(Closed) SPINOFF: How does your SO react when someone flirts with you?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What is your SO's typical reaction when someone flirts with you?
    SO doesn't seem to notice/care. : (15 votes)
    12 %
    SO finds it amusing. : (30 votes)
    25 %
    SO gets a little jealous. : (22 votes)
    18 %
    SO gets jealous. : (7 votes)
    6 %
    SO gets really jealous. : (11 votes)
    9 %
    SO gets bitchy/mad at me if someone flirts with me. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    SO is scary when someone flirts with me! He'll say something to the guy and may fight over it. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    SO feels proud when someone flirts with me because he knows he has a hott woman! : (24 votes)
    20 %
    Other... : (7 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted that he gets mad at me, but really he gets mad and annoyed at the situation.  He’s annoyed with me because usually I am friendly back, and he gets annoyed at whoever the guy or girl is because, like, hello — he’s right there, AND I have a ring on my finger!  Mostly I think he doesn’t like when my attention is elsewhere, which I totally understand.

     

    Usually the reason he’s mad, though, is that I am with my best friend, who ALWAYS leaves her boyfriend behind to talk to other (weird, older) guys.  So I go to try to get her back…but I enjoy HER company so we end up staying.  He’s her older brother, so yeah.  

    Post # 4
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    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @hidingmyface:  Mr. 99 thinks it’s pretty funny, we’re both terrible flirts so it’s like a sport for us!  I know who I’m going home with, so does he, everything else is games and hair tossing!

    Post # 6
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    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @hidingmyface:  The problem is that if a women isn’t friendly, it’s totally okay for the guy to call her a bitch.  Whereas if a guy isn’t friendly, it’s, like, not a big deal.

    I hate double standards.

    Post # 7
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    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    surely he would only get jealous if I flirted back? I am SO bad at seeing when men look at me I would honestly think nobody ever did if it wasn’t for others pointing it out.

    He thinks it’s a compliment and usually just laughs at my naivety.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    He finds it amusing/ is proud cause he has what others want! I feel the same about women flirting with him.

    Post # 9
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    He dosn’t seem to care and will sometimes just laugh. I am sure if someone was being really disrespectful he would step up, but we have never been in that situation.

    Post # 10
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m more of a flirt than he is. Depending on his mood he’ll either sulk a bit, or one-up the other guy with an ultra witty comment that will make me laugh and kiss him and forget about flirting with anyone else ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 11
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    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My SO is tall, handsome, and aware of both.  He is very confident and definitely the strong and silent type, nothing works him up.  I dont think he feels threatened at all by other men who may be trying to flirt…but he is also quite imposing looking and most don’t look my way more than once, much less try to talk to me ๐Ÿ˜‰

     

    I can only think of two situations in two years when a guy has tried to flirt or holler at me with my Boyfriend or Best Friend present, and both ended pretty comically:

    1. We were in the parking lot of a grocery store. We were loading our things into our car and my boyfriend was around the side of the Jeep out of sight. A guy cruising down the aisle slowed to a stop a few feet from me and shouted “Hey, sexy!”, thinking I was by myself. My Boyfriend or Best Friend immediately emerged from the side of the car, said “I’d shut up, mother f*cker” and in 2 strides was nearly to the window of the guys vehicle.  He immediately floored it down the aisle.

     

    2. There was a soapbox race held in town and we were on the patio of a bar watching the event.  I was at the bar ordering drinks for us when this guy, maybe 5’5″ (I think I was taller) approached me.  He was muscle-y, spray tanned with a faux-hawk and was wearing a tank top I’m pretty sure was meant for someone MY size. He immediately started trying to make small talk while we waited, and I responded without eye contact and with “yes” and “no” answers.  I got our drinks and began to walk away, and he kept pace with me, still trying to chat.  I stopped about 5 feet from where my Boyfriend or Best Friend and friends were standing and said to the guy “well, it was very nice chatting with you. Enjoy the race!” and as I turned away from him he kind of caught my elbow and said “but wait, I didnt get your name.”  My boyfriend had been quietly watching the entire exchange and chimed in “BRO: can you NOT tell she doesnt want to talk to you?  Walk away NOW.” This kid, instead of taking off, started panicking: “oh man, I”m so sorry, is this YOUR girlfriend? Oh god, I’m so sorry, I didnt know!”

     

    Those had been my only experiences dealing with men flirting with me in front of my SO and, to be honest, I found them so entertaining I’m kind of looking forward to the next time ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 12
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    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @hidingmyface:  My Fiance will say something, 100 percent. I couldn’t vote though becasue I don’t find it scary when he defends me.

    Post # 13
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    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @BoxerLady:  LOL the two times my Boyfriend or Best Friend *has* defended me, I found it hilarious, not scary ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 14
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    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @badabing88:  Me too. Boys will be boys. I’m dating a big, strong man. He’s not going to sit around and watch when he *thinks* I need someone to defend me. It doesn’t bother me at all. He’s definitely done the things your SO has, and worse! lol

    Post # 15
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    2130 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    My SO thinks it’s funny. He swears everytime we go out girls are hitting on me. I tell him he’s crazy! Over the weekend a guy asked me out for drinks when I told SO he laughed because the details of the story were hilarious…

    Post # 16
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    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My dh is funny about this…we are both funny people and I’m good with a crowd and especially his guy friends, they all think I’m funny & cool but dh gets a little jealous when they are paying attention to me and laughing at my jokes. It’s not that he’s jealous that they like me, he’s jealous that he’s not the center of attention if that makes sense.

    We were at a show recently with one of the bands whose records he puts out and he’s been friends with the singer for over a decade. Dh gave me several “looks” during the course of the night. He is pretty reserved around the bands but I’m just me. Anyway, the next day, his friend the singer sent him a text that said “dlbaqua is rad…we’re facebook friends now”.

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