(Closed) SPINOFF: Have you ever had an abortion?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Have you ever had an abortion?
    Yes : (153 votes)
    18 %
    No : (682 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 107
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    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I have never had an abortion, but know plenty of people who have.  That’s a very personal decision and, while I don’t agree with it as a form of birth control, I also realize that there are multiple different reasons for someone to consider it.  For the women I know who’ve had an abortion I know it was difficult for them and I don’t think its my place or anyone else’s to judge. 

    I know you didn’t ask for any personal opinions, but for this topic I just had to.  🙂

    Post # 108
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    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @LeonardLady:  So if you were raped, you would have the baby?  That happened to my mom when she was a teenager…she didn’t get a choice in the matter.  If my daughter was pregnant by rape, I would be holding her hand during the procedure.  There is no way any woman should be forced to give birth who has been raped.  EVER.

     

    Post # 109
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    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    @badabing88:  Wait, what?  His family would be embarassed at church if you gave the kid up for adoption, but it’s OK to have an abortion?  Am I allowed to laugh hysterically at this?  Because I am.  I mean, maybe his church is very different, but I feel like if adoption was embarassing, how is an abortion viewed?

    I really can’t stop laughing.  I’m a terrible person.

    Post # 110
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @LeonardLady:  

     

    There are so so many unwanted children in foster systems that go their whole lives feeling unwanted/never being adopted, many of whom are horrifically abused. It really burns me when people preach “adopt!!” when they don’t go out and adopt 5 kids.

     

    Also–so if I do not want children that means I don’t ever get to have sex? EVER? Come on.

    Post # 111
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    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Apple_Blossom:  +1

     

    @fiver:  Will you adopt 5 children? And I mean half grown, not babies? And have you ever tried to work with the system? I have. It is not an easy procedure. It is the system that needs to change, not the people who “preach” adoption.

    I have a cousin who wanted a child so bad her husband would have bought her 5 if he could. Any size, shape, color, age, etc. It is not as easy as you may think.

    Post # 112
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    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsBrown13:  A large part of being pro choice means supporting ANY choice a woman makes Whether you agree with them or not and regardless of whether you would make that choice for yourself. some Prolife people don’t agree with others people’s choices to terminate their pregnancies and it leads them to make comments like “you shouldn’t be having sex if you’re not ready for a family”. If more prolife people were like you and recognized that being prolife is about the choice you made for yourself and let other people live their own lives there would be less things to stir up. 

     

    Post # 113
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    1720 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’ve never had an aboration and never will unless the pregnancy would seriously harm me or the baby was extremely sick.  However I am pro choice and feel everyone deserves to do what they feel is best for themselves.  I would never judge a woman for getting an abortion and feel no one should be judged for their choices they make for their bodies.

    Post # 114
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @MrsBrown13:  

    I’m just saying people cry “adoption” like it is this really simple thing when it is really complicated. And no I will not be adopting children because I don’t want children.

    Post # 115
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    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Syzygy88:  when I had my abortion the vast majority of people there were middle aged married women. Definitely not the irresponsible college girl crowd that the right wing would have you believe. Most of them already had several children and just couldn’t afford to support another.

    Post # 116
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    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Trinisexy2:  You are right! My problem is when ALL pro-lifers, just like all Christians, are considered extreme, right winged, absent minded bigots. Believe it or not, that makes a very small percentage of our population.

    Post # 117
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    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @bebero:  yeah, I think it’s really important for people to remember that their own personal life situation is not the same for everyone. For me, even at 16, getting pregnant and carrying that baby to term (giving it up for adoption most likely, to a couple desperate for a child of their own) would have been no great hardship beyond the discomfort of pregnancy and the embarrassment of everyone knowing I’d gotten myself knocked up. I think a little discomfort and embarrassment is just the price I’d have to pay for having sex knowing what the consequences could be. Ending a life and another couple’s chance at happiness is unethical if my only goal is to avoid those things. But for plenty of other people, the price would be much higher, or the situation is completely different, or the baby wouldn’t be quite so hotly desired on the adoption market, etc. I could never assume that my own tradeoff applies to everyone! And not to mention, people do things I think are unethical all the time. It’s not illegal to leave shopping carts rolling around the middle of the parking lot but you won’t catch me doing that either 😛 

    @mamadingdong:  extreme circumstances = the usual rape, incest, danger to mother’s health, etc.

    Post # 118
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    2742 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    I do not believe in aborting babies unless:

     

    1, The mother’s life is at risk

     

    2. The child isnt viable.

     

    I had a combo of the two and it was the most horrible experience of my life for many reasons. 1 I couldnt carry my own child, 2 I couldnt make normal babies, 3 I had no option but terminate which was against my moral fiber. I had pill not surgical and actually started to misscarry prior to the start of the drugs so it became a controlled misscarraige and the most emotionally horrible experience ever. It was worse than my divorce, and the loss of my grandmother who was my second mother. I would never have made that decision in other circumstances but I couldnt leave my then toddler without a mother with possibly a sibling that would have been cognitively and physically disabled if it survived after killing me. I’ve been much more careful since then since I am not reccomended for further pregnancies. The possibility of this scenario being a likely outcome for me in the future is one of the main reasons we will most likely not persue having children together. It is too emotionally distressing for me to handle and hubs feels its selfish to put me through that since its not something I think I could emotionally handle again.

    Edited to add: This is how I personally feel. I do however feel that women have the right to make their own moral decisions and I can not make those decisions for them. I however just dont agree with the practice unless it meets one of the above situations. Morals and values are personal it is not my right to judge or tell others what to believe/do.

    Post # 119
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    1210 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have never had an abortion and I never will. I believe that life starts at conception. However, I would never tell another woman what to do, as I feel the decision to have an abortion is never an easy one and everyone has their own story behind it.

     

    The one thing I do find rather contradictory is this law. It allows the government to prosecute people for the injury/death of a fetus when a pregnant woman is assaulted or murdered. It specifically bans prosecutions for abortions under this law. 

    Post # 121
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    2959 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yes I had one and I never lost a moment of sleep over it. And yes, I am and always will be Pro-Choice. I have marched for women’s rights many times and will no doubt do so again.

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