(Closed) Spinoff: How are you personalising your ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had readings that either made us laugh or meant a lot to us and a pop-up ukulele sing-along to “Bring Me Sunshine”:

My mum reading from “Captain Corelli’s Mandolin” by Louis de Bernieres:

The pop-up ukulele sing-along:

We also wrote our own vows and much of our ceremony (and chose music that meant things to us even if it wasn’t “traditional”).

Post # 4
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just wrote out our ceremony.  We are having a secular ceremony and i didn’t want any mention of god or anything related in it or of children etc because we aren’t having any, so i had to basically re-word the whole thing etc.  I borrowed some nice paragraphs off the internet and then i added a really cute Calvin and Hobbs reading. 

Calvin: What’s it like to fall in love?

Hobbes: Well… say the object of your affection walks by…

Calvin: Yeah?

Hobbes:  First, your heart falls into your stomach and splashes your innards. All the moisture makes you sweat profusely. This condensation shorts the circuits to your brain and you get all woozy. When your brain burns out altogether, your mouth disengages and you babble like a cretin until she leaves.

Calvin: THAT’S LOVE?!?

Hobbes:  Medically speaking.

Calvin: Heck, that happened to me once, but I figured it was cooties!


We are also adding in a rock, paper, scissors to see who gets to say their vows first! 

Post # 5
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

*bump* i want to hear more!

Post # 6
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Adams_bee:  Yep! We are assembling a unity cross to give it a distinctly Christian center even though we’re getting married on a yacht & have a nautical theme hehe


I can’t wait!

Post # 7
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ours vows definitely made it special. πŸ™‚ We wrote our own, and I cired like a baby through mine. Some people didn’t even hear them I was sniffling so much, which was fine – only he needed to hear them. πŸ™‚

We also did what we’re calling the “anniversary letter box.” I got the idea from another bee. We wrote a letter to one another to read on our 1 year anniversary. On that day, we’ll write another letter to read on our 2 year anniversary, and so on and so forth, and we’ll keep all the letters in there to re-read each year. πŸ™‚ I think it’s sweet. Lots of people liked it too.

Post # 8
1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

this is our first reading:

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong.

Why is this?

Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. It isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems – the ones that make you truly who you are – that you’re ready to find a life-long mate.

Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person – someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have”

We are doing the Tying of the lovers knot ceremony:

(officiant asks the mothers for the cords.)
“May we now have the cords.”

(grooms’s mother stands and hands him a cord. She returns to her seat.)
(bride’s mother stands and hands her a cord. She returns to her seat.)
(officiant prompts the tying of the knot.)
“Groom and Bride, these two lengths of cord represent your separate families and individual lives before today. I ask that you each take one piece, and that together you bind them in a true lovers’ knot. Tying this knot signifies that your two families and your two lives are now and forever bound together as one.
(Groom and Bride tie the knot!)
(Officiant summons knot bearer to retrieve the knot.)
(Knot bearer comes up and Groom and Bride place knot in box.)
(Knot bearer closes box and returns to his seat.)


And writing our own vows πŸ™‚

Post # 9
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We decided to do a sand ceremony (live in Florida, have a beach wedding, super cutting edge I know, haha).  We are going to use this super cool hourglass company and use sand from our wedding venue!! So excited!!!

Here is a picture of what the hourglass will look like.  

Post # 10
106 posts
Blushing bee

We did a handfasting ceremony.  Here is the reading,and also see pics below.

Jillian, take Ramon’s hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you:
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love,
that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life. 
Now Ramon, please take Jillian’s hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you:
These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young, and carefree,
that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life. 
Now, please join hands so that they may be fasted in the ways of old.  Your hands will form the eternity symbol, visually demonstrating that your love will always be present and will run between the two of you throughout the years.
Remember then as your hands are fasted, these are not the ties that bind, but are rather cords that signify the uniting of two lives into one.
Your marriage also signifies the joining of two families.  I ask that Jillian’s mother & Ramon’s mother come to tie the fabric around Jillian’s and Ramon’s joined hands.
[Cords are held aloft]
The love already shared by your hearts
Has been strengthened by the vows you have taken
You will be bound by your love as you are bound by your clasped hands from now until the end of your days
[As the following is recited, hands are wrapped]
These are the hands that will love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as you build your future together.
These are the hands that will hold you whenever illness, fear, or grief may find you. 
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you support and encourage you to chase your dreams. Together, everything you wish for can be realized.
These are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours.
[Binding is finished and cords are knotted]
Bless these hands that you see before you this day.
May they always reach out with love, gentleness, and respect.
May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime.
May they always be held by one another. 
If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding,
your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide.
Now, you may remove the cords,
but remember the knot as a lasting symbol of your binding and commitment
[Cords are removed and stowed]

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