(Closed) Spinoff, how do you tell him you are NOT in the mood?

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We usually have to have had a pretty bad fight for me to not be in the mood, and by then we are usually on opposite ends of the bed with our backs to each other, anyway, lol.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

“Stop touching meeeee.” Or some variant. πŸ™‚ Lol.

How often? Eh. It depends on a lot of factors. Hate to admit it, but the frequency of our sex life has gone down in the last little bit. We have been together for years, but I think it’s more related to stress. We are both so TIRED lately.

And Too Much Information I hate morning sex, and he loves it. I turn that down more often than any other time because it grosses me out. I just want to wake up, stretch, pee, and brush my teeth! Lol.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It doesn’t happen too often, but when it does it’s usually because I’m really tired.  I usually just fall asleep without saying much.  But he doesn’t say anything because it’s not that common of an occurance.  He’s the one that usually falls asleep first! haha

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@AmeliaBedelia OMG the morning sex thing is right on! I hate it and he loves it! I feel so gross in the morning! I always tell him its too bright outside to have sex haha.

Fiance and I have been together for years and we still manage to keep the flame alive lol. We went through a rough period where we were hardly ever having sex but I think stress and tiredness was the cause. We have since been getting it on more often πŸ™‚ Usually if I’m not in the mood I will just say “I wanna cuddle” lol. Then he knows that I wanna be close but not that close πŸ™‚ but other than that I really don’t ever say no, and he really loves it when I initiate it πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@AmeliaBedelia The one time Fiance and I ever had morning sex, he was EXTREMELY hungover and reeked of rum. That pretty much ruined it for me FOREVER.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose For me it’s more the…morning breath and grogginess. Mostly the morning breath. :/ Ew.

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose Hahah. Too bright. Cool “Hang on, lemme get my sunglasses and mouthwash.”

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose πŸ™‚ It’s true. I can’t get past the morning breath. Just can’t. Then again, bad breath is one of my major pet peeves so this isn’t surprising.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose yeah, morning breath is disgusting. Morning breath and rum REALLY don’t mix, either. lol.

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose It was pretty revolting, lol.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@AmeliaBedelia

stop touching me lol! That made me laugh So hard! I fall asleep. That’s how he knows:)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ok I know this is bad but sometimes if he is in the mood and I am just NOT feeling it, I’ll be like “honey, you have to give me a massage if we’re gonna have sex, I’m too tied up in knots!” Then he will proceed to give me a massage and I will usually fall asleep haha. I bet about 1 out of 5 times this happens we will actually have sex. I am surprised he has caught on yet!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I try not to ever say no to him, but the couple times I did, I had a headache, or I was busy with the kids.  Pretty much, if one of us wants it, we do it.  Even if I’m not that into it when we start, I always get into it pretty quickly. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t do mornings either!

 

Hubs and I work different shifts, so in essence we only see each other weekends and on my day off, Thursday. So, I don’t say no as by the time we are together I am up for it! lol.

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