I replied back- none to nicely “Finish what you started before moving onto the next!” Maybe it was harsh- but I didn’t care. Blocked his number, social media etc. Haven’t talked or seen him since- don’t care to either. My opinion of him dropped when he sent that message.
Post # 48
trekstar : What an idiot!!! These stories are actually effing astonishing! It really makes you think that men really think they’re entitled to any woman they want. I just dont understand it. I feel like compliling all these stories and binding them into a book and calling it something witty. We’d all be famous! These guys really think they can do and say whatever. It’s absolutely mind-blowing!
Post # 49
I hope so! I should have stayed away from him since he was the first one I dated after my ex husband tried to kill me and they had the same first name!
Post # 50
PrincessPeach13 : nothing. I didn’t find out she had seen us until the next day. I guess she was texting him all night and then showed up at his place, while I was still there the next morning… I stayed in the bedroom until she left and I GTFO.
Post # 51
hbraerae : LOL! I’ve actually heard that story more than once. My Fiance is a good example too. He just has bad luck with girls named Stephanie. He’s just got to stay away. Weirdly enough, my name is Samantha but, when people can’t remember my name, they always default to Stephanie!!!
Post # 52
crazychickenlady : That’s absolutely crazy! She has a lot of self control not to be able to cause a scene in public like that. I would probably have been escorted away.
Post # 53
Yes, I did. I never knew the real truth. It was a guy that I occasionally worked with and he told me that he was “separated.” We would occasionally see each other when he’d come to town on business. We called each other a lot during work hours.
He continued the “separated” story for awhile, but then told me his wife was upset when she found something from me in his wallet. I really don’t know if they were ever “separated,” living separately, or anything. It turns out he had a kid or two as well.
I was head over heals with him for awhile. I thought we had some kind of magical connection. He later told me that he was trying to work it out with his wife and he was going for treatment for a sex addiction. It certainly wasn’t my finest moment.
Post # 54
I was the other woman in my own divorce proceedings…..
We were separated, – I left him after his cheating , had filed for divorce and divorce proceedings were under way . However , we still occasionally secretly met up and ended up in bed ( I know, I know, what can I say , we were both ridiculously young and actually still loved each other )
The secret was not as well kept as we thought and the occasions and evidence of adultery given in court were me , designated ‘an unknown woman ‘ .
Post # 55
PrincessPeach13 : I grew up in a small town. I got super drunk at a party and make out with a married man when i was 17. His wife found out and so did the whole town. I got a bad reputation after that. he was like 30 idk. I felt so bad and people assumed we slept together. truth is my dad died the week before and I was just getting wasted all the time. I had only slept with one guy at the time and it was his cousin. didnt go over well with him either. But that made me stop drinking and i never did anythign with anyone elses dude again.
Post # 56
Yeah, I’ve been the other woman. I met a man who was married, still living with his wife but not sharing rooms anymore. I told him right away, I would’t be his affair and that if he wanted me, he’d have to tell her. We dated for a few months until he told her and the kids. She moved out a while later and they got a divorce. We were together for a couple of years; after that until I understood the level of his douchebaggery. I left him and broke off all contact. Funny thing though: while I’m not on speaking terms with him, I do occasionally speak to his ex-wife and we’ve even had dinner together (with the kids).
Post # 57
PrincessPeach13 : yes, she found out… and then flew back to our college town the same week to reclaim her man-hoe.
Post # 58
A couple of times, but I was never in a long term relationship with either of the “rogues”. The first time was a guy I met in a bar; he was from overseas and was traveling around the country with his friend. He kissed me and invited me to stay the night but he was sharing a room with his friend so I passed on that. We texted for a few weeks but I didn’t agree to meet up with him again – maybe it was intuition: I was later reading their traveling blog and there were a lot of shout outs to my Lothario’s girlfriend back home…
The second time was a one night stand (I have actually had fewer of these than this post might suggest!), I was out of town and went back to this guy’s dorm room, we had a nice night and while he was having his shower the next morning I saw some of his recent birthday cards on display, including a huge lovey-dovey one – and yes, I snooped 🧐 i casually mentioned to him that it was a nice card, he said it was from his ex-girlfriend…right 😂
I felt bad for the girlfriends, and i think the fact that these guys could do this so casually and, I believe, frequently did taint my view of men, although I’m sure there are women who are just the same.