(Closed) SPINOFF: How do you feel about bachelor parties? POLL

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How do you feel about your FI having a traditional bachelor party?
    It's tradition! : (53 votes)
    37 %
    I don't like it, but I'm dealing with it : (24 votes)
    17 %
    I'm totally against it : (25 votes)
    17 %
    We're both against it : (41 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 2
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    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Not every bachelor party has to be filled with booze and strippers. My fiance took his best friend and the groomsmen to a shooting range about an hour from our home town where he could shoot rifles. They were all in ROTC together, so it was a good time for them. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    1919 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    sunfl0wergirl:  juliaGG: but this is not the traditional party. I agree that this type of NON-traditional party is great. 

    However, the “last night of freedom” crap is not.

    Post # 6
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    1338 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    juliaGG:  I feel nothing about bachelor parties.  It’s similar to a common catch phrase on gay marriage: “Don’t like gay marriage?  Don’t have one.”  But instead: “Don’t like bachelor parties?  Don’t go to them”.

    Traditional bachelor parties are not my cup of tea, I would not enjoy being at one, but I don’t have to go to them so I don’t give two shits about them.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted its tradition but thats not really why I’m ok with it. I want my Darling Husband to have fun and make whatever decisions he wants in his life, just as I want to make my own decisions as well. If I said he couldn’t have a bach party or go to a strip club, then he could reply with not wanting me to do something he doesn’t like. I wouldn’t be ok with that that. That is just me and how I want my relationship to be. I know a lot of bees feel very differently about it and are ok with making those kinds of compromises. Thats great since it works for them. 

    I don’t understand the hatred of strip clubs. There are many types of women who strip, and I think supporting their choice by saying “hey if you feel comfortable with doing that, good for you” is what feminism should be about. We have all of these choices in life now, and by not judging a woman who makes a different choice then I would, whether its stripping, breastfeeding, clothes they wear, or staying at home, we get closer to accepting those differences. 

    Sure there are strippers that are addicted to drugs, have Save-The-Date Cards, hoping to prostitute themselves to make more money. There are non strippers who do all of that as well. And, I think having compassion towards all those people goes a lot farther than just hating them. You don’t know what happened in a persons life that led to where they are today. I think its inately human to judge someone, to feel like you have made a better choices in life, almost a knee jerk response but having the realization that the person you are judging could have been EXACTLY where you are, not that long ago, it important. Bad things happen to good people everyday, and everyone is just trying their best to make it through. 

    If you don’t feel like you trust your SO in a situation about the above mentioned strippers, do you trust him to go out to a bar any given night? He could come across a woman there wanting the same things. Sure its a littel different but the temptation is everywhere. 

    The other side of the spectrum are women who use thier bodies to make money, lots of it. They have the confidence, self esteem, and poise to get out there every night in front of strangers. I respect that as I get nervous around strangers when I have my clothes on!! There is also the athleticism that comes with their dancing. Its amazing.  Not easy to do all of that while wearing heels either. 

    I know from other threads a lot of bees just hate strippers and everyone is onbviously entitled to their own opinion. I am sure my opinion will be in the minority on this thread, which is why I am motivated to share it. I only hope my perspective will make some bees think a little differently on this subject. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    42 posts
    Newbee

    Both my SO and I have discussed this and both firmly believe that ‘traditional’ bachelor/bachelorette parties are not for us. We think that the whole ‘last night of freedom’ concept is so incredibly off. If you’re engaged you’re not even ‘free’ to begin with…

    However, non-traditional things like going to a gun range, going to play pool/a regular bar, or something like that are totally cool! I personally love the idea of a bachelorette tea party!

     

    Post # 10
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    1338 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    juliaGG:  oh I know!  I didn’t think you were 🙂  That’s just literally how I feel about them.  I don’t want to be involved with them myself but if SO does I could not care less.  DH’s was in Vegas & I’m sure was quite raunchy.  I had no problem with it.  I was actually glad he was out of town for it so he didn’t come home drunk & stinky & annoying.   

    Post # 12
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    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    juliaGG:  I trust my Fiance and as much as I wouldn’t want boobs shoved in his face i know my brother will be taking him. I guess if it’s just a night out and he doesn’t care for clubs anyways. I’m not against it but if he didn’t go I wouldn’t be upset either.

    Post # 13
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    4029 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    juliaGG:  I think it is also stupid and tacky! I could go on and on and on but I’ll spare everyone my diatribe! 😉

    Post # 14
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    758 posts
    Busy bee

    Fiance and I don’t like traditional bachelor/bachelorette parties, but we’re both having non-traditional ones.

    I had an awesome day with my best friends (mani/pedis with macaroons, yummy dinner at a restaurant that has a smores dessert, and then a slumber party with wine and cheese, cupcakes, rom coms…I basically undid all of my wedding dieting in a day but it was sooo fun).

    Fiance is going to an ‘escape room’ then out to a nice dinner, and I’m sure they’ll do another few fun things! I think we’ll both have WAY more fun this way anyway.

    Post # 15
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    11461 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Because of our faith, my Darling Husband and I both are personally opposed to the the traditional bachelor party concept. His bachelor party consisted of going to a movie with his two youngest children (who were ‘tweens/young teens at the time). My bachelorette party consisted of my local Maid/Matron of Honor and local bridesmaid coming to my house, ordering take out, and talking about honeymoons and married life with me while I packed for my honeymoon.

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