(Closed) SPINOFF: Have you ever had an abortion?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Have you ever had an abortion?
    Yes : (153 votes)
    18 %
    No : (682 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 497
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    1407 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wow.. a lot of angER around this topic. Yes someone can be married, use every form of birth control, and still end up pregnant. And what’s fair about that? Why should that person, whose been responsible, have to continue pregnancy? Well, life is not always fair and you don’t always get what you want. Sometimes you have to do what you don’t want to do because it is the right thing to do.

    Post # 498
    Member
    166 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have, with my soon to be fiance, and we don’t regret the decision. I was on birth control and it failed. Regardless of the situation, a woman should have the option available.

    Post # 499
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    @Carolsays:  the fundamental problem is that the different sides do not agree on what the “right” thing to do is. 

    Post # 500
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    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @HappySky7:  +1

    @Bubbles42:  +1

    I could not imagine a world where a woman would get raped… then go to jail for not wanting to carry her rapist’s child. 

    I am so pro-choice! I am not going to judge anyone for what they wanna do with their womb or any other part of their body.

    Also I am not going to force you to look at sick pictures of blown up, larger than life bloody fetuses as you walk down the side walk with your 4 year old son in tow… seriously… It seriously offends me to be approached by 20 something college students trying to save unborn babies and trying to agrue with me that their life experience some how has made them better at making life desicsons than I …while in the processes exposing my living baby to that nasty ….grrrrr… just… no, next time Im calling the cops.

     

    Post # 501
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Carolsays:  Because surgeries has way bigger RISKS then getting an abortion. I’m not going to get (or pay for) sterilization for both my husband and I when even THAT isn’t 100% effective. There is ALWAYS a chance at getting pregnant if you have sex because nothing besides abstinence is 100%.You people make it sound like getting your tubes tied or having a baby and just “giving it up for adoption” is a piece of cake. Ridiculous.

    @MissOct2013:  Have an opinion all you want but when you state something, stick by it. Also SoupyCat was not attacking you so don’t even go there. She’s been here a lot longer then you and fairly responds to MANY people’s differing opinions. She pointed out that you weren’t sticking to what you originally said and you got upset over it. Mountain out of a mole hill anyone?

    Post # 502
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    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I had one in March and I am so, so grateful to have had that option. I’m pretty much as pro-choice as they come, and I was surprised how emotional it was for both me and my Fiance to come that decision. I never for one moment have regretted my decision, and I do sometimes get a little teary/feel some tinges of guilt, but I also feel so much relief. I am 110% positive that I made the right decision for me. I would do it all over again if I had to (although I hope I never end up in that position again).

     

    I’m not going to get involved with the debate going on in this thread, although it’s tempting, because fortunately, for now, pro-lifers don’t have any ownership or control of my uterus. And not only that, but I’m comfortable enough with my decision and don’t feel the need to defend it  unless I’m fighting for my rights.

     

     

     

    Post # 503
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    3075 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    @allyouneedislove:  

    Agreed. Though without a doubt in my mind it was the right choice for me, I couldn’t help but feel guilty… It was also very hard for dh. We decided not to ttc until.at least five years but if I were to get pregnant before then (I now use birth control and condoms to make sure i dont) then we would not get an abortion. It was a horrible thing to go through, I don’t know why someone would want to ban abortion when It’s clearly a last resort type of thing…

    Post # 504
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    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @atreyu547:  I think where most of the guilt comes from is the fact that this happened with my Fiance, the person who I do want to be the father of my kids… just not right now.

     

    Post # 505
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I haven’t read the last couple pages of this thread but to answer the original question, I have not had an abortion. However, I did get pregnant at age 17 and my boyfriend (now FI) and his family tried so very hard to talk me into abortion. Before I was pregnant iwas as never even a though– I would never even consider abortion. Well, I definitely considered it! Fiance was a  complete jerk at the time and treated me horribly (he is now the most amazing partner I could ask for! 4years later :)) and I wsit just starting my first semester of college… What the hell was I going to do with a baby?! In the end I didn’t choose abortion and my family supported me until Fiance got his shit together. I strongly feel like if I didn’t have my parents pressuring me SO hard to not have the abortion, I would have done it. 

     

    I am pro choice and at the same time I think there should be restrictions like only X number of abortions and I also think they should happen before 10 weeks. 

    Obviously, I am all over the place with my views and that is why I think every woman/couple should make the choice for theMyself. There are just too many factors involved in each and every pregnancy…

    Post # 506
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    1407 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Nel13:  Can’t imagine living in a country where people don’t have  right to protest, assemble, and offend others with their views. Where the police are used to silence expression.

    Yes, allowng a rape victim to abort seems reasonable. I don’t think that should be banned. But why do we use the phrase “rapist’s child”?  Would it not also be my child? What happened is not the fault of the child.

    Post # 507
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    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Carolsays:

     

    Do you have a child? I sure do! I have one that was born to me while I was single because his father left us. I’ve made the choice that any pro-lifer would have wanted for me to make. I didn’t make it because I am a pro-lifer I made it because it was right for me at the time!  Now as his parent I have the right to decide what is appropriate for him in his young life.  And sure they have the right to stand on the sidewalk and hold up those horrible pictures. BUT that doesn’t mean what they did to us was morally right!! When your cause is to save children….. it makes no sense that once you get them out of the womb you have no respect for them.  A 4 year old has no way of understanding what that image is… why I was so upset… why the people wouldn’t get out of our faces with them. Come on now, everything about what they did to my son on that sidewalk was wrong. If it happens again… and I am not allowed to pass by on the side walk with out them forcing their images in my face.. i will most definitely call the cops.   It totally reminds me of that church that protests at the dead soldiers funerals. Completely immoral and inappropriate.

    I love that you will stand up for free speech but the freedom to own my own body… not so much. Priceless

    Post # 508
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    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Don’t make a mountian out of a molehill. 

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