I’m teh queen of first dates – so many times they were awkward or just not good, no reason to go for round two. Before I met my now husband, I had a string of awful dates. So bad that I actually put off hanging out with now husband b/c I was debating quitting dating for a while. One guy met up with me at a bar near my old house. It’s a place i used to go regularly – great beer list, fantastic burgers (any can be made with their house made black bean burger). We order a drink, and things are awkward but nice enough that we order food. And then it started. First, he reached across the table to grab my hand, spilled his water and beer. Then he was rude the waiter (A HUGE NO NO in my book). After he had just been a jerk to the waiter, and I apologized for his behavior, he looks at me and goes “You know, you have soft eyes”. then licks his lips. I was pretty over it at that point, but he continued to go on and tell me about his parents divorce, watching his dad hit his mom,e tc.
Another guy actually brought his mom!! A first date! I walk in to the restaurant and he’s there with this lady who then introduces herself. I felt like she was interviewing me. At the end, we go dutch, and mom goes “Well I will go wait in the car so you guys can kiss”. NO.
Another guy was great. First date is going well, we have a ton to talk about. We both work in the health field, and he’s super intelligent. We went for a second date. And then it all went downhill. He told me about his 3 kids, all by different women – I’m not judging that per se. My issue was that the oldest was 22, so I wasn’t that much older (then middle school age, and youngest was a year old). He had mentioned before that he attended med school, but since he’s not a dr I figured he’d dropped out, done his PhD in something else. Well, he did his PhD in something else, but he had finished med school. He had a raging pill addiction and got caught writing px to himself and went to jail. Then he relapsed recently so he’s on some medication to make sure he doesn’t slip up again, buthe sometimes will go through people’s purses, medicine cabinets, etc to find stuff. I tried to not judge addiction (hey, I wrote a thesis on women and addiction) but he was so weird about it. Then he literally grabbed my boob when we were standing there talking. He just reached out and cupped a feel. we werent kissing. When Iwas like, “whoa there, slow down buddy” he was like, “Did you stop me b/c of my addiction?” he kept texting me after that to go out again,a nd when I’d say I thought we were better as friends and further, i’m rather busy it was always “is this b/c of my addiction?? I thought you of all people wouldn’t judge me for that!”
Last one I can think of is a dude who HATED dogs. HATED. Now, I have 2 dogs and i may love them a bit much, but we met on a dating website and I mentioned my dogs there. So on the date he keeps going on about how he just hates dogs, not even dislikes (and it’s not for allergies). I kind of laughed adn said, well I love dogs and i think you’re missing out b/c my 2 are awesome. He asked me if I’d consider getting rid of them. I said, no they’re family and I love them. he said, “Well when we move in together, you’ll have to get rid of them or I will just walk aroudn kicking them”